I'm in my early 40's and have been on HRT for about 2 1/2 years, but I'm not out publicly -not even my family knows.
I've told my wife and depending on the day of the week she supports me as long as I don't show it, or talk about it or make any indications of my affinity for feminine things. (And one friend I've known for years)
There's been changes on me that I'm sure someone looking for something would've noticed...long hair, breasts (I try to hide as much as I can in front of others)...but I haven't as much as hinted to dad wanting to be herself.
Lately, -for a few months now, I've this 'thing, feeling eating away..telling me that I should tell them, and shouldn't deceive them anymore. My kids are grown (though they're still my babies) one is almost out of college, his sister is in 9th grade. The older is gay and is moving out with his boyfriend after college. The little one is gender non-conforming, she's told me that she's no, though she couldn't explain it; and I personally think she's dealing with identify issues, been with the therapist on and off since 6th grade.
I don't know when the right time is. I fear I may cause her more identity issues. I don't know how the older one will react. And to top it off, when I commented it to my wife before starting HRT, she told me to wait till after she finishes high school for me to do anything publicly, and that if I ever decided to live as a woman, that would be it for us, And above all else, do not tell the kids the truth till I've decided - if ever, to transition publicly.
What do I Do?
How have any of you handle the coming out part? How did the others take it?
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