Kathy's journey

[Donica]

Kathy! I hope you are locking your door when you leave your hoes. Those two hussies. How dare they commit such a horrific act.

Donica.

[KathyLauren]

Yes, @Steph2.0 and @Donica, home invasion cleanings are a major problem here.  When confronting illegal cleaners, the RCMP recommend saying a polite "Thank you".

[steph2.0]

My God, what's next? Drive-by compliments??!

[LizK]

Thanks, Karen. 

Yes, I can't wait to hear about my letter, too.  (*fingers drumming*)  It wasn't in the mailbox yesterday.  Hopefully Monday.  I have an appointment with my HRT doc on Tuesday, originally scheduled to discuss alternative sources for my second letter when it looked like a long wait for it.  If I have it in my hands on Tuesday, then we can talk about moving forward with my application for GRS.

My wife is amazing.    My coming out to her was a total surprise: she didn't see it coming.  Yet, within the first minute, literally, she said, "Whatever you decide to do, I will support you."  She takes the "for better or for worse" part of our marriage vows literally.  In her view, she did sign up for this, even though she didn't expect it.

She was a little weirded out by becoming a "lesbian" through no choice of her own.  I don't think she identifies as lesbian herself, though she totally owns that we are a same-sex couple.  She has fun with it, and we often hold hands when out and about.  She gets as much of a kick out of the two of us being addressed as "ladies" as I do.

Surprisingly, we don't talk a lot about this stuff.  So I can't really tell you how it has been for her.  I know that she has gotten good support from her email friends, as well as from attending the "+1" meetings of the support group.

She has stood by her word and supported me every step of this journey.

Hugs.
Kathy

I know this is probably old but I have just managed to catch up on your thread and what you have been up too,

Congratulations on your anniversary...I read with interest where you describe your wife's reaction to you coming out and her unwavering commitment to your vows...mine grinned at me and said "Don't think you get out of this marriage that easily.." which for us was the perfect response. having someone like your wife as your biggest supporter goes a long way to help when times get hard during this tumultuous journey.

My wife was kind of amused by the whole "lesbian" thing as she doesn't see herself as anything but straight however the rest of society tend to want to place our wives in the lesbian category...which when you think about it is totally absurd to what we know about homosexuality....because you transitioned your wife is now gay? kind of weird one really isn't it.

Support for our partners is paramount if our relationships are to survive...I hope the letter turns up and is exactly what you need. The woman who wrote the 3 page report for me had to add a line to it after submitting it to my surgeon. The only thing it was missing was the most important part..."I am satisfied that (insert name)has met the WPATH stands"...when I spoke to the surgeons office they basically said as long as this line is in the letter then it covers everything. I hope getting the second won is easy for you...

Take care

Liz

[KathyLauren]

Three weeks ago tomorrow, I went to the psychiatrist for the interview that would get me my second surgery letter.  She said it would take a couple of weeks.  It seems you have to be a squeaky wheel with this one, so today, I called to ask where my letter is.

The secretary said it hadn't crossed her desk, so she'd check for me.  The result: apparently, the letter is "a work in progress".  My wife's assessment is that that means the shrink hasn't started writing it yet.

And now, there is a postal strike.

Aaaaargh!!!

[Rayna]

I'm so sorry for the delay, Kathy! And from my understanding, nobody really cares what's in the letter except that one magic phrase. The psychiatrist should just knock out your letter and be done with it. Sometimes people take themselves too seriously. I hope it comes soon. Maybe you can pay for FedEx?

[Jayne01]

Sorry you are still being kept waiting Kathy. Keep that wheel squeaking and make as much noice as necessary to get what you need. I hope they start on this "work in progress" soon so that you can move onto the next stage.

Hugs,
Jayne

[LizK]

Three weeks ago tomorrow, I went to the psychiatrist for the interview that would get me my second surgery letter.  She said it would take a couple of weeks.  It seems you have to be a squeaky wheel with this one, so today, I called to ask where my letter is.

The secretary said it hadn't crossed her desk, so she'd check for me.  The result: apparently, the letter is "a work in progress".  My wife's assessment is that that means the shrink hasn't started writing it yet.

And now, there is a postal strike.

Aaaaargh!!!

Hi Kathy

I know how frustrating these holdups can be...Hopefully the shrink will get their act together and write the letter...if only they realised how much anxiety this all causes...hope its all sorted soon.

take care

Liz

[Donica]

That's the key. Keep squeaking ringing her phone Kathy. You'll get it soon. The SoCal court system is no different. You know ya gota be vigilant.

Hugs,
Donica.

