Should I talk to my dad on Christmas

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So my dad and I fight alot, like all the time of stupid things and over important things. He does not know that I am trans and I know he wont be accepting of it, to him Im his only son the pressure was so bad at one point I was gonna change my name to his. My dad is my adopted father he married my mom, he never had boys of his own to carry on the name, he is like 10th gen Thomas. But we are fighting/not speaking I wasn't planning on talking to him for like a year or so but a friend of mine says just "be the bigger man" after a few mehs he did finally say or woman yay. So should I suck up my pride and talk to him?

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[Jessica]

Grudges usually hurt yourself far more than help.  Love bridges all gaps.  Turn the other cheek.
Hugs, Jess

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Grudges usually hurt yourself far more than help.  Love bridges all gaps.  Turn the other cheek.
Hugs, Jess

Actually forgiveness hurts more than grudges (as long as you don't spend to much energy) because if you 'turn the other cheek' you give the the opportunity to hit you on that side to. (Not trying to object just a counter point) But I have been a fan of burning bridges rarely know people for more than a year.


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[Jessica]

Actually forgiveness hurts more than grudges (as long as you don't spend to much energy) because if you 'turn the other cheek' you give the the opportunity to hit you on that side to. (Not trying to object just a counter point) But I have been a fan of burning bridges rarely know people for more than a year.


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Well......That's your opinion.  It's hard to get the extremely necessary support from any friends or family with an attitude that pushes everyone away eventually.  One year relationships that end in failure make for a lonely life.

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Well......That's your opinion.  It's hard to get the extremely necessary support from any friends or family with an attitude that pushes everyone away eventually.  One year relationships that end in failure make for a lonely life.

I am only 24 I have moved about the same amount of times, different city's, counties, and states. I have no clue how to maintain a relationship that lasts longer it either just dies or I burn it down. And yes it is lonely I have always been lonely.

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[Jessica]

I am only 24 I have moved about the same amount of times, different city's, counties, and states. I have no clue how to maintain a relationship that lasts longer it either just dies or I burn it down. And yes it is lonely I have always been lonely.

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Might I suggest that if you are considering a physical change in your life, that you reflect on your inner self.  I know that hrt can switch thought patterns (either from a change in chemistry or just from the relief of not holding yourself back).  It has made me more open and empathetic.  I actually always have been, but more so.  Many have expressed the freedom has made them better people to others.

Love is the answer, fear is the little death that brings total obliteration, Jessica

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For the most one part my inner self and outer self are zen, until I flip my switch but it is hard to get me there. I am petty though I always believed an eye for an eye then let it go. Or how I like to put it treat other how they treat you after you are too tired to deal with it, typically I am over things within the same minute but this is family and family know what buttons to press, I think I got distracted from my question oops.

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