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Kathy's journey

Started by KathyLauren, December 05, 2017, 05:19:10 PM

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HappyMoni

Oh yes, don't ya know, you should visit. We actually have stars in our skies here too. As Laurie Dyslexicon stated so eloquently, you have a virtual 'murderer's row' of trans folks to visit. We could call it your TransAmerica tour.

I love the new hottie avatar picture. Oh, I remember the ordeal with your name situation. Glad that is working out. For a while I thought Laurie might be in charge of your name/gender paperwork. Oh Gosh, can you imagine! You would probably be named  something even Hollywood couldn't make up, like Katness or something. Happy Birthday!
Moni
If I ever offend you, let me know. It's not what I am about.
"Never let the dark kill your light!"  (SailorMars)

HRT June 11, 2015. (new birthday) - FFS in late June 2016. (Dr. _____=Ugh!) - Full time June 18, 2016 (Yeah! finally) - GCS June 27, 2017. (McGinn=Yeah!) - Under Eye repair from FFS 8/17/17 - Nose surgery-November 20, 2017 (Dr. Papel=Yeah) - Hair Transplant on June 21, 2018 (Dr. Cooley-yeah) - Breast Augmentation on July 10, 2018 (Dr. Basner in Baltimore) - Removed bad scarring from FFS surgery near ears and hairline in August, 2018 (Dr. Papel) -Sept. 2018, starting a skin regiment on face with Retin A  April 2019 -repairing neck scar from FFS

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LizK

Quote from: KathyLauren on September 21, 2018, 03:03:05 PM
Thanks, Stephanie.  I don't advertise it much, so I wouldn't expect you to know it.

I celebrated with a new driver's license.  Just for giggles, here are my DL photos from 2013, 2017 and 2018.  The wig in the 2017 photo is the same one as in my current avatar.  The avatar version is after being trimmed and styled: big improvement.


I also celebrated with lunch out with my wife, and a new pair of earrings.  (Pics or it didn't happen: I'll post pics soon. :) )

And I got a nice present from the government: I'll be able to get my official "F" in January, instead of waiting for the Brits to change my birth certificate.

The smile in the last picture says it all.....your eyes are smiling, the whole you is smiling.

Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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Jessica

Quote from: KathyLauren on September 21, 2018, 03:03:05 PM
Thanks, Stephanie.  I don't advertise it much, so I wouldn't expect you to know it.

I celebrated with a new driver's license.  Just for giggles, here are my DL photos from 2013, 2017 and 2018.  The wig in the 2017 photo is the same one as in my current avatar.  The avatar version is after being trimmed and styled: big improvement.


I also celebrated with lunch out with my wife, and a new pair of earrings.  (Pics or it didn't happen: I'll post pics soon. :) )

And I got a nice present from the government: I'll be able to get my official "F" in January, instead of waiting for the Brits to change my birth certificate.

Wow Kathy 🌸 what a change in only 5 years.  You look beautiful now! 
Happy belated birthday!

Hugs and smiles from a California girl

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere."


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KathyLauren

Thanks, ladies, for your comments on my driver's license pictures.  I appreciate that you all made allowances for their being taken with the mugshot camera!   ;)

Here's something from the "That Was Weird" department:

I got a message on Facebook from some random woman in Alberta, asking if I was a speaker at a recent ladies' retreat at Camp S_____.  I messaged back that she must have gotten the wrong person.  But it turns out that there was a Kathy Walker, who is a Christian minister, speaking at Camp S_____, last week.  The camp appears to be a bible camp, and I don't think that the denomination it is associated with is trans-friendly.

So, the lady who messaged me probably didn't scroll down very far on my FB page, and judged me a candidate for the right Kathy based just on my name and picture.  Which means, I passed!  ;D
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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Faith

Quote from: KathyLauren on September 24, 2018, 02:15:39 PM
.....  Which means, I passed!  ;D

Was there a question of that somewhere that I missed?
I left the door open, only a few came through. such is my life.

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KathyLauren

Quote from: Faith on September 24, 2018, 02:30:36 PM
Was there a question of that somewhere that I missed?
Well, I am still having a little trouble accepting it.  But occurrances like this are wearing my resistance down. :)
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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steph2.0

Quote from: KathyLauren on September 24, 2018, 02:33:36 PM
Well, I am still having a little trouble accepting it.  But occurrances like this are wearing my resistance down. :)

It's amazing how much evidence we need before we'll actually believe we're doing well. I'm reminded of an incident almost a full year ago when I was in a women's restroom waiting for a stall. One of the ladies commented that the lock didn't work on her stall door. The lady right next to me told her, "don't worry about it. It's not like there are any men in here."

I know I'm doing a lot better now than I was then. And yet it's still hard for me to fully believe in myself. When will I ever learn?

You are doing great, Kathy. Believe it, hon!

Stephanie


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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JudiBlueEyes

Quote from: Steph2.0 on September 24, 2018, 02:47:49 PM
It's amazing how much evidence we need before we'll actually believe we're doing well...

