Soo tomorrow (December 12) My Partner and I will be visiting my Father and his second wife. Our relationship at best can be described as Rocky. Now they are aware that I am 'gay' (I really don't identify as gay or the like... More Pansexual if I'm being honest.) however, they are still unaware of my Transitioning. It's been almost a year since I started the process. and it's now getting pretty difficult to hide the girls even under some of my more baggy shirts. Now I don't want to exactly tell them straight up "Hey Dad Hey Nancy.... uhmmm... soo I'm trans" (it took some time for my dad to accept my bisexuality when I first came out at 18, and I'm still subjected to the occasional jabs at my sexuality) I grew up learning that my Father was a few things. he was a pretty good handyman a decent cook and he taught me that sometimes the old Tech is just as good as the new Tech. But I also Learned he had a violent temper and kind of forced me to act like a "little sir" very early on. TL;DR he's fairly uptight and very controlling and believes in the method of "shove enough pills into your body and you'll be fine." so I guess my question is this... how in all of Dante's 9 Circles of hell do I tell them that they have a 27-year-old daughter? (myself) without either A: having to run and possibly call the police. which I'd rather not. or B: watching as my father has a stroke at the dinner table. We've never had the best of relationships and he's always been very emotionally distant from me. any tips or advice on how to tell him with all parties leaving happily would be appreciated.
Peace Love and stay safe this holiday season my sisters and brothers.
Jessie Tamara O'Connor
