Quote from: Kate on December 17, 2007, 12:58:57 PMLooking through the skirts thread, it seems some people do transition to allow themselves that freedom of expression, including the chance to wear skirts 100% of the time.
I believe you're referring to
moi, dear. It's a misconception I'm commonly confronted with: Just because I'm a trans woman who openly admits I like wearing skirts, people assume I'm trans just for the clothing. WRONG! I'm a trans woman because I'm a woman who got assigned the wrong gender at birth. The point is--I'm a woman. If I was all about the clothes, I'd be a CD. If I were just a CD, would I identify as a woman, take hormones, change my name legally, plan on getting SRS at the first possible opportunity? I just don't happen to think that my preference in clothing ought to call my gender identity into question, in fact, I'm sick and tired of that BS, the assumptions that if you're really a trans woman you have to prefer wearing pants. Yes, I have gotten that crap enough times, including from a shrink. I was not looking forward to confronting it here too, but knew enough to expect it would turn up.
The fact is I did not practice cross-dressing all those years I was hiding my gender identity; I did not begin wearing women's clothing until after I'd come out as transsexual. I know that for many of us cross-dressing eventually leads into coming out as trans, but for me personally it did not take that course. I came out as trans because of my inner gender identity issues, such as identifying with women, and realization that I should have had a vagina, that my body was all wrong for my gender identity. I've noticed in the transgender community that as soon as a woman admits she likes wearing skirts, she's branded a CD, like she's not really transsexual, just a wannabe pretender.
Kate, I respectfully request you to retract your assessment of my motivations. I apologize if my posts in these forums haven't been clear enough about my actual motivations for transitioning, that you could misread me like this, and I hope I've cleared it up now.