On the weekend, I attended a wedding, my first ever as Kathy. I wasn't expecting any issues, since the brides were two trans ladies. There were several other trans women in attendance, as well as a heart-warming number of cis relatives and friends. Both brides were walked down the aisle by their brothers.
Planning for this event was a great opportunity to buy myself a nice dress. I have finally figured out what I need for a dress to look decent on me. Aside from just fitting, it needs to have a well-defined waist and a flared skirt. Together, those features draw attention away from my wide shoulders, not to mention the "third boob" (belly)! This dress had those features, in a lovely drapey fabric and a gorgeous colour. Being second-hand, it cost me all of $38.
I got some silver flats at Payless. It is nice of them to carry larger sizes, but I wish they had half-sizes. Size 11 was too big to walk in, but size 10 pinches. Oh well, they looked good. I wore sneakers for the 2.5 hour drive.
I completed the look with a strand of my mother's pearls, looped three times around, and a pair of beaded earrings. For a purse, I had a small black knitted shoulder bag that looks quite dressy.
And I got my dressier wig trimmed by a good hair stylist. I liked the style, bit it just had too much hair. She did a good job of thinning it out without messing with the length or style.
Some advice for ladies who wear wigs... Get them trimmed by a good hairstylist! Wigs are made with too much hair, just so that you can get them trimmed to suit your face. If you don't get them trimmed, they will always have too much hair. That is one of the "tells" that attracts unwanted attention from those who don't like us. Make sure the stylist is good, though, since mistakes won't grow back.
