Quote from: JudiBlueEyes on May 14, 2018, 12:09:21 PM
OK Danielle maybe I missed it, but how did you end up selecting the town you live in to start over? I am so curious. I recall you saying you lived previously in the western continental US. The small town I live in doesn't have a tenth of the activity your town has!! We have 6000 people in 20 sq miles, mostly rural.
Judi
@JudiBlueEyes Well, this calls for a longer than planned reply to you, many of the details of my relocation are back there somewhere on my thread and also on some other various threads around Susan's, but I will give you the "not so short story" in my reply, and this time I will add a few details that I had not revealed before.
Before I came-out full time over a year and a half ago I was an accounting executive in a medium sized firm as my old male-self.
To my family, when I announced my transition plans over 4 years ago my parents and close long time friends just about wrote me off and disowned me. Then a year later I started HRT (over 3 years ago in March 2015) and that just added to the isolation from those that I have known for so long including my immediate family, plus, at my job it was becoming obvious to all that "something" was happening to me. I felt that the job thing was going to be difficult with my new trans self plus my family and friends and even my acquaintances were very distant with me... their small talk and conversations were always guarded and very brief. More details about my parents and life long friends and how they have continued to avoid and disown me and to not accept me are in this thread somewhere.
***The bight spot I am so happy about is that when I called my mother on the phone this last Christmas, while it was a nervous and truncated conversation, when we ended the call she said.. "I love you Danielle." That was the
very first time ever that someone in my family or anyone back where I lived before has called me by my female name.
I had been a moderator on an Accounting Forum that had national scope and I had found out that one of the members that for years that I exchanged many posts with, an older gentleman, was giving up his small Accounting and Tax business in a far away, and very small remote town in the middle of nowhere. Wow, that sounded like an ideal situation for my given the issues that I mentioned in my previous paragraph.
After I researched the opportunity, I found out by talking to one of the city businessmen that there were no other CPAs or accounting businesses anywhere nearby for miles and miles. I immediately, without going there, put a deposit on the lease for the office space that the older gentleman had on the forum I was on and had described to me. I trusted him and I am glad I did. The businessman there sent me pictures and descriptions about the town and about the previous business. I have never been married and have no children and therefore relocation was fairly straight forward. That was in December 2016... I immediately quit my male accounting job, went Full-Time and made the move. I sold my home in less than 2 weeks, packed my downsized stuff in a moving van and relocated to start my own business as a self-employed woman. A real Leap of Faith for sure.
I have been passing without difficulty for well over 2 and a half years so that was not an issue and I was not going to make big proclamations about being a trans-woman, especially to the townspeople in a very conservative small town.
Once I arrived there and set up my business, I was worried that perhaps I should have relocated to a large city where I could get lost in the crowd, but my worries were for not. I made lots of friends, acquaintances and developed many business clients very quickly, much more quickly than in a large city I think.
Until very recently no one in this town had the slightest idea about me being a trans-woman, I had developed a close network of cis-female friends that I hung around with and regularly go to the gym with... and they had no idea
about my past male existence. I was certainly worried about the day that I would come out to the people here and also I was drawing attention from several romantically interested parties, I guess that the new girl in town draws a lot of attention. Well about a month or so ago, it all came out with very positive results and acceptance with very few exceptions... those details are all throughout my thread here.
So
@JudiBlueEyes, that should catch you up to what is happening in my life.
Sorry for the length of my reply post, but the story really can't be told in just a few sentences. I won't blame any of my readers when seeing the length of this reply claiming TLDR (Too Long Didn't Read) and moving on.
Thanks for your reply and your question on my thread.
Hugs, Danielle
