I do like this thread. I have actually transitioned twice.
The first time some 30 years ago I transitioned in the United Kingdom and lived full time for over 2 years. This was the time when "The News of the World" were doing all those expose's and generally the UK was not too friendly a place. I was under the care of the GIC and on a pretty heavy HRT program and working full time for one of the UK banks as a secretary in Milton Keynes.
What made me transition was being made redundant, and by encouragement from two close Cis females and recommendations from the GIC. By then I had received a lot of Electrolysis and Beauty treatments and during this time I had my Colours done. This had an enormous effect because I was then only using cosmetics (nail polish, lipstick, blusher etc matched to my skin tones) and also wearing clothes again that matched my colours - Autumn.
However after about 2.25 years, I got outed at work and lost my job. It was funny it was a combination of things that gave me away. Not my voice (as I have always had a good singing range), nor An Adams Apple (I have never had one, not hands or feet (mine are very small), but it was a combination of little things. For instance one girl told me one thing that gave me away was the way I ate potato crisps. She said girls take one or two crisps at a time - she said I ate them like a man. She said it was my arm gestures, that i didn't use my wrist movements more. The big thing though that really outed me though was from an evening with my work group at a night club when I ended up dancing too close to a young male colleague who had wandering hands syndrome. After a couple of complaints from older women about my using the ladies toilets, 2 weeks later I lost my job for not disclosing on my application form that I was trans. I remember saying to the Bank - would you have offered me the job if I did disclose it. They said No.
Anyway 30 years on, after all that effort, the changes in society and much more acceptance, I think now I pass pretty well and always aim to blend in and rarely get read, but just last night I was out with a group of Lesbian friends and I was introduced to a new member of the group who then asked if I was Trans. So despite all the effort and practice - some things give me away.
Mind you some 4 years ago I was in Adelaide out for dinner with Cindy and I went to the Ladies and suddenly saw this beautiful woman in the mirror and was shocked to suddenly realise that I did look great - I was finally over the male fail barrier (Cindy of course told me of course you are!).
Then just last year I was in Debenhams in Exeter in Devon and going up the escalator to the first floor (heading to the ladies lingerie section (as they do really nice bras and things) and behind me a woman said excuse me madam, but I just wanted to say that I think you look absolutely wonderful in that gorgeous dress with your matching shoes and handbag. It would be so nice if more women took care on their overall presentation. She turned out to be the floor manager. I was wearing a summers dress (just above the knee), bare arms, pink matching medium heels, pink handbag
So I must be doing something right!
JudithLynn