hello, friends! i will probably delete this/ask a moderator to delete this soon because i just want some quick reassurance, but here it is.
as you may know, i am a convert to judaism. i made this decision after much thought and consideration as through experience and research i believe it is the religion for me - as is the same with any convert to any religion.
i was the victim of a crime a while ago, and when i sought help for said crime - i did not take it to the police - i had to tell my parents some personal details about my romantic and sexual life, out of fear that the person who did it would find out and enact revenge on me.
the other day, my parents decided that the best way to get through the knowledge that somebody had betrayed my trust and committed this crime would be to write up a list of very strict rules so that i 'didn't get myself into that situation again', because i am 'out of control' as can be seen by 'the mess i'm in'. i was upset by this, because it was not my fault that somebody else had made the choice to commit a crime against me, it was the person who did its fault. i went up to my room so i could cry and feel sorry for myself, but my mum followed me. she started to yell at me that the only reason i 'became transgender' and decided to convert was because i apparently derive 'some sort of sick pleasure' from being oppressed. she told me i clearly have some sort of mental sickness that makes me want to be a minority. i'm autistic so i think a lot about what other people say, and this really really hurt me. i can't ask her to apologise because last time i did that she and my dad laughed at me and told me i was 'pushing it', and it's really bothering me. i know i'm trans, and i know i converted for the right reasons, but is this really how people perceive me?
i was wondering if any of you had experiences with similar accusations - being told your transness is a fetish, or a desire for attention, et cetera. and if any of you have words of advice on how to deal with it, because i know for a fact that despite my parents feigning progressiveness, they hate having a trans son, and i will have to get through this on my own.