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Do you refer to your old self in third person?

Started by PurpleWolf, December 13, 2017, 05:09:16 PM

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PurpleWolf


When talking about yourself pre-transition, do you use the third person? Or not? What about your old name? 'Sheila wasn't a happy person. She..." etc.

Why?/Why not?

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Me - never. I've always been me. I've referred to myself as he since 13. I NEVER use the third person of myself. That'd be weird. Like talking about some other person? Like I had been a different person back then? I just use 'I was' etc. And definitely not in no god's mind I'm going to use the deadname as referring to myself!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


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Julia1996

No. If I have to make a reference to something before I transitioned,  I just say " before I transitioned ". Why?  Because I wasn't ever a boy so I'm not going to say " when I was a boy". If my dad or brother mention something from before I transitioned they just say
" before".
Julia


Born 1998
Started hrt 2015
SRS done 5/21/2018
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Kylo

Old self is same self. Never referred to myself in third person as if it was someone else, or felt a need for that separation. Name was unisex anyway.

"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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Corax

No. When I speak about myself in the past I don't use the deadname or the wrong gender for me. Why the hell would I misgender my past self? It's bad enough that my past self had to deal with being perceived wrongly!
I am a man, I was never a woman, and I speak about myself as the man I am in the past, present and future tense.
Plus, I am stealth so everything else would be impossible or at least confusing and ridiculous anyway.
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Elis

I think of myself as a boy back then. And it'd be weird to refer to myself in the third person. I think if any person said 'when I was a boy...' though it'd sound strange. I simply say when I was younger or when I was a child.

My aunt when talking about my nan no longer recognising me said she still sees me as the girl you were. I understood it sounded right in that context because maybe my aunt meant I was perceived that way or maybe she hasn't thought that back then I was a boy too. Even typing that sentence felt weird af
They/them pronouns preferred.



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Rowan Rue

I think of my former self as my twin brother who died.
I have a lot of memories of shared experiences, but nothing prior to transition really feels like it belongs to me.
It's like a movie I've seen a thousand times.
I know every bit of it intimately, but it's not my story, not my life.
I don't think I existed as anything more than a possibility before I began to transition.HRT has made me into to completely different person.
Now he only exists as a memory.
I don't miss him, he kept me a prisoner of sorts for 32 years.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm angry at him.
Mostly I just hope he never comes back.





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rmaddy

No.

My history is what it is.  I transitioned, and I'm proud that I did.  Denying my past cheapens my journey.
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Kylo

Gotta be honest I don't think there's a dramatic change unless you make one of it. Some people like to do that, I guess, and make a point of burning all their old clothes and things etc. and starting over. I feel more like every day or every moment I choose can be a new start, and I can take whatever from the past I want with me mentally and ditch the rest. There's a lot I have ditched down the years but not in the sense of trying to disown it. It's just useless junk now. If I think back to my kid self, it's me as I am now only a kid. I remember my mindset back then and it was exactly the same, only more immature. It wasn't as if there was a girl's mindset or a boy's mindset especially - it's just my mindset. The body really should have been male to fit that mindset better, but the fact it wasn't is just something to forget. I didn't pay much attention to it anyway, I just lived in my mind, mostly.

Taking hormones though - that really affirmed for me that I was right all along, which isn't anything to run from. The day I took them I felt like my brain just calmed down and settled into what it always should have been like - chill and relaxed and confident. I already did the uphill struggle to get those years before so I guess it was just an added bonus, but it definitely feels like I was right and that I'm basically being cured now. Cured of the problems that comes from having the disconnect with the body.

The little kid, the young adult, etc. was still me, just me with a disease I'm getting better from.
"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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V M

Sometimes, but mostly I refer to myself in the first person singular as in I or me because that is who I am and what else could I be but myself?
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

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PurpleWolf

Quote from: Viktor on December 14, 2017, 02:51:14 AM
I feel more like every day or every moment I choose can be a new start, and I can take whatever from the past I want with me mentally and ditch the rest.
That's a very cool mindset. I think that way too  :).

Quote from: Viktor on December 14, 2017, 02:51:14 AM
If I think back to my kid self, it's me as I am now only a kid. I remember my mindset back then and it was exactly the same, only more immature. It wasn't as if there was a girl's mindset or a boy's mindset especially - it's just my mindset. The body really should have been male to fit that mindset better, but the fact it wasn't is just something to forget. I didn't pay much attention to it anyway, I just lived in my mind, mostly.
Exactly what I feel!

Quote from: Viktor on December 14, 2017, 02:51:14 AM
Taking hormones though - that really affirmed for me that I was right all along, which isn't anything to run from. The day I took them I felt like my brain just calmed down and settled into what it always should have been like - chill and relaxed and confident. I already did the uphill struggle to get those years before so I guess it was just an added bonus, but it definitely feels like I was right and that I'm basically being cured now. Cured of the problems that comes from having the disconnect with the body.
Omg I'm waiting for this moment too!!! I really wish I'll feel that awesome too on T!

Quote from: Viktor on December 14, 2017, 02:51:14 AM
The little kid, the young adult, etc. was still me, just me with a disease I'm getting better from.
Exactly.
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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