How do yu grow out your hair long with out it looking messy ?

[esphoria]

When I went to my stylist I went in with the expectation of getting fusion hair extensions. for those of you that don't know these type of extensions are bound to the hairs in very small strands and when installed properly you can pull your hair back and such. they typically cost 1k-2k USD for an install and last ~4-6 months.

When she did the consultation she said that my hair (which was down to my shoulders at least the parts lower in my scalp) she said my hair was too short to make the hair extensions look right.  She then went on and explained that my hair needs to be down to my shoulders from the top of my head, not the bottom or your hair comes out looking like a mullet. This was an aveda spa and salon, which is one of the best places to get you hair cut in my area and it has great reviews

So I asked her what I could do to my hair to make it look decent now without increasing the time until I could have the extensions installed. she said she could trim the bottom parts of my hair so that the top strands were around the same length. I had that done and I was very pleased with it, all of a sudden my hair went from a mess to easy to manage with just a brush and straightener. She didn't touch the hair that was limiting me its actually down to the middle of my neck right now.

I think its really worth getting something done with it in the middle, it makes everything so much more bearable and when your hair does finally grow out, it'll look cute(hopefully ).

She honestly won me over when she told me that she couldn't do hair extensions as she was delaying/denying a big sale. to me it shows that she cares about her work and my hair, and that's invaluable to me as just prior to this I had a very bad experience with another salon and actually walked out. The last thing I want is someone messing with my hair that doesn't care.

[FinallyMichelle]

Sheesh, I completely missed the first page so I didn't read the first post.
Every girl I know hates the weird phase when growing their hair out. Many will never even bother growing their hair out again after they cut it short. I believe, if you look around, you will see that as we get older fewer women have long hair. I know that none of my friends have hair as long as mine and I am not even 50 yet.

I just had my hair cut 2 weeks ago, the day before I took my current avatar picture, then before that it was one year ago. Those were the only two haircuts I have had since it was buzzed a little over 4 years ago. You can have it maintained regularly or you can wait it out. Hair grows 6 inches a year on average, so in three years when passing typically sets in for good your hair will be 18 inches. That's a good length to start your new life with.

Patience, it won't last forever.

[CallMeKatie]

Mine is growing through stages. From a grade 4 about 16 months ago to just touching my shoulders if straightened.

In between you get the short styles,  the short but manageable style, the long short which is okay, then before it starts to drop because if thwe weight, there's this wonderful stage when you cannot do a thing with it.
Even at my length, with a middle/side part the long front strand won't stay behind my ear when pushed back.

Keep going, it's so worth it!

[Bobbie LeAnn]

I think it's been longer for me between haircuts than anyone on here. I last had a haircut in 2004 or 2005. I Used to be able to grow shoulder length hair in a couple months but for some strange reason my hair growth slowed down to a snail's pace after my last haircut. Being native american I cut it as a sign of grieving when a dear friend passed away.
I guess I'm lucky that for my age I don't have very much grey in it lol. I have noticed that since starting HRT my hair has started growing again and now it comes to below my shoulders. When I first moved to Tennessee my hair was ankle length black with a dyed white stripe on both sides. I moved here from Navajo Arizona where I went to school on the Navajo Reservation.  I was 18yrs old then lmao



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[DawnOday]

Is there any proof caster oil makes hair grow? I feel if that was true tons of companies even legit ones would be selling it. From a biochem angle the caster oil is too think to pass through the phospholipid bilayer to get down to the living areas of the skin where if it could do something it would. Also caster oil has no evidence showing that it has the correct hormones in (or any hormones focal stimulating hormones/ its just a simple hydrocarbon chain like any other oil and those are not the correct/sophisticated hormones to get hair to start it getting hair growing even if it did get down into the living skin/follicles. Probably a market to sell it in a fancy bottle as magic hair regrowth treatment.

If it's quackery, there sure is a lot of reference to it's use and all it takes is a Google search. https://www.google.com/search?q=castor+oil+for+hair+regrowth&rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS718US718&oq=ca&aqs=chrome.0.69i59j69i57j69i61l2j69i60.2474j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

You are right that Castor oil is thick and that is why most recipes call for it to be thinned with another oil like coconut or argan. Also using a rinse of apple cider vinegar beforehand gets existing oil out of your hair for better results. It also requires heating and capping to help the oil absorb. Castor oil on its own has many vitamins and minerals. t's antibacterial and anti fungal properties make it beneficial against follliculitus, dandruff and scalp infections and its ricinoleic acid content helps increase circulation to the scalp and improve hair growth.

Ricinoleic acid is also said to help balance scalp pH which can also help replenish the scalp's natural oils and undo some of the damage of harsh chemical hair products (and even damage from no-poo, due to over alkalinity). The antioxidants in castor oil also support the keratin in hair and help make hair stronger, smoother and less frizzy.

[Dena]

There is a word of warning if your going to give your hair an oil treatment. If you are going to have a perm or color job, warn the person treating you hair what you are doing. The oil will keep the treatment from penetrating your hair and it will be a waste of money. If you are using a well trained professional, they will know how to clean your hair so the treatment will take properly but they have to be warned of the the problem in advance. This applies to caster oil, olive oil or any other home treatment you might come up with.

