No luck in escaping abusive family

[EmilyRyan]

It's now March and still having no luck finding somewhere safe to get away to from my parents (mainly my mom) who continue to be abusive. I've tried basically every resource in the Nashville/Franklin/Spring Hill/Columbia, Tennessee area. Even tried reaching out on Facebook groups and nothing. My co-worker who's been helping is having the same trouble. So yeah I no longer have any idea what to do at this point   

[Elis]

Sorry to hear this; don't give up. Have you tried this site? https://m.spareroom.com/ it's particularly food because you have the option of only choosing lgbt households.  Or there's the new fb group 'Mtf,  ftm,  Non-binary and others Transgender support group' which I've found is very friendly and supportive. Worth a shot putting a post on there

[EmilyRyan]

After searching spareroom.com I found nothing in my area

[Elis]

After searching spareroom.com I found nothing in my area

Forgot to mention; you can also put an ad up for free saying you're searching for a room.

[fairview]

Are you a minor.  If so seeking refuge would classify you as a runaway.   When found local authorities would be obligated to return you to your home.   If your a minor in school inform a teacher you are being abused.  Teachers are required to report abuse to the state child protective agency, you'll be placed in a foster home pending a hearing to determine your best alternative.   

If you're not a minor, move out and be done with it.   

Option A or Option B.   There's no option C that includes plush accommodations.   

[Gertrude]

Are you a minor.  If so seeking refuge would classify you as a runaway.   When found local authorities would be obligated to return you to your home.   If your a minor in school inform a teacher you are being abused.  Teachers are required to report abuse to the state child protective agency, you'll be placed in a foster home pending a hearing to determine your best alternative.   

If you're not a minor, move out and be done with it.   

Option A or Option B.   There's no option C that includes plush accommodations.

Minors can emancipate themselves.


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[KarynMcD]

If you're not a minor, move out and be done with it.

She's in her twenties.

Emily,
Pack a bag. Take all you money. Get on a bus and go to a friendlier part of the country. Don't look back and don't believe your parents for a second time when they tell you to come home and things will be different this time.

[Devlyn]

She's in her twenties.

Emily,
Pack a bag. Take all you money. Get on a bus and go to a friendlier part of the country. Don't look back and don't believe your parents for a second time when they tell you to come home and things will be different this time.

This.

[Bobbie LeAnn]

She's in her twenties.

Emily,
Pack a bag. Take all you money. Get on a bus and go to a friendlier part of the country. Don't look back and don't believe your parents for a second time when they tell you to come home and things will be different this time.

Agreed just do it. I lost my mom when I was 15 and was alone. I had to do a lot of hard jobs growing up.




Love
Bobbie LeAnn

[EmilyRyan]

Emily,
Pack a bag. Take all you money. Get on a bus and go to a friendlier part of the country. Don't look back and don't believe your parents for a second time when they tell you to come home and things will be different this time.

This is what I'd like to do more than anything but if I did this I'll more than likely end up homeless the rest of my life. Even job transferring wouldn't help cause my job doesn't exactly pay that much to afford rent (even with multiple roommates). The lack of resources doesn't help matters along with having a disability and there's no resources to help in that regard either. Thank you for responding though along with everyone else it's that I just don't see a way out unless someone with money is willing to help and that's a pipe dream just like my transition.

p.s. I'm 26 to be exact

[Gertrude]

This is what I'd like to do more than anything but if I did this I'll more than likely end up homeless the rest of my life. Even job transferring wouldn't help cause my job doesn't exactly pay that much to afford rent (even with multiple roommates). The lack of resources doesn't help matters along with having a disability and there's no resources to help in that regard either. Thank you for responding though along with everyone else it's that I just don't see a way out unless someone with money is willing to help and that's a pipe dream just like my transition.

p.s. I'm 26 to be exact

All I can say, and I'm paraphrasing James Allen, as a person believes in their heart, so they are. Until you believe differently, think differently, nothing will change. You make the choices that dictate your outcomes. Choose well.


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[Devlyn]

This is what I'd like to do more than anything but if I did this I'll more than likely end up homeless the rest of my life. Even job transferring wouldn't help cause my job doesn't exactly pay that much to afford rent (even with multiple roommates). The lack of resources doesn't help matters along with having a disability and there's no resources to help in that regard either. Thank you for responding though along with everyone else it's that I just don't see a way out unless someone with money is willing to help and that's a pipe dream just like my transition.

p.s. I'm 26 to be exact

It's a pipe dream that someone will come along and pay your way through life as well as your transition costs, no doubt about that. But you working hard and getting the things you want isn't. When I was 26 I was working 60 -70 hours a week tossing metal castings in bins. No skill or training required. You have to be willing to put the effort in.

[EmilyRyan]

All I can say, and I'm paraphrasing James Allen, as a person believes in their heart, so they are. Until you believe differently, think differently, nothing will change. You make the choices that dictate your outcomes. Choose well.

No clue what you're meaning

It's a pipe dream that someone will come along and pay your way through life as well as your transition costs, no doubt about that. But you working hard and getting the things you want isn't. When I was 26 I was working 60 -70 hours a week tossing metal castings in bins. No skill or training required. You have to be willing to put the effort in.

