Quote from: PurpleWolf on January 30, 2018, 02:36:25 AM
My other threads might have touched on this topic already, but I wanted to make a new thread for this.
So how did you realize you were really trans? Or came to terms with it?
Most of us must have 'always known' that something was up or thought about it on and off. But how did you finally accept that you were really trans? Like what led to it?
Was it a long process - something you just thought about for years & years and finally accepted it as a fact or came to a conclusion? Or did some specific incident cause that lightbulb to go on?
How did that make you feel?
Anything else you wanna share?
All my life I thought there was something wrong with me. I never heard of "Transgender" or "transsexual" people except when people made some stupid joke about them. I never thought I was one of them. I just seen myself as a broken freak who never fit in.
There has been a conflict raging inside of me all my life. I always felt like I was living in the wrong body. I liked everything to do with being a girl. I hated my male self.
I made up for it by being a tough guy, someone you did not want to cross. Like I said I thought there was something wrong with me. Something to be ashamed of, something that really should be put down like an aging dog. I have tried to kill myself so many times I can't count them.
I even know what it feels and sounds like to hear a loaded gun click with the muzzle in my mouth(only to have it misfire). Each and every time I failed and that made it worse knowing I couldn't even do that one thing right.
The last straw was almost 2 years or so ago. I just gave up. I gave up caring, I gave up eating, I wanted to just go to sleep and never wake back up.
I lost a lot of weight. I got down to around 60 pounds and had lost all appetite and mostly drank water. I don't know why or what led me here but I was just sitting at my computer and ran across this forum. I started to read about what "Transgenderism" was and a light snapped on in my head (could I be?). I really couldn't believe what I was reading.
I then started reading everything I could find on the subject.
Then one night I'm watching the TLC channel and a show comes on called "I am Jazz". OMG that brave, wonderful little girl put into words what I never could and opened my eyes. I think I cried harder than I ever have that day when the realization sank in that I wasn't a freak. I might be fixable, there might be hope.
I found a Doctor in Memphis at a place called "CHOICES - Memphis Center For Reproductive Health" and set up an appointment.
She asked questions about things you wouldn't believe and had me come back in 1 month. She handed me a "Informed consent" paper about HRT and told me to read it and think real hard about starting HRT and if I still wanted it to sign the paper and give it to her when I returned in a month.
Needless to say that was the longest month in my life. I read up on and fully understood the pros and cons of HRT and decided it was what I needed. I knew it would be hard to start life over as a woman especially at 60 yrs old but if it brought me happiness even if for a few days, months, or whatever time I have left on this earth then I was all for it. I went back a month later and handed her the signed paper.
She took all kinds of blood tests and even some I never heard of and handed me a couple prescription papers to have filled for spironolactone and estradiol. I was ecstatic to say the least. I couldn't wait to get home to get the prescriptions filled. I remember running into the prescription shop waving my prescriptions like a victory flag lol. I went shopping after that for womens clothes and threw away all my "male" clothes and have been living as a woman ever since.
I know I will never be good looking and don't really care. I didn't do it because I found some sexual thrill in it. That was not what this was about. This was about repairing a birth defect that happened at birth. This was about saving my life. I would give anything to have known about this years ago. Maybe things would have been better. But you know what? I am not going to sit here and worry about the past or what might have been.
I am finally living my life my way and I am damn happy. Yes for the first time in my life I can honestly say "I am happy". Each day is now a blessing not a curse. It's my wish and prayer that everyone who comes to this forum seeking help finds the peace and happiness I have found. I am so glad this isn't real paper because you would not be able to read it from all the tears that have fallen on it while typing it. I don't cry from sadness any longer. I cry from happiness now and that makes all the difference.
OMG I have never bared my soul so much. I apologize for being so long winded.
Love
Bobbie LeAnn