Things that rock about being Trans., MTF or FTM.

[Berliegh]

This thread is just like everything else in life.  There are those with positive and negative outlooks...those that take things lightly and those that stress things alot.  Some have good experiences, some have bad....some are lucky enough to transition early some later in life...some have support, some don't.  Thats just the oppoiste ends of the spectrum, there is always those that fall in between somewhere.

We all will and do experience things differently.  Sometimes it's all in how we view and accept things. There are so many factors out there and despite how somebody views the tranisition or how we got (or get) there, somewhere there is a positive to being who you are and where you are now.  Maybe it just hasn't surfaced yet...or it has and too stuborn to see it.

I don't think it's a case of positive or negative outlooks....I just think some of us are living in a different world to others and have to face more reality situations. No one is wanting to be deliberately negative but at the same time transition in not a 'game' or a 'fun past time' and should not be made light of.

Try reading some of the posts in 'Things that hurt about being TS' for a reality check...

[Rachael]

Kimmie Makes an important distinction...
her LIFE rocks now.... BECAUSE she transitioned.
Trans itself does not rock in any way shape or form.
R

[Dev]

I've read the post and I really don't need a reality check. I know life sucks for me and has for a long time.  I have read numerous post about people who have lost family, children, etc.  Not trying to say that is not a bad thing, but each person's experience is differnet and how they handle/see things.  I have never once posted anything about my life and how it sucks other then saying I wish I could start T now and change my voice.  Some of the things people lost in transition I lost long ago, some of the things people lost I will never get to experience and I am still decently young.  I envy the good and bad of people who can say they at least experienced something.    The words here are text so I can't assume somebody is making light of something.  It does not have the feeling or emotion attached.   I may even be misunderstanding what I am reading above this post and if so I appoligise. 

[Berliegh]

I've read the post and I really don't need a reality check. I know life sucks for me and has for a long time.  I have read numerous post about people who have lost family, children, etc.  Not trying to say that is not a bad thing, but each person's experience is differnet and how they handle/see things.  I have never once posted anything about my life and how it sucks other then saying I wish I could start T now and change my voice.  Some of the things people lost in transition I lost long ago, some of the things people lost I will never get to experience and I am still decently young.  I envy the good and bad of people who can say they at least experienced something.    The words here are text so I can't assume somebody is making light of something.  It does not have the feeling or emotion attached.   I may even be misunderstanding what I am reading above this post and if so I appoligise. 

Great reply Devlin. But my point was that some people make light of transitioning and see it as a game or some kind of trip. There are nice things that can happen during transition and one of them is not being seen or thought of as a transsexual, which is what we are trying to achieve and what a transition is primarily about.

[Rachael]

I ask this; What specifically, about being Androgyne, CD, transgender, or transsexual, is good?
Because as far as being transsexual goes, all it has brought is pain, whereas getting past it, is making my life worth living. Some people seem to confuse being transsexual with thier new happy life, not having the right body and being a normal member of society...
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[Maebh]

I ask this; What specifically, about being Androgyne, CD, transgender, or transsexual, is good?
Because as far as being transsexual goes, all it has brought is pain, whereas getting past it, is making my life worth living. Some people seem to confuse being transsexual with thier new happy life, not having the right body and being a normal member of society...
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I can only speak for myself.
When I was younger, isolated and confused I thought that being transgendered, CD was a curse. Why couldn't I be like other boys and belong?
But then I discoverd that it was a challenge, it gave me the opportunity to ask myself questions about my identity, my true nature, my sexuality, it forced me to step outside the norm and try to experience the fullness of my identity. It gave me insights and empathy with the female experience and in doing so freed me of the imposed limitations of gender roles. It opened my eyes and heart to all kinds of oppressions.
Through trial and errors I have come to term with who I am, it wasn't always easy but I in the process I developped a better understanding and acceptance of diversity. It made me develop a frame of mind and tools to deal with adversity. This has enriched my life so much that I can frankly say that I have no regrets.

