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tgirlamg

January 28, 2018, 12:36:45 PM Last Edit: January 29, 2018, 12:13:20 AM by tgirlamc
Hi All...

I hope all is well... I had a few thoughts about the forum I was sharing with Jessica Marie this morning, by PM, on the nature of our roles here... Jessica's role as Official Welcomer offers so much to those coming in the door of this place... They are often coming with a burden, heavy and dark...and step into the light here... 

This place, Susan's Place... is a place of hope... People are coming here every day looking for something... They don't always know what it is but, at the core of it,...HOPE is what they seek...

Hope That:

Maybe what they feel, others feel too...

Maybe the Earth wouldn't stop spinning if they showed others who they truly are...

Maybe it is okay to feel like this...

Maybe they could wear the clothes they want to wear...

Maybe they could live the way they want to live...

Maybe they could be called by another name...

Maybe they could change their body and appearance as they choose...

Maybe others have done what they have always wanted to do and they are happy... Maybe that could be me...

Maybe everything inside them, hidden for a lifetime, could finally come out into the light of day...

Maybe the impossible is possible...

I always liked the line in The Shawshank Redemption...

"Hope is a good thing... perhaps the best of things and no good thing ever dies" 

Perhaps, a line from a movie about someone locked in a prison cell, for something they didn't do, is befitting our journey...

The hope we can offer others here, keeps going as others pick it up, put it in their pocket to carry it with them and offer it to the people they encounter in their own lives... We are all ripples in the pond...

Hope brings people here... and Hope is here to find, when you look, and when you are open to receiving it in your heart... It would be easy for this place to become dark if it was not well tended... Happily, just a little bit of hope can go a long ways here... Those who offer it do great things and keep this place, a place of light... One person can be the the light for the uncountable many... If you have hope, give it freely to those who need some...The rewards are great!

Onward we go brave friends...

Ashley 😀❤️🌻
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻
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Jessica

#1
January 28, 2018, 12:43:46 PM Last Edit: March 19, 2018, 09:23:37 AM by Jessica
Beautiful words Ashley....maybe I'll stop crying before my mothers 89th birthday brunch today.

And please don't forget @KathyLauren as co-greeter.  Though, anyone can greet someone they would like to meet.

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere."

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DawnOday

#2
January 28, 2018, 12:48:32 PM
Nicely put Sis. My life became lighter when I came to the site and Dena greeted me. After some wonderful dialog I found I just might be able to pull this off. A year and a half later, the weight of the world has been lifted. I am beginning to see the world in colors I could only imagine before. It is my desire to pay it forward. I will never be able to endure surgeries. In fact the last one I had on my heart almost did me in. But it is what you put out that determines what you receive back. Put out negativity and damn if everything doesn't seem negative. Well I decided to be positive and without all the wonderful people here I would not be able to succeed. Thanks to everyone.
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Devlyn

#3
January 28, 2018, 01:46:03 PM
I was an unofficial greeter here for a long time. I still like the Introductions forum. My profile stats say I've made 2,973 posts in Introductions. I like to think that I've given people hope, actually I know I have. They think:

"God, I  hope I don't turn out like Devlyn."   >:-) :laugh:

For everyone who tries to help people get through it, I always liked this line from an LZ song.

I must have did somebody some good
Oh, I believe I did
I see the smiling faces
I know I must have left some traces

Hugs, Devlyn
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tgirlamg

#4
January 28, 2018, 01:52:20 PM
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on January 28, 2018, 01:46:03 PM
I was an unofficial greeter here for a long time. I still like the Introductions forum. My profile stats say I've made 2,973 posts in Introductions. I like to think that I've given people hope, actually I know I have. They think:

"God, I  hope I don't turn out like Devlyn."   >:-) :laugh:

For everyone who tries to help people get through it, I always liked this line from an LZ song.

I must have did somebody some good
Oh, I believe I did
I see the smiling faces
I know I must have left some traces

Hugs, Devlyn

LZ Rocks and so do you Devlyn Marie!!! 😀
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻
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Megan.

