On patience during transition - what strategies worked for you?

[krobinson103]

Hello,

Well next week my family returns, we have to get through xmas with a bunch of relatives, then in Feb I have to go back to work and try and be at least gender neutral for another six months or so. This SHOULD be easy, after all I am 43 and have raised kids, gone through graduate school, and worked as a professional for years. However, the sheer freedom I feel right now makes me impulsive and a little rebellious - against of all people myself! I know time and patience is required to  ensure family and work remains in place. I need them both and worked damn hard to get where I'm at.

So, are there any strategies or small distractions that go some of the way allowing the mind to be happy while the body and everyone else catches up? Looking in the mirror I could pull off a boyish looking Women with the right clothes, but it wouldn't be worth the consequences at this time. I'm going to have to settle with really feminine male for a while.

Thank  you

[Denise]

It has taken me 9 months to get comfortable looking in the mirror AFTER I went full time.  But a very subtle change in my hair style is what made me see Denise in the mirror not xxx.

There is also a comfort level with yourself that is necessary.  It took me many months of 24x7 to smooth out the rough edges of Denise and reconcile the differences between my old self and new self.

I started attending weekly events with a friendly LGBT club (not specifically for LGBT) as xxx then after a month I went as Denise.  They were really cool with it.  One thing I should have made clear was I was transitioning.  They thought I was crossdressing only.  Whoops!

Have fun with your transition.  Some of it sucks but there are some funny moments and very pleasurable parts.

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