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Are you perplexed by MTF motivations?

Started by amandam, February 16, 2018, 01:18:06 AM

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Kylo

It's not wasting much of anything if the person never uses it or doesn't know how to use it. . . it's just envy I suppose. I've known plenty of cis women and cis men who just let themselves go. My SO for example has the sort of face an actor would love to have. But he doesn't really care to use it in that way. I do want to be an actor, so it bugs the hell out of me, haha.
"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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WolfNightV4X1

Three pages late to the party, but the thing is transition is never about attractiveness or looks. A lot of guys or girls look attractive pre-transition but that doesnt matter because that's not them, if being trans was about being ugly, so many people with low self esteem would transition to the other sex because they'd supposedly look prettier that way, but no one ever transitions for looks.

Does it play some role? Sure, dysphoria might make people feel negative about their bodies, not take care of themselves, or not view themselves favorably. Vice versa, they might look at the aesthetics of people on the other side of the fence and be like "I want to be pretty like that!" but that isnt to say a general apathy or dysphoria for one's own current gender doesnt come into play.

My case, I could be considered pretty, I guess. I liked my body, I was cute and all...I bet if people looked at me Id look good. I hated being girly though, there was a very strong impulse to move the other way, look different, etc. I look good and feel better now, not just look good.


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AquaWhatever

Not really because I get it!

I have had trans people say some of these things to me
and it annoyes the heck out of me sometimes.

As a female I was considered tall, nice eyes, long brown hair and I always got
"You should model!"
Now I'm a short skinny guy (because 5"8 ish is short in male) with weird eyes
And I couldn't be happier.

I think it shows how serious those trans people are.
You are basically giving up those aspects that some would see as a advantage
"Beauty/handsome privilege".

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amandam

Wow, it seems like FTM's are just like MTF's, just on the other side!
Out of the closet to family 4-2019
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BT04

Quote from: amandam on March 05, 2018, 01:16:50 AM
Wow, it seems like FTM's are just like MTF's, just on the other side!

I couldn't fathom why this wouldn't be the case.
- Seth

Ex-nonbinary trans man, married to a straight guy, still in love. Pre-T, pre-op.
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