On The Brink of coming out - and freaking out

[christinag]

Hi Everyone,

I've only posted once before so I'm still new here. But I'm grateful to have somewhere to talk. A couple of weeks ago, I told my HR person about transitioning MTF.  She's very supportive and wasn't surprised.

The timeline was to show my coming out letter to the CEO tomorrow. The letter would be handed out to the staff (small company) the next day as I take the day off.

I've been ready to tackle this, but this past weekend has been especially tough.  My mother, who's been very supportive, suddenly started questioning everything I doing. I think she's fearful of the family falling apart. My wife is NOT supportive at all. I confirmed my Tuesday timeline with her over the weekend and, as you can imagine, more blowups.

I'd love to hear from those who have transitioned about their possible last-minute freak outs. I'd also love to hear from - or stories of -  wives who were didn't support the transition, but MAYBE came around at some point.

I'm tempted to postpone coming out this week because of fear and guilt.  If I do, if I keep postponing this, I fear it'll never happen. And yet, I've told my wife I can't go back to who I was. Unfortunately, that also means she doesn't have the person she married.

I'm rambled enough.  I hope enough to elicit some thoughts.

Thank you!

Christina

[MariaMoore]

Hi Christina, I feel the same way. I've been trying to come out to my parents for a few months now, but I can't sweep together enough courage to tell them. They're both very supportive and my father said he would still love me no matter how I identify. It's just scary. I never had to come out when I identified as a cis gay male because my parents found out on my Facebook.

Hugs, Maria.


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[Shambles]

Im still very much in the closet but i dont think theres any shame in postponing a week or so. Ots whatever you feel best. Just because u dont do it this week doesnt mean you never will. If u need alttle more time to allow for close fam then so be it. On the other hand if u did do it this week it might make life more stable for you after to takle the fam.

Im sure ull get advise from ppl who have been in your shoes but whichever way u decide- dont sweat it, do things at your own pace