When did you first have sex after surgery?

[Spunky Brewster]

Hey y'all!

Well I'm almost five months post op ( a few days shy). but I still haven't had sex with my BF. I did have granulation tissue until last month and now he broke his ankle/leg from a fall. But, I really want to, but am still scared. How did you get over any jitters? I only use the blue dilator, not the green monster. He'g big, but fit good anally. So when did you have sex? How do you get comfy with yourself? I can feel my clit when I get turned on, but I still sometimes think about masturbating to a story--which is always about someone getting a vag and then having sex with a man lol...but now that I can I'm afriad he won;t like it, scared a lil, don't want to get hurt....etc. He isn't pressuring me at all, but when did you know you're ready?

[ForeverLacey]

I was ready mentally from day one however, physically I waited until I was completely clear of any granulation which was about 6 months. If you have time to spare I would highly suggest getting used to green and orange prior to losing your virginity, especially if your BF is on the large side.

[Cassi]

What's green and orange?

[natalie.ashlyne]

What's green and orange?

The colour of the dilators you have to insert in your new vagina

[Cassi]

The colour of the dilators you have to insert in your new vagina

Ooooh.  Didn't know they were color coded

[TonyaW]

Ooooh.  Didn't know they were color coded

Pretty sure I've seen pictures of then posted in some of the GCS threads.

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[Cassi]

Pretty sure I've seen pictures of then posted in some of the GCS threads.

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So which one is leaner and meaner;

[TonyaW]

So which one is leaner and meaner;

I have no idea but from this thread is guess the green and orange are the larger ones

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[Cassi]

I have no idea but from this thread is guess the green and orange are the larger ones

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The only thing I've had dialated were my pupils

[itsApril]

. . . but now that I can I'm afriad he won;t like it . . .

Trust me.  He's gonna like it!

I first had vaginal sex at eight months.  But the timing was based on development of my relationship with the guy rather than my recovery from surgery.  Physically I would have been okay with it a couple of months earlier.

By all means, keep on dilating and develop your maximum capacity for width.  Lube is your friend.  And remember, most guys like it kinda tight . . .

Enjoy the ride!

[Dena]

So which one is leaner and meaner;

Soul source is the main provider of dilators and the largest (Big Orange) is an inch and a half in diameter. Not all doctors use these and one would be Dr Meltzer's office who provides some beautifully crafted clear plastic dilators, with #4 being 1.5 inches and #5 a bit larger. The strangest one I heard of came from a former iron curtain country and was made out of metal. I assume it started life as tubing otherwise a set would be pretty heavy.

[HappyMoni]

It's purple, blue, green, and orange, smallest to biggest. I tend to think I would dilate to orange or at least green before doing it. I would wonder if it would really bother you if you tried it and you couldn't do it for lack of width. If you tried it as an experiment, you know, with no pressure, maybe you could  use the info to gauge what needs to be done.
Moni

[Cassi]

Soul source is the main provider of dilators and the largest (Big Orange) is an inch and a half in diameter. Not all doctors use these and one would be Dr Meltzer's office who provides some beautifully crafted clear plastic dilators, with #4 being 1.5 inches and #5 a bit larger. The strangest one I heard of came from a former iron curtain country and was made out of metal. I assume it started life as tubing otherwise a set would be pretty heavy.

Wow, something to look forward to I guess

[Rachel]

I do not look forward to dilation. I have to dilate with purple for 5 minutes then orange 25 minutes every day. I am 1.25 years post op. I can not imaging the pain if I skipped a few days. I have a lot of scar tissue and it would constrict too much in a few day without dilation.

[Karen_A]

The colour of the dilators you have to insert in your new vagina

Must be a new thing... in my day you either got a clear or white plastic set depending on which surgeon you went to... I have some of both... My original set from Meltzer did not go to the same diameter as the ones from Schrang so I bought the largest one from that set and one size larger..

Don't know why I bothered now!

- Karen

[I Am Jess]

I had my first experience about 8 weeks post op.  I didn't have very many issues with healing and I was using the orange dilator within about 6 weeks.  I've had a number of experiences since then and they have all been pretty good.  I'm sure he will like it alot, everyone of my partners has.  You just need to relax and let it happen naturally.  You will know when you are ready but don't let the fear take charge of you.  It's really a beautiful thing having a man inside of you.

This is what the Soul Source dilators look like.

[HappyMoni]

Must be a new thing... in my day you either got a clear or white plastic set depending on which surgeon you went to... I have some of both... My original set from Meltzer did not go to the same diameter as the ones from Schrang so I bought the largest one from that set and one size larger..

Don't know why I bothered now!

- Karen

My dilators were so old...
"How old were they Johnny?"
They were so old, I had to go around the front and hand crank them to get them started.

Sorry, couldn't resist.

[Cassi]

My dilators were so old...
"How old were they Johnny?"
They were so old, I had to go around the front and hand crank them to get them started.

Sorry, couldn't resist.

Hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.  That's kind of old..................................

[noleen111]

I played with a vibrator after about 4 months, I remember I had just finished dilating and I felt curious, so i took out the vibrator my friend had bought me as welcome to having a vagina gift. It actually felt quite good, even a got a small orgasm.

My first experience with a man, was around 6 months. I hooked up with the best man at my friends wedding. (I was a bridesmaid) what was suppose to be a one night stand.. The sex was good and much better than a vibrator.

Why I say suppose to.. well I ended up dating him and then I married him.

And yes, having a man penis inside you is magical and when the man knows how to get your motor going, it even better.

[PollyQMcLovely]

My first experience with a man, was around 6 months. I hooked up with the best man at my friends wedding. (I was a bridesmaid) what was suppose to be a one night stand.. The sex was good and much better than a vibrator.

Why I say suppose to.. well I ended up dating him and then I married him.

That is the coolest thing I've heard in a while.