Quote from: christinej78 on June 04, 2018, 06:08:21 PM
Hi Kathy, Danielle, 04 June 2018
The following is not a criticism, it's a question that has been bugging me since I began my transition.
I see and hear many people in our community refer to ourselves as "Transwoman," "Transwomen." When do we, if ever, become just a Woman or just Women? As an example: "As a trans-woman it was a wonderful experience...."
Danielle, here is a direct quote from something you posted a while back, which I heartily agree with:
"It is my own experience that very few people have a negative reaction about my past as long as I dress and act responsibly and don't shove my trans-woman status in their face and make an issue out it. Live and let live seems to be the rule here."
Are we not our own worst enemies by perpetuating our trans status and not referring to ourselves as who we really are? Is not continually referring to us as "Trans" not shoving it in societies face and or making an issue of it?
Sincerely with Love,
Christine
PS:
My Dogs now refer to me as Mom, not Transmom. Withholding food and treats works wonders; the way to a Dog's heart is through its stomach.
What's the first thing that bonds us to our Mum's; boob nectar.
@christinej78 ... You are correct in theory perhaps for those outside of the transgender and transsexual community, but here where a lot of MTF's gather, to avoid confusion, we are indeed trans-women and we will never be cis-women.
Here on the Forums because for many of us being a female is a brand new experience along with all the other related experiences that we were never a part of as our old male self we tend differentiate our life status.
The example that
@KathyLauren and I raised was the fact that we were invited to a baby shower and we were treated just like any of the women there. That was indeed a glorious, new, and self-affirming experience for us.
Just like I did when I moved here as a female to start my female run business, I obviously did not make a point of announcing myself upon arrival as a transgender or transsexual women... particularly so in my very small conservative town. I am most likely the only trans-woman that these townspeople have ever seen or met. It was incumbent on me to make certain that when I did come out to the town that I had previously made a good impression as a good citizen.
Going back a couple months on my thread "The Hunted Prey" you will discover that I lived in my small town for over a year and a half before anyone ever knew that I was not born as a female. I was very concerned how this small town would accept me and also concerned about the new friends and business clients that I had made.
There came a time that I had to come out, and that I wanted to come out for various reasons including dating and being tired of harboring my secret. I wanted to be the one to announce it and not be the subject of possibly rude and demeaning small town gossip. Since I came out to the town I have experienced overwhelming acceptance from almost everyone here.
I can't speak for
@KathyLauren but this is how I feel about the issue that you brought up.
Any questions or comments, please contact me...
Hugs,
Danielle