Light, Love, Laughter and Respect.

Maebh

[tekla]

To me, being 'happy' and being 'a normal member of society' are antithetical ideas.

[cindybc]

Hi
To whom it may concern.
I lost family as well and my only daughter I can't even track down her address so I can send a letter and maybe give her a phone number to contact me. I have a niece who wrights to me but does not acknowledge me by the right name. I have a sister who included her phone number with my Nieces letter. I believe that she is the one who should call me.

My niece I will continue to stay in touch with, and so will I continue searching for my daughter and pray I am able to track down her address somehow.

The transitioning I do not believe we are ever done with, it's like a life long experience in how to live our newly acquired lives. I don't let it get me down, I love dressing up for what ever occasion and I love going any damned place I please down town. I enjoy working with other Transgirls. 

I much prefer to be one of those that thinks positive otherwise I think it would be awful boring thus my positive outlook on life I had to really fight for, but I am quite content with life today. I know every one gets a bitch day but the trick is to not let it take you down. I worked on a job I really loved doing for seven years as Cindy and that I will say was the most wonderful experience, excluding my childhood, I had in the past fifty years of my life.

Right awn Cowgirl!!!!!! Yahooooooooo!

Cindy     

Posted on: January 12, 2008, 06:27:00 PMHi Maebh
It appears that you and I have some very similar positive ideas and feelings as I about our experience in transitioning. Thank you for posting your thoughts.  Maebh Warrior Queen meet the Dunes of Mars Warrior Princess.

Cindy

[Maebh]

Cindy     

Posted on: January 12, 2008, 06:27:00 PM
Hi Maebh
It appears that you and I have some very similar positive ideas and feelings as I about our experience in transitioning. Thank you for posting your thoughts.  Maebh Warrior Queen meet the Dunes of Mars Warrior Princes.

Cindy

Hi Cindy.

You were a TS who had to transition to become the woman that you are and knew you were, while I am a CD who encompass and embrace both the male and female aspects as an expression of my full identity. Despite these differences the challenges we had to face in coming to term with our identity and the outward expression of our true self in overcoming the gender barriers has made us strong and positive.
Yes we are both Warriors and Lovers (of life) too! And who knows, by sharing with others on this site we might even in some ways become Teachers and Healers as well?

LLL&R

Maebh

[cindybc]

Hi Maebh
Yes you are quite correct. I came back to this board after being away for seven years with the very intent of teaching as well as learn and to do some healing where needed, yes that for certain. If anyone is interested I have a thread called Empaths and Empathy in the spiritual forum.

By the way Wing Walker did a series of different searches on the web and located my daughter. Doesn't that just rock??? 

Cindy

[Maebh]

By the way Wing Walker did a series of different searches on the web and located my daughter. Doesn't that just rock??? 

Cindy

Great news Cindy!
You must be excited... Best and most sincere wishes for a happy outcome for all of you.

LLL&R

Maebh 

[Sarah]

EDIT: I included the words MTF and FTM as there was some confusion over what the meaning of "trans" meant with regard to this thread. Hopefully these additions will clarify that.

Posted on: January 13, 2008, 12:37:11 PM

Hi Maebh
Yes you are quite correct. I came back to this board after being away for seven years with the very intent of teaching as well as learn and to do some healing where needed, yes that for certain. If anyone is interested I have a thread called Empaths and Empathy in the spiritual forum.

By the way Wing Walker did a series of different searches on the web and located my daughter. Doesn't that just rock??? 

Cindy

Awesome! Cindy!
That does rock!
Sara

[cindybc]

Thanks Sara hon

Well I am not going to be on the board long today, Wing Walker and I are part of the team in setting up a Renfest here in Vancouver. I enjoy it, it's going to be as close as I will ever get to acting. I may get my name in the National Enquirer yet. "Hee, hee, hee." 

http://www.bcrenfest.com

Cindy

[Sarah]

Being able to constantly confront my fear,
And pass through it.