#5
January 28, 2018, 01:55:10 PM
It was the positive support of others that helped me become the happy woman I am today.

I wish that those who might read my post history will see, despite its very real bumps, that a journey can be made from those early dark days into hope and light.

Hope is THE greatest gift we can offer those who find their way to our door, that really must be our message.

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Jessica

#6
January 28, 2018, 07:16:10 PM
If it wasn't for our members taking the time to help each other through hardships that can be overwhelming, Susan's wouldn't be Susan's.  As Megan said, hope is the greatest gift we can offer. 

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere."

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Roll

#7
January 28, 2018, 11:28:42 PM
I will take a moment to share the opening line to my own introduction post...

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Let me start by saying the terror I am feeling right now even just registering for this site and posting this introduction is unreal. As I type this I am not even sure I am going to be able to hit post.

I meant it. My fear was so profound. That was August 22nd of last year. It has been just over 5 months since I've been here, and the ticker in my signature speaks for itself. (Not to mention my profile picture and post count. ;D)
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Another Nikki

#8
January 28, 2018, 11:51:37 PM Last Edit: January 29, 2018, 06:16:09 AM by Another Nikki
Ashley - One of the things you've posted I've kept floating in the background of my mind was about the realization the thing which you've wanted and dreamed about your entire life might actually be within your grasp.  (i'm doing a lousy job of paraphrasing you here)  After working through my own internalized transphobia this past summer; I think the above was/is my next big struggle.

I thought so much about transitioning and living as a woman 25 years ago.  it was like a dream that i knew would never come true...that i felt was forever out of grasp.  So I created numerous reasons why I couldn't/wouldn't/shouldn't so i didn't.  Some of them valid and others not so much.

And here I am 25 years later, with the transition thoughts always present.  And the thought, with inspiration from many of the women here, that it is actually within my grasp.  And the brutally honest admission that deep down I really do want to transition, that I want to live as a woman full time, and with courage and support, I can make that dream come true.

so many of you inspire me :)
"What you know, you can't explain, but you feel it. You've felt it your entire life—that there is something wrong. You don't know what it is, but it's there like a splinter in your mind, driving you mad. It is this feeling that has brought you to me."
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Cindy

#9
January 29, 2018, 02:38:13 AM


Many years ago a very frightened old 'man' who had been struggling with his identity for his whole life joined the site.
There were tears and there was pain.
There was trying to understand why.
There was fear
Then there was hope
Then change and acceptance
Then rebirth
Then cancer and love and support and fight

All because many years ago two lovely Greeters said
"Hi Cindy, Welcome to Susan's. You are with family now and there is no reason to be frightened anymore."
And she wasn't.

And she will try very hard to make sure that this place is as accepting now, and in the future as it was for her.

And thank YOU for making it so.

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VickyS

#10
January 29, 2018, 08:43:28 AM
Well, I amost made it through this post without crying until I got to this part:

Quote from: Cindy on January 29, 2018, 02:38:13 AM
All because many years ago two lovely Greeters said
"Hi Cindy, Welcome to Susan's. You are with family now and there is no reason to be frightened anymore."
And she wasn't.

That just overwhelmed me.  It is so true.  We are a family.  So many struggles, so much hardship and so much love.

Thank you Ashley for posting such a beautiful post and Cindy for making me cry.

Thank you all for being here.  Our family.
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Came out to wife: 17th Jan 18                 Therapy started: 1st Mar 18
Electrolysis started: 10th Apr 18              Referred to GIC: 16th May 18
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Jessica

#11
January 29, 2018, 08:55:57 AM
Quote from: Cindy on January 29, 2018, 02:38:13 AM

Many years ago a very frightened old 'man' who had been struggling with his identity for his whole life joined the site.
There were tears and there was pain.
There was trying to understand why.
There was fear
Then there was hope
Then change and acceptance
Then rebirth
Then cancer and love and support and fight

All because many years ago two lovely Greeters said
"Hi Cindy, Welcome to Susan's. You are with family now and there is no reason to be frightened anymore."
And she wasn't.

