Jess’s mess

[Northern Star Girl]

Dear Jessica:  My heart goes out to you for what you just reported regarding relationship issues with your wife... and it was not too long ago that you had posted about your enjoyable 37th wedding anniversary....  I am so very, very sorry for you that you are going through this.

I guess that the silver lining of this dark cloud that you have found yourself to be under is that she is willing to be supportive of your transition and she has promised to get counseling (hopefully the both of you together at times) and that, at least at this time, she is not planning to leave you.

I really hope, trust and pray that you and her can come to a peaceful co-existence that still exhibits love and deep friendship.

May you come to terms with all of this and get back to your happy self as soon as you can.

Hugs and best wishes,
Danielle

[Michelle_P]

Jessica, I am sorry this hasd happened to you.

I went through something similar, but it ended poorly.

Communications is paramount, so please, please keep that open.  I am VERY glad to hear that your spouse will be seeking counseling, as that is important in understanding, clarifying, and processing the transition for both of you.  I am happy to read that she is willing to be supportive, a very good thing.

I know this will be a difficult period to get through, and I do wish you all of the best. 

Michelle

[Jessica]

Thank you Danielle and Michelle 🌸🌸🌸 I very much appreciate your support. 

Hugs, Jess

[Mariah]

Sorry to hear about that Jessica. I can only hope with help that she will be able to stay in your court. I know my spouse has worried from time to time about my support and like you offered to stop it all to ensure no loss of me, however I told them no please do continue. I have no I doubt that if I can manage that your wife will too. I think in our case we are closer together. I can only hope that in the end it does the same for both of you too. Hang in there. Hugs
Mariah

[Laurie]

Hi Sis,

  That kind of news would certainly throw someone for a loop It is a blow to discover that things were not how you perceived them to be. The hurt is there and trust takes a hit also. The 24 hours very hard on you I am sure. But obviously the two of you have been talking and she does seem to be willing to at least seek some professional help. There is still hope that she will change her mind altogether. If she goes into it with an open mind. It could be worse. The willingness to try something can be all it takes to give it a chance.
  Imagine where I would be had I not been willing to try those anti-depressant pills.... It is spring and I am still here. There is still hope if there is willingness to try. I hope hoping for the best for both of you, Sis.

Hugs,
  Laurie

[Charlie Nicki]

Jess very sorry for that. I'll text you so we can talk offline.

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[Bari Jo]

Jess, the pain from this news must be awful.  However, I can see communication on this is now truly open, where's before it wasn't.  This can be good news too.  I'm glad she will seek counseling as well.  We are all pulling for you of course.  I know a few married couples that are still together even after transition, so it can be done.  This can still pull you both together tighter than before.

Bari Jo

[Jessica]

Thank you @Laurie, @Charlie Nicki and @Bari Jo!  I'm feeling much better since we have talked more in depth and have clarified both our needs.

Hugs, Jess

[Jessica]

Hi friends 🙋‍♀️ I have had my nose in the books, learning a skill that I've had all along, but in a different format.  Digital is easier than hard copy, but finding the route of connections can be a challenge.  As it is, I only learned last week how to create bold and underlined sentences.  This is a far cry from when I was young and communication consisted letters and landline phones, along with 3 television networks in total.
What a change society has made in such a short time. 
Where would we be without it?

Smiles, Jessica

[Northern Star Girl]

Hi friends 🙋‍♀️ I have had my nose in the books, learning a skill that I've had all along, but in a different format.  Digital is easier than hard copy, but finding the route of connections can be a challenge.  As it is, I only learned last week how to create bold and underlined sentences.  This is a far cry from when I was young and communication consisted letters and landline phones, along with 3 television networks in total.
What a change society has made in such a short time. 
Where would we be without it?

Smiles, Jessica

@ Jessica:  I have mixed feelings about "digital" versus "hard copy" 
With Digital is certainly very easy to make corrections, additions and deletions... and as you mentioned you can easily underline, bold, change font face, change font size, change color, etc, etc.... and the spell check is wonderful, it makes me look smart!!

