I am the HUNTED PREY : Danielle’s Chronicles

[KathyLauren]

Well, Allison, in your reply regarding Alaska.... while this state and especially the very small towns, of which there are many.... tend to be very conservative....  BUT this is also a place that people come to get away from big cities, past problems and to get a way from people in general, so there is a big mix of people with various backgrounds, many of them don't want others in their business, and therefore they don't get into other people's business also.  Live and let live seems to be the motto here.

I think this is true of many small communities.  If you become a participant in the community, you become "one of us", and little things like coming out are easier for others to accommodate.  I found the same thing in the little fishing village I live in, population about 300.

I can think of lots of things I could have done that would have sabotaged my transition: moving here already transitioned; being too flamboyant; keeping to myself; being a rabble-rouser.  But by pure luck, I didn't do any of those things.  I was here a couple of years before I came out, and became accepted in the community; I dress conservatively (dressy casual); I have mingled with the locals at social events since I first got here; I volunteer with the fire department.

So, while I am undoubtedly the first transgender person any of the residents have met, they already knew me as a community member and neighbour.  I may be a weird tr***y to some of them, but at least I am their weird tr***y.

[Northern Star Girl]

I think this is true of many small communities. If you become a participant in the community, you become "one of us", and little things like coming out are easier for others to accommodate.  I found the same thing in the little fishing village I live in, population about 300.

I can think of lots of things I could have done that would have sabotaged my transition: moving here already transitioned; being too flamboyant; keeping to myself; being a rabble-rouser.  But by pure luck, I didn't do any of those things.  I was here a couple of years before I came out, and became accepted in the community; I dress conservatively (dressy casual); I have mingled with the locals at social events since I first got here; I volunteer with the fire department.

So, while I am undoubtedly the first transgender person any of the residents have met, they already knew me as a community member and neighbour.  I may be a weird tr***y to some of them, but at least I am their weird tr***y.

@ KathyLauren:   YES I agree with everything that you stated.... I have been in my very little town for over a year and a half before my official "reveal" last night.  I also dress quite conservatively not trying to draw attention to myself... and as a business woman dealing with my clients finances I think that is very important.  I also get involved in charity food kitchens, charity walks and runs and the local marathon, and more.   
Because I took the time and initiative to fit-in and to get involved... my townspeople friends, clients, neighbors, merchants, etc.   all see me as one of their own.
As with you, I am more than likely the very first trans-woman that they have met.
Thanks for your reply.
Hugs,
Danielle

[Northern Star Girl]

Thanks Danielle all your openness.  So glad the burden is lifted.  Your town sounds great, and that they see you for the amazing and positive woman you are.  They are blessed to have you there!

Can't wait to hear what's next...I kept checking over the day rather than working

Karen.

@ Karen:  Today I have also had a very difficult time trying to get to my work on my desk that needs to be done....  it will be a late night for me tonight trying to catch up....  the federal IRS income tax deadline is over the weekend so I have been getting slammed with the procrastinators bringing in their mess of paperwork for me to straighten out and get their taxes filed on time and mailed and post marked by the deadline.  Since the mail here doesn't get picked up on Sundays nor on the Monday holiday... I need to tell them to pick them up and mail them early on the Saturday.noon pickup and not wait until after Monday.
Many thanks for writing,
Danielle

[HappyMoni]

Wanted to thank you for your reply, now I'll let you work. Imagine April 17 can't come soon enough for you. 
Moni

[Northern Star Girl]

Wanted to thank you for your reply, now I'll let you work. Imagine April 17 can't come soon enough for you. 
Moni

Moni: Shhhh... shhhh.... please don't tell my procrastinating clients, I tell them they need to straighten out and mail their stuff on the Saturday the 14th and not wait till the official post mark date of April 17th .... up here, this small town knows nothing about the Monday April 16th  holiday. ,, If they knew that the IRS delayed the filing 2 days because of Sunday and Monday (no mail pickup)... some of these clients would be coming in to drop off their mess of paper work on Tuesday morning the 17th !!!!!  Actually I may take the day off on Wednesday April 18th.
Danielle

[Gertrude]

@ Gertrude:   Actually, aside from my recent coming-out dilemma that is now mostly done.... I rather enjoy going places around town, bumping into people on the street I know by name, doing business with stores and restaurants where they know my name and I know theirs.   

