Are people genuinely oblivious?

[CallMeKatie]

I have long hair I wear in female style, I keep clean shaven and weare mascara and a touch of bronzer daily, I wear pink socks and female skinny jeans, I have pink socks.

I never used to dress like this so why aren't people saying anything? Surely they must've noticed something.

It feels weird that I am becoming more and more female looking and nobody is saying anything

[krobinson103]

Most people don't care. Unless they know you from before they are too busy with their own business to care about what someone else wears or how they style their hair. Just be confident and no one will say anything.

[Jamina]

It's a revelation, the fact that after all the agonising you go through before stepping out the door for the first time as your target gender, hardly anyone bats an eyelid.

Partly it's that trans-acceptance is finally starting to happen. But also it's 2018 and everyone is on their damn phone 

[Megan.]

I've posted before on this,  but the realisation I reached that 'people just don't care' is a very empowering one, and not as negative as it would first sound.
I live in the UK, I've been full time for 11 months, and never had anyone confront me directly. Sure I get plenty of glances (especially when I pop to the supermarket with no makeup, t-shirt and jeans), but the reality is people are busy with their own lives, they'll forget you as quickly as they notice you, if they do at all. X

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[Allison S]

Like others said I don't think they generally care. But where I am, location wise, it seems people are noticing. They stare and some men feel the need to say a dumb comment. I just flip my hair and go about my business. They're not important to me.

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[KathyLauren]

The people that matter don't mind.  And the people that mind don't matter.

[Megan.]

The people that matter don't mind.  And the people that mind don't matter.

Yes!!!

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[Northern Star Girl]

Most people don't care. Unless they know you from before they are too busy with their own business to care about what someone else wears or how they style their hair. Just be confident and no one will say anything.

@ krobinson103:  EXACTLY CORRECT.....  and as you stated "be confident" .... if one exudes self-confidence and self-assurance that goes a long way in passing and getting along in one's transition.  In my opinion it doesn't hurt to smile and hold your head up high... and also not dressing to stand out or to make a statement... at least in the middle of your transition process where passing may be an issue.
Danielle

[Northern Star Girl]

The people that matter don't mind.  And the people that mind don't matter.

@ KathyLauren:   I had heard that saying before..... and it is so very true. 
Thank you for bringing it to my remembrance today.   
With your permission I will start using it in some of my various communications at work, at home and at play.
Danielle

[Ashley0808]

I was at the gym yesterday. A C.D. wore a purple tutu, a bad wig, didn't shave their face for 1 to 2 days, but legs were shaved.  She wore a pink zip up hoodie and cleavage that was so large it barely fit into the sweatshirt.

I was looking around some while on a elliptical machine honestly everyone tried to ignore her. 

[KathyLauren]

@ KathyLauren:   I had heard that saying before..... and it is so very true. 
Thank you for bringing it to my remembrance today.   
With your permission I will start using it in some of my various communications at work, at home and at play.
Danielle

It's an old saying.  It's certainly not mine, so you don't need my permission.  Go wild. 

[Northern Star Girl]

Like others said I don't think they generally care. But where I am, location wise, it seems people are noticing. They stare and some men feel the need to say a dumb comment. I just flip my hair and go about my business. They're not important to me.

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@ Allison S:   YES, you have a great attitude and mind-set about all of this. 

For me location wise, I am in a very conservative and very small town and I just go about my business with my head held high, dressed and groomed appropriately in a way to not stand out (especially at my business) ...  and I always try to present myself as confident and self-assured in who I am....

.....and as KathyLauren stated so appropriately:
"The people that matter don't mind.  And the people that mind don't matter."

Danielle

[Northern Star Girl]

I was at the gym yesterday. A C.D. wore a purple tutu, a bad wig, didn't shave their face for 1 to 2 days, but legs were shaved.  She wore a pink zip up hoodie and cleavage that was so large it barely fit into the sweatshirt.

I was looking around some while on a elliptical machine honestly everyone tried to ignore her.

@ Ashley0808:  That is so sad

I see that you have already introduced yourself on the Introductions Forum and have been Welcomed to Susan's.
Thanks for joining us and I am glad that you are getting involved in conversations here. 
Again, may I say WELCOME TO SUSAN'S

Danielle

[Geeker]

I have long hair I wear in female style, I keep clean shaven and weare mascara and a touch of bronzer daily, I wear pink socks and female skinny jeans, I have pink socks.

I never used to dress like this so why aren't people saying anything? Surely they must've noticed something.

It feels weird that I am becoming more and more female looking and nobody is saying anything

First of all, I LOVE how you mention pink socks twice. Seriously.

Secondly, If the changes were gradual they probably don't notice. Or it could just be, like others have said, people really just don't care because they're to absorbed in their own stuff.

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[Kylo]

Most people won't say anything since most people are not rude or outspoken.

But then you get used to that and eventually encounter the one or two who are, which is sometimes surprising. You start to wonder what it is about those people that make them different. Something in the brain.

[Maddie86]

I think people have probably noticed but don't want to say anything because they don't want to offend you by making assumptions. I know this was the case with me, friends of mine have told me about other friends asking about me behind my back lol. Even when I came out to close friends a lot of them have said that they were wondering about this for a long time but they didn't want to bring it up because they figured I would talk when I was ready, and now that I'm ready I won't shut up! 

[CallMeKatie]

First of all, I LOVE how you mention pink socks twice. Seriously.

Secondly, If the changes were gradual they probably don't notice. Or it could just be, like others have said, people really just don't care because they're to absorbed in their own stuff.

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What can I say? I love my pink socks haha

[Northern Star Girl]

What can I say? I love my pink socks haha

@ Katie:  I love 💕 pink clothing and shoes and earrings and lipstick and...etc, etc.
Even before I transitioned I liked pink but in my old male mode I dare not dress in a lot of pink other than a pink shirt or necktie ....  women's clothing choices and colors are so much more fun!!!
Danielle

[Jessica]

Pink is my favorite too.  And my pink loafers are my favorite

[krobinson103]

I love my pink mouse for the computer. They can make me wear boring clothes at work but they can't take my pink mouse!