[Laurie]

I just take mine to Jiffy Lube and be done with it.

[Bobbie LeAnn]

I just take mine to Jiffy Lube and be done with it.

OMG you are so bad....




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[rebeccaanne07]

My fear as well, I have been using wigs for years due to the Army, I am about to retire, and I want so badly to grow my hair out, but I am so afraid it will not be like I hope. It keeps me up at night wondering how it will look. I love my wigs, and I love how they look. I am so afraid my natural hair will not compare!! UGHHHHH Anxiety...

[Northern Star Girl]

There are lots and lots of hair styles for all hair lengths....  as it grows longer and longer the variety of things and styles you can fix your hair in multiply significantly... but unlike my pre-transition days I just can't wake up, run water over my head and towel it off and then go out the door.  Definitely more time is spent with the hair as a female than as a male...  the price of beauty!!!.

[amandam]

I've had great success keeping my hair in place with hair gel. I wet my hair, put some on, then I hold my cowlicks down with my hand until the gel dries some. It keeps them under control In Dec. '17, I was getting a six on top and three on the sides crewcut. Now it is comb-able in a male fashion. I'd say the hair on top is about 2 1/2-3".

[Lexi Nexi]

Update since my last post. It's cute curls now and honestly taking sugar bear hair vitamins for about 4-5 months and hair, skin and nails for 2 months before that I don't really think there's a difference... I'm gonna take my vitamins until I finish them but I don't think I'll be ordering anymore.

7 months and I'm learning patience. I'm still in the awkward phase but I try to own it. It's tough and I've added progesterone since. My mind is telling me that I'm not feminizing and reverting back [emoji17] I keep thinking I should just cut it but I know I'll regret doing that

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DON'T CUT IT!!! I almost did that because I want really long or really short hair. Then I thought I could just get it evened out. No that will set you back months. I started measuring mine since I got it cut to 1" log in november. It seems like it slows down but thats just because the change is so noticeable at first. When I want to cut my hair I think about making love to a guy and having my long blonde hair tickle his chest as I gaze down through it. Also you can cover up that horse shoe shape at the top once its a few inches long. I was thinking about wearing pink bandanas like some jewish girls do and letting the front hair hang out and getting it dyed blonde with bright pink streaks. Then it just looks like you have bangs and long hair is covered up. Sure if you look close you can see it's short but from a short distance/quick glance you will look 100% female. I can't wait for summer: short white shorts, pink tank top, pink nails, and white flip flops with thick bottoms to show off my legs and feet. Add the pink bandana and you have someone who was afraid to wear their favorite color during their childhood. Add glittery lip gloss and sparkles on your cheeks. Hard to pull off if you are older but you could tone it down. I used to dress like that last summer and would not be passable but people would think I was really gay. Was strange how people treated me so much differently then the day before just dressed as a guy. some guys wouldn't talk to me as much, most girls were alot more talkative asking me personal questions, and would make assumption like having a boyfriend, and assuming I didn't like male things like star wars. I forget what I was in but the only ones left had football teams and starwars logo's and the girl said "We only have football and starwars ones left so I'm afraid we don't have anymore" I think they were calendars or something. She was right though I didn't buy.

[Charlie Nicki]

I can finally put my hair in a ponytail, at least the part in the back. It looks less messy that way.

[Northern Star Girl]

I can finally put my hair in a ponytail, at least the part in the back. It looks less messy that way.

@ Charlie Nicki:
Yes, for sure, a pony tale is fast and easy and can look quite nice.
I have worked so hard and long for length that I usually like to wear my hair down. 
I have a female acquaintance that is helping me do my hair in "up" styles..and some fancy braiding, she did a French Braid on my hair last week.....  some of those styles look quite formal for special occasions!   
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[Allison S]

For anyone feeling bad about the hair growing process... cis women also have this issue. Ours is just a bit of a different struggle..

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[Lexi Nexi]

For anyone feeling bad about the hair growing process... cis women also have this issue. Ours is just a bit of a different struggle..

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you were saying when you had short hair you were invisible to men? Mines getting longer and I think that a big reason why I am almost always called she by strangers now. That or the boobs.

[Allison S]

you were saying when you had short hair you were invisible to men? Mines getting longer and I think that a big reason why I am almost always called she by strangers now. That or the boobs.

Oh that was someone else's comment I saw lol my hair is still short, I always get he/him and sir/man. It's not affecting me as much the further I'm on hrt though. I realize why I'm transitioning. It's for myself. Not for men or women to perceive me a certain way. Everyone's perception is going to be skewed in some way, I know mine is.



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[Nikkimn]

I've consulted several hairstylists and the advice I was given is you cut the back and sides until your top catches up to the back and sides. Then you grow the top and sides and back together. Back is the last thing you stop cutting or you'll look like you're growing a mullet.

[Doreen]

I believe in 'controlled disaster' where hair is concerned.  Having it relatively the same length, and relatively the same color   
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I think its a controlled mess at this time

[keloic098]

Extensions were my best friend till my hair grew out!

Sallys has some for around 100$ I believe, they last for about 6-12 months before getting haggard.


Best of luck!!
Anja