You are doing great, Kathy. Believe it, hon!

Stephanie

Yes certainly do believe it.  Look at that face!  At this point I don't know how much further evidence you need.   You look good in causal clothing and smashing when all dressed to the Nine!
Judi
But now old friends they're acting strange
They shake their heads, they say I've changed
Well something's lost, but something's gained
In living every day.
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LizK

Quote from: KathyLauren on September 24, 2018, 02:33:36 PM
Well, I am still having a little trouble accepting it.  But occurrances like this are wearing my resistance down. :)

It will take time but until you can see it, you can trust that the rest of can see what this woman saw. It takes me ages to see the changes as well in myself but this out of the blue affirmation is one of those unexpected pleasures. Nice  :)

Take care
Liz
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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Anne Blake

Quote from: KathyLauren on September 24, 2018, 02:33:36 PM
Well, I am still having a little trouble accepting it.  But occurrances like this are wearing my resistance down. :)

Both Deb and I tried to tell you but I don't think that you were listening

Tia Anne
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KathyLauren

Quote from: KathyLauren on September 11, 2018, 02:09:03 PM
I don't usually have call to post in this thread, but today I found out that, after a year of waiting to see a shrink, it will be at least another year before I will get an appointment date.  It is for my second referral letter for GRS.

On the one hand, I have been waiting for this for 63 years, so what's another couple of years?  But I am not getting any younger, and each year that passes brings the grim reaper a year closer. 

I want this transition to be over.  Wa-a-a-a-ahhhh!!! [/tantrum]
A couple of weeks ago, I made the above post in the 'Unhappy' thread.  Well, surprise, I got a call out of the blue from the psychiatrist's office: they had a cancellation on Tuesday, did I want the appointment?  Duh!  I'll have to reschedule an electrolysis session, and my wife, unfortunately, will have to make alternative transportation arrangements for an appointment of hers.  But, heck, yes, I want it!

I guess that being the squeaky wheel makes a difference.  I am sure they pulled up my name to fill the cancellation because I called two weeks ago.

(Good thing I'm getting the muffler fixed on the car on Monday.  It would have been a loud seven-hour drive otherwise!)
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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steph2.0

Quote from: KathyLauren on September 28, 2018, 07:29:05 AM
A couple of weeks ago, I made the above post in the 'Unhappy' thread.  Well, surprise, I got a call out of the blue from the psychiatrist's office: they had a cancellation on Tuesday, did I want the appointment?  Duh!  I'll have to reschedule an electrolysis session, and my wife, unfortunately, will have to make alternative transportation arrangements for an appointment of hers.  But, heck, yes, I want it!

I guess that being the squeaky wheel makes a difference.  I am sure they pulled up my name to fill the cancellation because I called two weeks ago.

(Good thing I'm getting the muffler fixed on the car on Monday.  It would have been a loud seven-hour drive otherwise!)

I'm so happy to hear that, Kathy. None of this happens fast enough for any of us, and the thought of a two-year wait for just a consultation is excruciating. Congratulations for getting in earlier!

Wow, a seven hour drive? I guess I should stop complaining about my 1:25 drive for weekly HNT!

Stephanie


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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KathyLauren

Quote from: Steph2.0 on September 28, 2018, 07:34:23 AM
Wow, a seven hour drive? I guess I should stop complaining about my 1:25 drive for weekly HNT!
Well, seven total.  Three and a half each way.  It's a lot of driving for a one-hour appointment, but I'm not complaining.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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Faith

YAY! .. I hope you letter .. get lettered .. get your letter.
I left the door open, only a few came through. such is my life.

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KathyLauren

I'm getting it!!  I posted this in the Happy thread:

Quote from: KathyLauren on October 02, 2018, 02:10:15 PM
Seems like I spent all day driving, but half an hour of that day and the reason for the drive was an appointment with a psychiatrist to get my second surgery letter.  Woo-hoo!  I'm getting it!  No further appointments necessary, it will be in the mail as soon as she can dictate it and get it typed up.

SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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Faith

YAY!!!!!!  I'll post here, again ... YAY!!!!!!!!
I left the door open, only a few came through. such is my life.

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steph2.0

Happy happy happy happy happy!!!

The forums have been such a happy place lately!!!

Stephanie


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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steph2.0

Quote from: Faith on September 28, 2018, 09:47:31 AM
YAY! .. I hope you letter .. get lettered .. get your letter.

Letter rip!


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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steph2.0

Wait, I just realized what I read:


No further appointments necessary, it will be in the mail as soon as she can dictate it and get it typed up.


I can't help but picture your doctor leaning back with her feet on the desk, saying, "Now read that back, Miss Hathaway... Good! Now get it down to the typing pool and see they get it sent to Ms. Kathy ASAP! And get me a light for my cigar!"


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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JudiBlueEyes

Congratulations on checking off another milestone on the journey!  Wonderful news!
Judi
But now old friends they're acting strange
They shake their heads, they say I've changed
Well something's lost, but something's gained
In living every day.
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