Are you dysphoric about your height?

[J2J]

6ft and I guess I could say I am... it's probably the main reason I put any ideas of progressing on the back burner so to speak

[AJ3721]

Yes! I'm barely 5' and right now it's my biggest paranoia about transitioning ftm.

[and5678]

I'm 5'7" to 5'8", but a majority of my height is in my legs. Pre-transition, I remember how much I wanted to be taller. My dad is about the same height is me, my mom is 5'1", and my brother is 6'3". I have no clue where his height came from, and I was always jealous. Maybe from the mailman. 

Now I like my height. I don't need to shop in the petite or tall women's section for jeans, and I can wear heels and not feel like a giant.

[Roll]

I have no clue where his height came from, and I was always jealous. Maybe from the mailman. 

Karl Malone?

[and5678]

Karl Malone?

Well he does have darker hair than the rest of the family too. We're all pretty much platinum blonde to light blonde hair color.

But his face looks like family, there's no question that we look like siblings.

[EllieJune]

I actually like my height; if I stand straight I'm around 5' 2''. In school I wanted to be taller to fit in the guys, but I like being short. There are so many advantages for my height disadvantage. I can hide in cupboards, during road trips i don't take a lot of space. Also during a survival situation I don't need to eat a lot. Lol. Though, it does suck being lost in a crowd...

[annajasmine]

I'm 5'7 - 5'8 and ok with my height. My parents are 5'2 and 5'3 my sisters are about an inch shorter or less but little sister thinks she is the tallest.


Anna

[VaxSpyder]

6'6"

So yes haha.  It's probably the feature I'm most dysphoric about and the feature that made me feel I could never be "passable."

Practically speaking, it severely limits my clothing options.

[Gertrude]

6'6"

So yes haha.  It's probably the feature I'm most dysphoric about and the feature that made me feel I could never be "passable."

Practically speaking, it severely limits my clothing options.

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[Pao]

Probably the thing I am most dysphoric about. Also the thing people feel the most comfortable talking about. I always wanted to be 6'4, even when I thought I was a girl. Flipping 5'2 is what I got. I don't think I will ever be ok with the way cis males pick on short guys, it just...

[kitchentablepotpourri]

I'm 6 ft tall, but I've probably lost a good millimeter since I've been on HRT; I would like to be 5'9, but I'm 6 ft, and loving it 😊

[VaxSpyder]

Thank you Gertrude!

[Northern Star Girl]

A simple question for you guys: Does your height cause you dysphoria? In what ways?

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Yes. I've accepted it (well, can't do much about it now can I?) - but it does bother me. I'm short for a woman!!! It especially bothers me when my SO is wearing high heels! And it annoys the heck out of me when I stand near tall men. It really does make me feel minuscule at those moments. But then I think to myself: there are short Asian guys for example... I always wanted to be tall, even as a child. I used to be - at first - but then all the other girls & boys grew taller......

It helps though that every day I pass by men who are around my height, or not that tall. And I've encountered men shorter than me, so...! But yes, it does annoy me. It's also annoying to be among relatives - can't keep thinking had I been born cis, I'd be their height.

At least I don't have extremely small frame...

You don't have to do much people watching to observe that there are very short women, very tall women and women of all shapes and sizes.   I have been seeing a lot of very tall and beautiful (I assume cis) women that are well over 6 feet tall and I am good friends with women that are less than 5 feet tall.  All of this doesn't make them less attractive or more attractive in any way.  The statistics are that short women have a wider range of men that think positive about having a shorter girlfriend.  In some way I have empathy for the very tall women because some men are so insecure that they do not want a woman to be taller than them.  Like and love the person for who they are, not for how tall or what the shape looks like.  I know, easier said that done.

[Subbie]

At 6'7 the main problem I have is finding clothes that will work for me. I've learned a few tricks though, like wear light colours on the lower half and dark tops - this is supposed to draw the eye down. Of course I'd love to wear skirts and show off my long legs, but my legs suck atm, so I've got some work to do there.

The only other problem that readily comes to mind is that I don't fit in sexy sports cars.

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[Chloe]

I'm 6 ft, and loving it

          Ditto! Always admired/aspired to taller, slender women! Was in best shape @ 160lbs when actually working for a living (& exercising) . . . lol swore I'd never seriously date an "elfish" person again!

[SonadoraXVX]

Yes, at 5'10, I am, dysphoric about my height, last time I measured my height several years go(i.e.but keeps predators at bay). Taller height means your foot size is bigger. My best military friend, used to joke with me, how I used to have Frodo feet(no body hair on me, except privates and scalp, I always thought my feet were fine) and he was 5'7"/5'8", he was a fireplug/bodybuilder build, I used to joke I was more like a gazelle build, he used to laugh/still does at me and I laugh along. Smaller size means you have a smaller shoulder girth, head size(usually) smaller feet(on average), and small pelvic girth. I wish I was 5'8", meaning I could wear women's shoes size 9/10, yayyy, not agonizing into size 10/10 1/2, but good at size 11, uggh  .

So yes...

[Northern Star Girl]

Yes, at 5'10, I am, dysphoric about my height, last time I measured my height several years go(i.e.but keeps predators at bay). Taller height means your foot size is bigger. My best military friend, used to joke with me, how I used to have Frodo feet(no body hair on me, except privates and scalp, I always thought my feet were fine) and he was 5'7"/5'8", he was a fireplug/bodybuilder build, I used to joke I was more like a gazelle build, he used to laugh/still does at me and I laugh along. Smaller size means you have a smaller shoulder girth, head size(usually) smaller feet(on average), and small pelvic girth. I wish I was 5'8", meaning I could wear women's shoes size 9/10, yayyy, not agonizing into size 10/10 1/2, but good at size 11, uggh  .

So yes...

5" 10" is not tall for a woman anymore.   Look around there are lots beautiful and very tall cis women, many at 6' or taller.  Much taller than that then they would have to hang around the basketball courts to find a fella that might be interested!  LOL
At least with a shoe size of 10 to 11 you can still find women's shoes in the stores.  For larger sizes it is almost always mail order, trial and error.

[SonadoraXVX]

The best and strappiest/cutest/sexiest shoes, are always size 10 and under. Why I know that, I have shopped far and wide for shoes and the vast majority of designer labels, are up to size 10, and even then size 10's can be smaller then other size 10. For example, Marc Jacobs is notorious for sizing their shoes, smaller than the size labeled. Two or three shoe makers are like that too. Pretty sure that goes for clothes sizes, but everybody knows that every designer label clothes are size differently then what it says.

Dysphoria trigger...

[Spunky Brewster]

As an intersex woman who was AMAB-ish, it used to really, really bother me when I tried to be  boy. Not just that, but my whole body--tiny everything (except butt, hips and chest)--made me feel like a spotlight was on me at all times.

Now, it is great and I'm not self-conscious in the slightest. I am 5'5.5 and I tell people I'm 5'4 lol since I can usually get away with it with my tiny frame that makes me look even smaller. But I hurt my leg and the nurse was like you are totally not 5'4, more like 5'6 missy. Apparently, the .5 does make a difference lol.

For FTMs (which I basically was in a way), it can be annoying but I did realize that I was my own worse critic. As long as your shoulders are wider than 13 inches--my shoulder width--you will be fine. Great even. I think frame size is acutally a bigger deal than anything else.

[I Am Jess]

Since I can't do anything about my height at all, I don't let it bother me.  I'm 6'2" tall and I wear 2" to 4" heels pretty much every day.  Since I can't change it, I own it!  I love being who I am even though it is tough to get clothes every now and then.