Are you comfortable around cis guys?

[AquaWhatever]

I think I was uncomfortable when I first transitioned but not anymore. One thing I know is that not all cis men are stereotypical alpha males waiting for an opportunity to physically or verbally assault anyone they deem weak or inferior. They are all individuals like anyone else. So it's not about cis men for me, it's about personality, values, interests, worldview, etc. As with anyone else if I have stuff in common I'm cool. If not it's not so much that I am uncomfortable I'm just not interested in being around them.

There are plenty of thoughtful and open minded cis guys out there. The conversations I've had with them about being trans and masculinity are some of the best I've had because they open up about their own struggles living up to an impossible standard.

I am heterosexual so with straight cis guys the commonality of liking the ladies can be a good equalizer also. Not sure how that is on the other side of the aisle.

When you are comfortable with yourself it shows and all people react to that positively. If you are unsure and insecure, well yea, it's gonna be tough interacting because it is being picked up on and in turn people may act different around you which is what you wanted to avoid in the first place. So it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. That's not to say I'm totally confident all of the time myself. I'm particularly insecure about the size of my hands and when shaking a cis guy's hand I am aware of the size difference though they don't notice at all.

I think that's what it is for me. I'm still in the beginning stages of T and most of my guy associates knew me as a "girl"
I always think when I start to really pass I will get comfortable with them.
The hand thing!
My God bro, I hyperventilate if I have to shake hands!
But so far nobody's said anything 

[widdershins]

I'm uncomfortable being alone with cis guys because they expect me to be misogynistic along with them. Yeah, I know, not all cis guys, but in my local area and socioeconomic level that's the norm. And while I'm not a woman, I've spent enough time pretending to be one that it's almost impossible for me to talk about them that way, you know?

I don't do well alone with groups of women either, though. That's a whole other set of social expectations I don't click with.

Everyone really does behave so much more pleasantly in mixed company.

[Shambles]

Im shy around new cis guys im fine after  awhile when ive got my male groove on, much better around cis gals, execpt if theres a reason for me to be jelous of them. Then i find it hard to speak to them, so boned either way..

I try to let more of me out to new people i meet

[BT04]

I am - I think I warm up to cis guys faster than cis gals, though there's always that nagging feeling that something offensive will come out of their mouth. But I'm a little guarded with everyone I don't really know anyways. Cis men make better roommates, in my experience at least lol.

Cis men and women don't really know what to do with me. To women, I'm tall, a little imposing, and very visibly don't give a damn about anything they are used to other AFABs caring about. No makeup, no pretty clothes, short-nailed working hands, a low voice, and I take up space. In all honestly I usually trip womens' threat alarms until they speak to me.

With men, I'm usually not a threat. They tend to be a little perplexed why I "get" them, why I move and sound like them more than anything else, and I can usually squeeze into the circle where the dudes are hanging out at the party and fit right in. Cis men have a hard time when I try to do "man" things though, like carry heavy stuff, or do things that require getting dirty/smelly/sweaty. Getting resistance in those situations is frustrating at best, dysphoric at worst. But, that's what being pre-everything and only out to a few people will do to you.

Cis women can be just as cruel about others as any cis man, though, so when it comes to talking crap about someone or some gender, I'm equal-opportunity uncomfortable with everyone~

[CodexUmbrae]

I'm in a kinda weird situation right know, like... I pass most of the times at the university, but I do think that most, if not all, of my classmates this semester did know that I'm transgender. I tried to be stealth though I'm pre-T, but anyway, most of my classmates just went with it even if my voice and my name aren't that masculine. Guess I was lucky.

I was always uncomfortable around anyone. When I was little, I never had a lot of friends. I had my "bestfriend" at school, she was a girl. But I used to hang out with two neighbors and play videogames with them or play-pretend to be animals, etc. xD They were both boys. When I moved to another town, I usually was with a group of girls, though I never felt... "in". I felt out of place most of the times and I usually just sat down and kept my mouth shut. I didn't understand their need to put on make up or buy dresses or anything. I even used to just stay away from anyone without saying anything.

Then, in highschool, I had one female friend again. An almost school-only friend, really. She used to talk and talk and I only listened to her. Though yeah, she wasn't that femine anyway so it was easier for me to stand. Though, I used to be more talkative with guys because I had something to talk about, usually computers and videogames. But I was never very social either way. Funny thing, but mostly uncomfortable, I had a lot of suitors in those three years. I totally I hated it. I'm gay, but I always hated to be treated as a girl and be courted as one.

I moved again when I finished highschool, and I presented as male since the begining at the university. As I mentioned above, I do think most of my classmates did know about me being transgender, but they were nice anyway. I used to hang out with a group of guys and they treated me like any other guy. I was uncomfortable sometimes because I'm not used to their... usual jokes, I guess, but I was never good with any type of jokes anyway. But it also depends on the person, so I may as well try to find some, more quieter and more alike, dudes.

Anyway. xD I always felt uncomfortable around everyone. But yeah, depending on the person, I usually feel more relaxed around guys, as I understand them way easier than females. I do think that one of the most uncomfortable situations is the "play soccer hang outs". I've been invited several times though I always refuse to go, since I'm really bad at playing soccer and it would make me feel really tense. But it also happens whenever I have to do something I don't know how to in public. But, well, I actually refuse to go to any social situation like parties, I never liked them.

I'll see if anything changes later on, when I start the medical transition and I'm actually out to, at least, my family.