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Opinion on Transgender Respect

Started by Wendyway2, March 16, 2018, 04:25:20 AM

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Wendyway2

Hello,

I have always felt a little at odds with convincing myself a class of person is inherently worthy of dignity, praise, honor and respect. In my eyes the LGBT population, myself being Male to Female, benefit more by mutual respect. I would feel uncomfortable if everyone around me started walking around saying I can respect this about you, and that about you. Is being male to female honestly about needing respect, or at a closer look is it really about gender identity, and how we identify naturally. Identifying naturally as the opposite sex, is not the same thing as needing to be respected for one's choice and decision. I don't expect respect for wearing a dress. I only expect that I am not ostracised or outcast from society. That my very human needs for pleasure, and self esteem do not have to be sacrificed  because someone else considers me to be freaky. I am worthy of self appraisal, personality development, and trust in a Higher Power whom I choose to call God,  but the last thing I need is for the red carpet to be rolled out because I make the transition, the transition I make in my case begins purely with self expression, it is not one for which I need a medal of courage for, it is one that must be considered human, and a fundamental characteristic of how some LGBT are born, evolve and develop. Does that mean respected, I suppose, but for the present it is safe to say we need to be respected enough just so we do not have to remain isolated within a framework of a minority, and a tiny social network of people exactly like ourselves.
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softbutchharley

Very well articulated !! I feel you and understand fully what you are sharing with us.
I have felt some of the same type feelings, but never vocalized them as you did. I merely have told a few that mentioned such things ( largely those who knew me pre transition) that my decision to do my life as me was an act of pure desperation. A life or death decision. Not very "courageous" or needing "respect" . I understand as well that some folks are well meaning, but unaware of the things you mentioned. ONE Love says I...one people, one world, ONE Love :) Today I seek to understand rather than be understood as they say. And my transition by NO means defines me or my life. I do not wear a TG sign around my neck lol !!
TY again and best of luck to you dear !!!
Those who deny freedom to others....Do not deserve it for themselves.  Abraham Lincoln
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Gertrude

For me the respect is basic as it would be for any human being. The problem I have with some outside the community is that somehow we're less than human and in some cases considered mentally ill for knowing who we are. Humans are particularly parochial about otherness. If they haven't experienced it, it's either wrong, a sin or at best they feel pity for us. The tribal nonsense of not like us is the most difficult thing for all to overcome. Even within our ranks there is at times a current of what's acceptable in terms of beliefs, behaviors and experiences and we can be shamed for not having the same experiences or beliefs as what seems to be lionized. We're all in the same boat of humanity and I think we need to get together on what we have in common, not divide based on what's difference. What I call tribal nonsense is the cause of much of our problems as individuals: both the unwritten rules and how our families interpreted them in indoctrinating us and how we interpret them insofar as how we see those expectations. Often, the collective crushes the individual.


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