It is very comforting for me to know that if my car gets stuck on the road, or I am in distress or whatever that I will know that there will be people that I know that will stop and help... or that I can call people I know and get help and not from strangers that may or may not be of the best character. 

Here the townspeople are very trusting once they get to know you.  Of course, like anywhere one goes there are always the misfits, criminals and untrustworthy people but they are mostly difficult to find.

The big drawback here is that I have to drive a very long way to get to any large city like Anchorage or a smaller big city like Fairbanks.   Anchorage is a little closer and that is where I go when I want to go to Costco once every 6 to 8 weeks to stock up and to go shopping... or to go to a medical specialist like my endo..    That inconvenience is more than offset by all the good things about living here....  no sirens at night, no heavy traffic, no freeways nor even any 4 lane roads, and only 4 stoplights.  And the scenery here is spectacular... the in-town views and views from my home of snow capped mountains is breathtaking ... ..  nearby skiing and hiking, etc.... and lots of fishing and hunting opportunities.

All in all, I really like my small, tight knit, and local parochial setting as compared to a large city where one can get "lost" in the crowd.... but I do understand that there are people that do want to get lost in the crowd... not really knowing some of the their neighbors or merchants, and lots of traffic and congestion.. 

Thank you for your reply, I respect your opinion and I am glad that you voiced it.
Danielle

I find that I tend to swing between needing alone time and wanting to gave contact with others. I spend a decent amount of time by myself at work and then I find I'll need contact, overdose and go back to solitude. I get my fill of people quickly. In NY where I'm from, you could move in to a place and no one would talk to you for months. When I moved to IOWA, it's like where you live. It took me a long time to adjust to it.


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[Northern Star Girl]

LATEST UPDATE about (female) Suitor #4 ...  when I was at dinner at her home last night while we were finishing off the 2 bottles of wine while sitting on the sofa couch by her warm fireplace... she kept on moving closer and closer to me and touching my hands and shoulder frequently as we were conversing....
 
Well, it was no secret to me that she was  coming-on  to me and she made the point that it might be nice to go out together in the future....  she even brought up that the next time we go to Anchorage for our every 6 to 8 week shopping trip at Costco and other stores that it would be nice if it were just her and I this time instead of 3 or 4 gals as we usually do.  Just so you know, the Anchorage trip is a very long drive and usually it involves an overnight stay.... I am certain that she would be expecting to share a room.  And when I was getting ready to leave her home last night, she was super "friendly" and was very sympathetic about the transgender thing that I was going through and coming out to the townspeople. 

She gave me a super-long and close hug and kissed me on the cheek and she told me that she really felt close to me then I left for my home.....   
....so, it looks like my new Suitor #4 is quite interested in me and frankly I am now interested in her too.... she is very attractive and seemingly attracted to me as well.

More about this very soon with an update about this new adventure for me.  I would be fibbing if I did not tell you that I am very nervous about all of this.
If this relationship would progress the townspeople then could be talking about a lesbian relationship in addition to their local trans-woman.
Danielle

[Nicole70]

OMG, I am loving these chronicles Danielle, I've been hooked from the start, so happy for you, keep it coming.

Nicole

[Cassi]

Hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.  Very interesting!

I still want the book and movie rights!!!!!!

[islandgirl]

Sounds exciting Danielle! No. 4 sounds like a great choice as she is the one, so far, that you have expressed such feelings about! Never a dull moment in your little town. Future community news will be interesting as usual!

[Roll]

Or, food for thought, get both suitor #1 and suitor #4 and live the dream. 

[Northern Star Girl]

Or, food for thought, get both suitor #1 and suitor #4 and live the dream. 

