Today was interesting. When I left for work this morning, I realized the jacket I chose to wear still had a tiny transgender pride flag on the collar. I had been pinning that on when going to trans meetings, pride things, doctors visits, basically anyplace where I'm positive the reception would be fine. So it's on the jacket I'm wearing. I decide to leave it on. Later in the day, I had a review which included one of my favorite composers. I knew he was coming so I brought one of his soundtracks to sign, in case I had the opportunity to ask. Well, I did, and he graciously did. He asked my name, then he saw my name badge with my dead name on it. He asked if he should make it out to that name. I said yes, only spell it Bari, and he did, no questions. Perhaps he saw the pin, no idea. My team was there at the time, and nobody seemed to think it was unusual that I wanted a different spelling. I may keep wearing the pin to work, not sure.
Bari Jo