And she will try very hard to make sure that this place is as accepting now, and in the future as it was for her.

And thank YOU for making it so.

💕💕💕💕

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere."

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tgirlamg

#12
January 30, 2018, 12:09:09 PM
Roll...

I remember that first post well my dear little sister!!!...For all who are just stepping through the door here... Read her entire post here

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,227505.msg2017601.html#msg2017601

Our sister has blossomed in a million beautiful ways since that day when she showed up... tired from carrying the burdens that many of us carry until the weight is too much and our load must be lightened... Her journey has been, and will be, inspiring to watch and will be testament to the power in taking hold of the steering wheel of your life and setting out with intent to arrive at your chosen destination...

Cindy... As Vicky and Jessica's posts attest... You can bring the message home around here like no one else can dear sister!...  We are all lucky and honored to be sharing this space with you... Thank you for all you do unseen here behind the curtain to keep the light of hope burning in the window as a beacon for those who are coming in out of the darkness...

Nikki... I know you have been searching long and hard to put this puzzle together and make all of the pieces fit and come together in a way that will serve many of your life's considerations... I have faith that you will find that and the puzzle pieces will form a picture of great beauty!!!

Hugs and Love to all of you here and those still out in the darkness...

Onward we go...

Ashley 🌻



"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻
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Janes Groove

#13
January 30, 2018, 02:29:35 PM
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on January 28, 2018, 01:46:03 PM
I was an unofficial greeter here for a long time. I still like the Introductions forum. My profile stats say I've made 2,973 posts in Introductions. I like to think that I've given people hope, actually I know I have. They think:

"God, I  hope I don't turn out like Devlyn."   >:-) :laugh:

For everyone who tries to help people get through it, I always liked this line from an LZ song.

I must have did somebody some good
Oh, I believe I did
I see the smiling faces
I know I must have left some traces

Hugs, Devlyn

Oh my gosh. I only have a sad 64 Introductions posts.  Jane you seriously need to get busy!
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Sonja

#14
March 19, 2018, 02:36:56 AM
Such beautiful words Ashley -so I'm bumping it in the hope that others will find this post.

Bump!

Sonja.
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Jessica

#15
March 19, 2018, 09:19:01 AM
Quote from: Sonja on March 19, 2018, 02:36:56 AM
Such beautiful words Ashley -so I'm bumping it in the hope that others will find this post.

Bump!

Sonja.

I'll bump it too, and adding that two more Official Greeters have joined us!
@Alaskan Danielle and @Steph2.0

Bump!

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere."

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tgirlamg

#16
April 01, 2018, 03:53:27 PM
Sonja and Jessica!

Thanks to you both for the ...Bumps of Hope!!! 😀 I spoke at the University last week and got to expound quite a bit to the youngin's on the role of hope as they move forward in their lives...

Onward we go brave sisters

Ashley Marie 😀❤️🌻
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻
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SammyHatesGreenEggs

#17
April 01, 2018, 03:58:30 PM
This post is beautiful.

It would have been much tougher for me to start and continue transition without seeing the examples and hearing the stories of the wonderful people in this community.  Let's keep up the great work!
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davina61

#18
April 01, 2018, 04:48:17 PM
If it wasn't for this wonderful site I would still be in male mode. I do not have much £££s to spare but put some in the pot when I can , we must keep this running. THANKS to everyone here for help and support and laughter
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Arianna Valentine

#19
July 19, 2018, 02:38:37 PM
I can say thank you to everyone here being here has helped me so much facing the fears of coming out to my family and the rest of the world being myself in public and following my path to happiness by transitioning and becoming who I was meant to be inside and out regardless of being told it's wrong and any disapproval we might get from others everyone here shows us that it is our lives and maybe just maybe ours isn't as bad as someone else's and maybe our experiences can help someone else "brave the storm" of coming out and transitioning.  Sorry if I get off track or go in a random direction lol it happens often when I'm writing something with deep thought.

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