Low drive and plumbing

[Bari Jo]

I should warn, I'm going to be graphic (very unladylike) but hope this might help others that question.  I've been reading others threads how they are still functional even after a year of hrt.  They even talk about still being able to penetrate.  Ever since I started this round of hrt I've had zero sex drive, and not just the want for sex, but no function at all, zero.  I started to think there was something wrong with me.  Does the plumbing even work?  Did I starve all those organs to death?   Well today I had a familiar itch, and while it's zero functional, I was able to reach the O using anal alone like I usually did, only now with a softie.  It seems weird to feel satisfied like I accomplished something, but that's how I feel.  I was so worried that I inadvertently killed my drive forever.  This is about 5 months in, and yes, haven't reached the O in 5 months. If course now, I want a man!  Did you girls have similar feelings on this?

Bari Jo

[Roll]

Accidentally killing sex drive forever has been a fear of mine starting HRT, but it has sounded like usually people just need to settle into a new rhythm and finding the right hormones level and that it hard to kill it for good which is a relief. I'm curious to hear more replies about this myself.

[Mikaela]

I found that reducing my AAs (with my endo's buy in", helped some, but mostly I had to change my expectations. Without the T, my body responds differently. It doesn't have the constant drive for sex like it's had all my life (quite a relief, really!) so it requires more time and effort to get "percolating". The orgasmic experience is also much different, with little or no discharge, and with the pleasure spread throughout the body in a much different, and very enjoyable, way. I can still perform with my wife, we just do things differently. It's more like a lesbian experience, but with a built in sex toy, if that makes any sense. Anyway, that's my experience so far, and I still have much to learn about sexuality in a changed body, but that's good news, right?


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