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Came out to my dad

Started by Zquence, January 02, 2018, 04:42:02 PM

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Zquence

It went as expected he is 90% logic 1% emotion, and 9% other. He asked me alto of questions all from a sustainability point of view, it costs lots of money, there is almost nothing for support out here, just identifying a bunch of potential complications. (something he always does.) I mentioned moving to either California or back to Texas, to that he responded with if you go back to Texas talk to "xxx" ( a family friend) he is just gay but apparently in the recent years he has become part of the community in Dallas, and in California he just mentioned how much easier it would be there due to how liberal they are.
The first question he asked was are you sure, then asked about srs, and as of right now I am not sure but I am leaning towards it (ill just miss how fast I can go).
Then again he asked if I was sure and of course I was like yeah for a while now but I decided to actually move forward with it in may (when I joined the site).
Had to explain the difference between, non-binary, transgender, and transsexual. But after about 30 minutes of talking I brought up the point that the biggest reason I have decided to move forward now is that well he remarried and has son now so I felt a huge burden lift (carrying on the name). And of course he was like you didn't have to do that, and im like yeah I did maybe not really but I felt like I did. Didn't really talk much more about it after that.

Also sidenote I scheduled my next therapy session, so next Thursdays I am going to tell my therapist to get me on hrt as fast as possible. I am done waiting I am out to all the people I want to be out until I show up one year as a woman rather than as a boy. That is going to be so much fun. (Is it bad that I find enjoyment out of making others feel awkward?)

Hugs and love to everyone
         XO - Z

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Megan.

I'm so glad that went well for you. Your dad seems alot like mine, not really understanding of your emotional needs,  but still aware and caring of the practical ones!

A big hurdle jumped, congrats hun,  and good luck with your therapist! X

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Bari Jo

Congrats, sounds like my dad too.  I've tried to bring up the emotional aspects of this, but that falls on deaf ears.  Anything else and he will listen and talk about.  Anyway, congrats, good to have support!

Bari Jo
you know how far the universe extends outward? i think i go inside just as deep.

10/11/18 - out to the whole world.  100% friends and family support.
11/6/17 - came out to sister, best day of my life
9/5/17 - formal diagnosis and stopping DIY in favor if prescribed HRT
6/18/17 - decided to stop fighting the trans beast, back on DIY.
Too many ups and downs, DIY, purges of self inbetween dates.
Age 10 - suppression and denial began
Age 8 - knew I was different
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Yakayla

Getting a guy like that to talk about their emotions is next to impossible. But it sounds like it went great, cause if he had his doubts about something, he would have brought it back up pretty quickly.

And no, I love making people feel awkward. It's almost down right adorable. Like some older lady was starring at me today. So I turn my head to side and give her a huge smile. She couldn't help but smile back, and I could see her later laughing at herself out of embarrassment.
If I've known you more than an hour, I prolly love you  :icon_redface:
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LJH24

Congrats! I'm glad it went so well. <3
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LizK

Wow that sounded like it really couldn't have been much better. What a terrific way to start. Congratulations I hope it all works out great.
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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