I am already working hard is simply having a job not good enough?? Plus things are more different now than even 20 years ago most places that used to required no skills now want years of experience plus a degree. Remember it took me two years and god only knows how many applications to finally land a job. I just don't see what's wrong asking for help especially when I'm already putting effort in and that's also dealing with having a disability which when I mention goes ignored and I wonder why.

Anyway I gotta get ready for work

[SailorMars1994]

No clue what you're meaning
I am already working hard is simply having a job not good enough?? Plus things are more different now than even 20 years ago most places that used to required no skills now want years of experience plus a degree. Remember it took me two years and god only knows how many applications to finally land a job. I just don't see what's wrong asking for help especially when I'm already putting effort in and that's also dealing with having a disability which when I mention goes ignored and I wonder why.

Anyway I gotta get ready for work

It is true, times are far far far different now then when the previous generations had to look for work no doubt. I am a cook aspiring to be a chef, however until I have a paper stating my worth (degree, deploma, apprentice) no one is going to care or be willing to lay me a decent wage. it is true if you can't go to college you can try to find a trade and get an apprenticeship. Yes, getting a good job and raising a family in a nice house with a nice car fresh out of high school (or even in your early 20s) is not the reality anymore unless you're super lucky and already well off. But as I said look for an apprenticeship , it will take time but at this point you, and me have no other real options in this regard. Hugs <3

[Allison S]

And maybe some people don't want to work mindless jobs? It is hard out there. Especially jobs interviewing people with no intention of hiring thus wasting other people's time. No way really to get around that usually but I think it's really messed up.

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[SailorMars1994]

And maybe some people don't want to work mindless jobs? It is hard out there. Especially jobs interviewing people with no intention of hiring thus wasting other people's time. No way really to get around that usually but I think it's really messed up.

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Sadly life isn't what you want it to be, it just is. As I said unless you have a degree or something you're gonna be working "mindless" jobs. I would say take it and run and be greatful for it and use it for a launching pad for something better. Work for your goals, it's the only way you can expect better

[Allison S]

Sadly life isn't what you want it to be, it just is. As I said unless you have a degree or something you're gonna be working "mindless" jobs. I would say take it and run and be greatful for it and use it for a launching pad for something better. Work for your goals, it's the only way you can expect better

I did get my college degree and I have a job lol I know that type of work wouldn't be for me. I didn't mean anything is wrong with working those jobs or any job. But also not the only option and like you said it's good to set goals

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[SailorMars1994]

Well congrats on your life ,  ugh I really need to go to collegexD

[EmilyRyan]

It is true, times are far far far different now then when the previous generations had to look for work no doubt. I am a cook aspiring to be a chef, however until I have a paper stating my worth (degree, deploma, apprentice) no one is going to care or be willing to lay me a decent wage. it is true if you can't go to college you can try to find a trade and get an apprenticeship. Yes, getting a good job and raising a family in a nice house with a nice car fresh out of high school (or even in your early 20s) is not the reality anymore unless you're super lucky and already well off. But as I said look for an apprenticeship , it will take time but at this point you, and me have no other real options in this regard. Hugs <3

What are the options for those not cut out for both college and apprenticeships/trades?? That's what I like to know more than anything.

[Bobbie LeAnn]

No clue what you're meaning
I am already working hard is simply having a job not good enough?? Plus things are more different now than even 20 years ago most places that used to required no skills now want years of experience plus a degree. Remember it took me two years and god only knows how many applications to finally land a job. I just don't see what's wrong asking for help especially when I'm already putting effort in and that's also dealing with having a disability which when I mention goes ignored and I wonder why.

Anyway I gotta get ready for work

As I see it you are just looking for a handout and using said "Disability" as an excuse. Like I said when my mother died when I was 15 and I was left alone. I had to work to survive. I took any job I could find. I even lived under a bridge for over a year. Back then you couldn't get a drivers licence until you were 18 yrs old.
I had a learning disability too but I never used it as an excuse and I have a degenerative nerve disease that mimics parkinson's disease. I saved every penny I could and learned the true value of money. If I sat around worrying about being homeless or other useless things I would have never made it.
That's part of growing up. Don't worry about it just set a goal and go for it. If you can't seem to reach your goal in life then find a different way to reach it. Only you are the master of your life. If you don't take control of your life you will find yourself sitting around years from now wondering what went wrong.
I am not picking on you. I am trying to help by giving advice. I have a stepson that I took in to help because his sorry mother never sent him to school (not one day of school) and now he is 23 and has no education and can't read or speak clearly and is very hard to understand.
I was never married to his mom but he is like a son to me and he truly needs help. He moved in with me because his mother is a drunk and sleeps with anything she can. I helped him get a job washing dishes in a restaurant. He has been working there for 2 yrs now and he saves his money. He does help with rent but I only let him help so it will give him a sense of contribution and this place being his home.
Like I said I am not picking on you. If anything I'm trying to show you a little needed "Tough Love".
Please don't think too badly of me because I do care about you and what happens to you. It's just I can't be there to help you and it breaks my heart. Again you have to stand up and take control of your life.




With Love
Bobbie LeAnn