[Northern Star Girl]

Three weeks ago tomorrow, I went to the psychiatrist for the interview that would get me my second surgery letter.  She said it would take a couple of weeks.  It seems you have to be a squeaky wheel with this one, so today, I called to ask where my letter is.

The secretary said it hadn't crossed her desk, so she'd check for me.  The result: apparently, the letter is "a work in progress".  My wife's assessment is that that means the shrink hasn't started writing it yet.

And now, there is a postal strike.

Aaaaargh!!!

@KathyLauren
Dear Kathy:
Waiting is not a fun thing to do.   The old adage that "Patience is a Virtue" is so easy to say but it is most difficult waiting for things that should have taken place sooner.

As @Donica implied.... the squeaky wheel gets the grease.  Be persitent and tenacious as you wait.
Arghhh is right... now a postal strike???

I will be eagerly awaiting your good new report, perhaps today?

Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle

[KathyLauren]

The old adage that "Patience is a Virtue" is so easy to say but it is most difficult waiting for things that should have taken place sooner.

Luckily for me, I learned "hurry up and wait" in the Air Force.  I am good at waiting; I just hate doing it!

Thanks for the well-wishes, @Alaskan Danielle , @LizK, @Donica, @Jayne01, @RandyL!

[Jayne01]

Luckily for me, I learned "hurry up and wait" in the Air Force.  I am good at waiting; I just hate doing it!

I have also learned that same skill when I am working with the Air Force here. Still waiting on my birth certificate. Looks like we are both "hurry up and waiting" together. Wish there was more hurry and less wait! [emoji2]

Hugs (while tapping foot and looking at watch),
Jayne

[KathyLauren]

I am feeling seriously bummed at the slow-motion calamity that is befalling my sisters and brothers in the U.S.  The parallels to the 1930s are too clear.  I am thankful that I am north of the border and safe for now.  But how long before Trump annexes Canada and they come for me?  And if it takes another world war to stop him, what will life be like after?

Cis people I talk to about this think I am being alarmist.  I have learned to keep my mouth shut.  Online forums are filled with Nazis making excuses for him.  I have learned to keep my keyboard silent.  Keeping my mouth shut was what got me 60 years of dysphoria in the first place.

I don't want this post to provoke political discussion.  That is not what it is about.  This post is about the emotional cost of watching a train wreck and being powerless to stop it or help.  I should have chosen the name "Cassandra", because I see the future, but no one believes me.

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!!!!

[Donica]

All we can do Kathy is stay positive and fight back, and never give up.

Pray for us all.
Donica.

[christinej78]

Hi Kathy,                  27 October 2018

I'll post any comment I may have to my thread.

Best Always, Love
Christine

[KathyLauren]

I love it when coming out (on Facebook) to someone you haven't seen in nearly 40 years is this smooth...

Kathy:  Hi, D_____. Good to see you on here. We were contemporaries in A Flight, though you probably won't remember me under this name. I recall fetching a fuel cap for you from Fallon to Mountain Home.

D_____:  hi Kathy. Yeah that was a memorable weekend. One of many.

[LizK]

Best reaction ever....Controlling how and what information people get seems like a pretty wise move. Glad its working out so well for you.

Take care

Liz


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[KathyLauren]

It has been a busy week, but nothing trans-related, other than just living life as me.

The play that I have been working on at the community theatre opens tonight.  That made this week "hell week", with three rehearsals in addition to last night's dress rehearsal.  The play is heavy with special effects and sound-and-light cues.  I am the sound and light girl, plus I operate the revolving wall, so it keeps me busy.  There are so many sound cues that I had to split them into two files.

The dress rehearsal went well last night.  The actors were "on", the set looks amazing, the special effects (mostly) worked, and I got all most of my cues right.   We are looking forward to a good run.  It is a murder mystery, where the suspects are all actors in a Sherlock Holmes play.

The sump pump in our basement packed up in a rainstorm last week.  Not to worry: the water didn't come high enough to flood anything, but I was concerned.  Luckily, we had a spare, so today, I removed the old one and installed the replacement.  It works fine, just in time for the forecast heavy rain tomorrow.  When I tested the old pump after removing it, it ran fine, so it might have just had a stone jamming the impeller.  Since it runs, I'll keep it as the new spare.

[Donica]

That sounds exciting Kathy! Will we get to see the play? Break a leg sound and light girl!

Hugs,
Donica.

[KathyLauren]

Well, the play is on for a month, so there is time to fly up here and see it.  Make reservations, though, because some shows are already sold out. 

The promo photos from the dress rehearsal are not available yet, but here are photos of the set and the cast.  My wife is the woman on the right holding the long sword.