That all is fine and dandy but with that all said, for my personal journal that I have kept since I was a teen (they called them diaries back then)  I prefer using pen and paper... that allows all kinds of doodleing and creative things can end up on the paper.......  I know, I know, that can be done digitally also... but I still like to write my journal with pen and paper... it all ends up in a big book that I can still read even if the power lines go down and my computer battery is dead.

Thanks for posting your Jess's Mess story....
.... it is nice to keep up (all in one place) with what is happening with you.
Hugs,
Danielle

[Jessica]

Thanks for posting your Jess's Mess story....
.... it is nice to keep up (all in one place) with what is happening with you.
Hugs,
Danielle

Too many parts of ones story get fragmented when related too many times.  Keeping a dairy keeps it in perspective and relevant to the moment, but gives a way to glance back at previous thoughts.
I glad you see value in it.  And you seem happier for taking the advice.

[Cassi]

My heart goes out to you in light of recent events and hope all turns out well.  I've been truly amazed when I have read about spouses being supportive and remaining with the person and have always felt that it is probably just as difficult for the significant other to deal with as it is with us.

My thoughts and prayers go with you!

[Jessica]

Hi friends 🙋‍♀️ I have a lunch date tomorrow with some wonderful women friends (the badgers are staying home I hope).  So I have, for the first time, shaved my legs.  They had started looking patchy from hair loss.  Now they are smooth!  I believe I will wear a dress tomorrow... another first in public.
Went to the salon with my wife and another girlfriend for mani/pedis and got pretty, pink nail polish on my hands, another first again.

A trifecta!  Jess 💁‍♀️

[Northern Star Girl]

Hi friends 🙋‍♀️ I have a lunch date tomorrow with some wonderful women friends (the badgers are staying home I hope).  So I have, for the first time, shaved my legs.  They had started looking patchy from hair loss.  Now they are smooth!  I believe I will wear a dress tomorrow... another first in public.
Went to the salon with my wife and another girlfriend for mani/pedis and got pretty, pink nail polish on my hands, another first again.

A trifecta!  Jess 💁‍♀️

Jessica:
Yes indeed, a trifecta... especially the part about going to the salon with your wife of 37 years....  I am so very, very happy to hear that.

Hopefully soon, with more HRT your leg hair and most body hair just might start getting so thin that you won't have to shave very often... or at all.  I have not had to shave my leg hair for almost 2 years now and they are still as smooth as a baby's bottom.

Ya know, we are going to have to see a picture of you in your dress... and we want to see your pretty nails also.
Your readers here are curious and want to know!!!! 
We are rooting for you!!!

Hugs,
Danielle

[Jessica]

Jessica:
Yes indeed, a trifecta... especially the part about going to the salon with your wife of 37 years....  I am so very, very happy to hear that.

Hopefully soon, with more HRT your leg hair and most body hair just might start getting so thin that you won't have to shave very often... or at all.  I have not had to shave my leg hair for almost 2 years now and they are still as smooth as a baby's bottom.

Ya know, we are going to have to see a picture of you in your dress... and we want to see your pretty nails also.
Your readers here are curious and want to know!!!! 
We are rooting for you!!!

Hugs,
Danielle

How do I look girlfriend?


https://imgur.com/a/L7vm6

[Northern Star Girl]

How do I look girlfriend?

Jessica, I looked at your picture,
.... and you may have not followed my instructions completely for posting...
.... re: Step #6 and Step #7
I will help you if you wish!!

By the way.... you look absolutely wonderful... have fun with your lunch date.... and keep us updated.
Danielle

[Jessica]

Jessica, I looked at your picture,
.... and you may have not follow my instructions completely for posting....   I will help you if you wish!!

By the way.... you look absolutely wonderful... have fun with your lunch date.... and keep us updated.
Danielle

My iPhone doesn't allow all the commands you suggested. 
Have to get out the big guns

[Northern Star Girl]

Jessica:  I posted it for you, next time it would be better if you used your desktop or laptop.

left click on photo to enlarge.....


Again, you look great, your dress, your hair and your shiny nails...  I enjoyed seeing you all dressed up.
Hugs,
Danielle

[Jessica]

laptop did it



lots of firsts today

[Mariah]

Lovely picture Jessica. Hugs
Mariah