Bari Jo's Corner

[Megan.]

Aww, please don't feel excluded.  I want all my trans friends to know you have a standing invite.  You must like big fluffy poodles though!

Bari Jo

I like to dress as a poodle if that helps, but I keep that for Wednesdays [emoji16]

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[Cassi]

I like to dress as a poodle if that helps, but I keep that for Wednesdays [emoji16]

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Arggggg, german shepherd here......................

[AnneK]

Arggggg, german shepherd here......................

You dress as a german shepherd???   

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You dress as a german shepherd???   

She doesn't mean the dog either. She puts on lederhosen and carries around a crook.

[Megan.]

She doesn't mean the dog either. She puts on lederhosen and carries around a crook.

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[Cassi]

She doesn't mean the dog either. She puts on lederhosen and carries around a crook.

Yes, Elli is right. Just picture a 5' 7 1/2" inch tall blond in a leather bitching and that's me.

[Bari Jo]

Yes, Elli is right. Just picture a 5' 7 1/2" inch tall blond in a leather bitching and that's me.

This is now how I will forever see you in my mind.  Thanks Ellie!

Bari Jo

[Cassi]

This is now how I will forever see you in my mind.  Thanks Ellie!

Bari Jo

Giddy up little dawggie

[Bari Jo]

Semi random thought.  I used to guage my happiness, by what I accomplished.  This nearly always would be work related.  Lately I'm noticing I'm happy also by mastering something in my transition.  Like when I found my favourite socks, learned to paint my nails correctly, brushing my hair, crossing my legs. When I catch myself doing any of these on a hundred others. I'm super happy.

[Megan.]

I certainly found reassurance as I built some of those feminine skills, and also some frustration as I also failed to master others.
It is very fair to say that many women are not masters at makeup or self grooming; so if you enjoy it great, but don't hold yourself to unreachable standards either. X

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[Bari Jo]

I certainly found reassurance as I built some of those feminine skills, and also some frustration as I also failed to master others.
It is very fair to say that many women are not masters at makeup or self grooming; so if you enjoy it great, but don't hold yourself to unreachable standards either. X

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Hah, I know exactly what you mean.  I've always lived by raising the bar continuously.  Right now the bar is pretty low on the Bari Jo feminine scale, but it'll get a little bit higher each time I raise it with some new skill.

This would be a good name for a transition blog, "Raising The Bar".

[steph2.0]

Hah, I know exactly what you mean.  I've always lived by raising the bar continuously.  Right now Tue bar is pretty low on the Bari Jo feminine scale, but it'll get a little bit higher each time I raise it with some new skill.

This would be a good name for a transition blog, "Raising The Bar".

I have no reservations, so I have to wait at the bar.

Stephanie

[Cassi]

This is now how I will forever see you in my mind.  Thanks Ellie!

Bari Jo

How are you sleeping?

[Bari Jo]

How are you sleeping?

Actually sleeping okay, thanks for asking.  HR did send an e-mail thanking me for including them on my journey, and they have scheduled a meeting to check-in and discuss.  I have the feeling my company has been through this many times already so they know how to handle everything.

Bari Jo

[Cassi]

Actually sleeping okay, thanks for asking.  HR did send an e-mail thanking me for including them on my journey, and they have scheduled a meeting to check-in and discuss.  I have the feeling my company has been through this many times already so they know how to handle everything.

Bari Jo

Glad to hear it

[Bari Jo]

I had lunch with my dad today.  It was food he loves, bbq, at a restaurant he's never been to.  He was really happy with the food, and in a great mood.  I was able to discuss "my problem", which he in turn asked why do I call it my problem, and we had a discussion on that.  He's trying.  I was near tears many times, especially after I dropped him off.  That lunch and discussion meant a lot to me.  He's really trying.

Bari Jo

[Megan.]

I had lunch with my dad today.  It was food he loves, bbq, at a restaurant he's never been to.  He was really happy with the food, and in a great mood.  I was able to discuss "my problem", which he in turn asked why do I call it my problem, and we had a discussion on that.  He's trying.  I was near tears many times, especially after I dropped him off.  That lunch and discussion meant a lot to me.  He's really trying.

Bari Jo

Touching to hear hun, I'm glad your dad is obviously working on processing things and supporting you. X

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[Roll]

I had lunch with my dad today.  It was food he loves, bbq, at a restaurant he's never been to.  He was really happy with the food, and in a great mood.  I was able to discuss "my problem", which he in turn asked why do I call it my problem, and we had a discussion on that.  He's trying.  I was near tears many times, especially after I dropped him off.  That lunch and discussion meant a lot to me.  He's really trying.

Bari Jo

That makes my day.

[Bari Jo]

Today was the day I met with HR.  I thought I'd feel weird about it, but I wasn't.  I thought for sure it would feel like I was watching it happen, but no.  I was in the moment and talked about presenting as female, using the bathrooms, going to doctors.  Speaking of.  I have been trying to work four days a week, 10 hour days.  My company won't do it, since I'd be paid overtime those days.  However they will allow me to work from home one day a week, and have me set those hours.  So that means I can have my doctors appts in the afternoons and not really miss any work since I'll start my day early in the mornings.  This means more electrolysis weekly, Yay!  I was asked about my preferred name, and they will help with name change when I want it.  I was surprised there wasn't a transition guide, since we do have 150,000 employees.  They said they would create one for my transition.  I feel fine abiut it, but also feel there's so much to do.

Bari Jo

[steph2.0]

Today was the day I met with HR.  I thought I'd feel weird about it, but I wasn't.  I thought for sure it would feel like I was watching it happen, but no.  I was in the moment and talked about presenting as female, using the bathrooms, going to doctors.  Speaking of.  I have been trying to work four days a week, 10 hour days.  My company won't do it, since I'd be paid overtime those days.  However they will allow me to work from home one day a week, and have me set those hours.  So that means I can have my doctors appts in the afternoons and not really miss any work since I'll start my day early in the mornings.  This means more electrolysis weekly, Yay!  I was asked about my preferred name, and they will help with name change when I want it.  I was surprised there wasn't a transition guide, since we do have 150,000 employees.  They said they would create one for my transition.  I feel fine abiut it, but also feel there's so much to do.

Bari Jo

Wow! I don't see how it could have gone much better. Congratulations!


- Stephanie