First of all sorry fir the long post. [emoji52]
I've been seeing a therapist since September 2017 for gender related stuff. Ever since then I've been feeling guilty of wanting to transition and come out to my family. Right now it is easy for me to hide everything from them as my family and I live in different countries. I feel guilty because I am the only child in my whole big family (grandpa, mom, dad, dad's brother and his wife, dad'sister and her husband). They have worked very hard throughout their whole lives to reach where they are now and have worked hard for me too to send me to a foreign country for my studies. Even though I have pretty much taken care of myself (both funancially and physically) since i was 17, I still feel that I am crushing their hopes and dreams by wanting to transition. I want all of them to have a relaxed and happy old age because they deserve it and I feel that if I transition it will not be the case for them. All their hopes are literally in 1 basket (me). I will definitely pay off all the money they spent for me to be here (already halfway through) but I want to do a lot more than that for them.
They definitely will not understand me being trans and will be SERIOUSLY dissapointed. My parents will either disown me or be very angry or go into kind of hopeless depression and I do not want to be the cause of that. They have done a lot for me and I want to return a lot more than what they have done. I do not feel obligated; I sincerely want to make their lives as relaxed as possible and I know that if I transition or even come out it will be bad for them. But at the same time I feel that I need to transition too. I already regret that I didnt "find myself" earlier and did not start transitioning. Both these needs are equal to me (transitioning outweighs other by a little from time to time) but I'm pretty sure that doing one will not let me do the other. Other being setting up a peaceful retirement for my family.
I'm really really confused about what to do. I want to start transition now at least the hrt and the surgeries can wait a couple of years; but, I do not want to disappoint my family, especially after everything they've done for me.
Thanks for the help! ☺
XO
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