@ Ellie:  Interesting idea that you mentioned, I could even include Suitor #3 ....  forget Suitor #2, I am not interested in him at all.
However I am not into group stuff although I have never tried or gave it much thought.  I am a one-person at a time relationship person....
Daniellle

[Roll]

@ Ellie:  Interesting idea that you mentioned, I could even include Suitor #3 ....  forget Suitor #2, I am not interested in him at all.
However I am not into group stuff although I have never tried or gave it much thought.  I am a one-person at a time relationship person....
Daniellle

Just thought I'd play devil's advocate!

[Jessica]

Danielle, let me thank you again for starting this thread.  Not only will you document your adventures here (and your personal hard copy) but you have given hope to every single person at Susan's Place that is just looking for a happy life.

Your friend, Jess

[Cassi]

Or, food for thought, get both suitor #1 and suitor #4 and live the dream. 

Nice new Avatar!!!!!

[pamelatransuk]

Danielle, let me thank you again for starting this thread.  Not only will you document your adventures here (and your personal hard copy) but you have given hope to every single person at Susan's Place that is just looking for a happy life.

Your friend, Jess

Danielle

This is precisely right - not one iota of exaggeration - you give hope to us all. You are so positive, sociable and a great motivator.

I am so glad the stress of your past has now been resolved with a more than happy outcome.

I look forward to all your updates which I read later as I am in UK and 9 hours ahead of you. 11.30 am now.

One minor point if I may small businesses here usually file tax returns online. Is that not permitted in US? Is it voluntary? Just wondered. Thanks

Pamela

[Allison S]

Aww how sweet... I'm the same with relationships. I really hope you're in the lesbian relationship and then you can post a pictute of the two of you! I wanna see what you two look like together [emoji846]
It's too bad I found out my roommate has a girlfriend now. And all this time I thought he was coming on to me, but nothing was direct like it is for you. I'm happy things are going so well for you! I'll admit I'm a bit envious [emoji4]

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[Colleen_definitely]

Danielle, you are definitely living the dream.  Procrastinating pain in the butt customers aside of course.

[Chelsea]

Danielle, this is a awesome update!
I'm putting my vote in for suitor #4 and yes it would be nice to see a pic of you two sometime!
I love the new avatar pic also

Hugs,
       Chelsea

[Northern Star Girl]

Danielle

This is precisely right - not one iota of exaggeration - you give hope to us all. You are so positive, sociable and a great motivator.

I am so glad the stress of your past has now been resolved with a more than happy outcome.

I look forward to all your updates which I read later as I am in UK and 9 hours ahead of you. 11.30 am now.

One minor point if I may small businesses here usually file tax returns online. Is that not permitted in US? Is it voluntary? Just wondered. Thanks

Pamela

@ Pamela:  Thank you for your kind reply.....
Yes, also here in the USA anyone can file electronically...and more and more are doing it....   but before my clients can "E-file" they need to have all of their numbers in order... deductions, income, etc....   there are some (actually there are many) folks that just do not keep their records in good and proper order to be able to file a tax return that won't be rejected and/or will give them their legal advantages regarding the taxes they will have to pay... and some don't claim  many of the benefits that they should.....

......   so, yes, many of my clients E-file and/or have me assist them.   
So many clients will bring me a big box of scrambled papers, receipts, forms, etc.... and then want me to straighten it all out for them  (for a fee of course... the bigger the mess and more complicated the filing,  the higher my bill)

The usual annual deadline here is April 15th... then if that date is conflicted with weekends and holidays... the Tax due date will usually be the next business day after the weekend and/or holiday. 
... This year the revised date is April 17th that a mailed return has to be postmarked or an E-file has to be submitted.   
I am encouraging all of my clients that I want to have those tasks completed on Friday April 13th or Saturday April 14th.... so I won't be in a last minute crush of work....  After April 17th I plan on taking a few days off....

Again, thanks for writing.   
Hugs,
Danielle