Quote from: SadieBlake on July 22, 2018, 07:55:10 AM
Very few of us get that (for want of a better word I'm going to say heteronormative) experience Danielle. Nearly all of us experience upheaval in relationships, both family and partner. I'm always tempted to think that those who figured it out before puberty have a luckier roll of the dice, however I know the truth is that there's no easy lives in the long run.
Much as I'm awaiting word of progress with your suitor(s), I think we all know that these things work themselves out in the context of becoming our selves and that's fundamentally a solo journey. I've made similar choices as you and have almost all my life had a relatively flexible schedule. My daughters are now adults and I'm happy with my relationships with both of them. I'm finally able to again explore being polyamorous (dysphoria kept me from pursuing anything for over a decade). I'm seeking whatever love comes into my life and that's happening one friend at a time.
I'm hoping to hear that you've spent a happy weekend.
Sadie
@SadieBlake Dear Sadie: Thank you for your thoughtful reply. It is so sweet of you to confirm to me that I am not alone with my feelings.... Yes, you are correct, we are fundamentally on a
"solo journey" no matter what the other details are regarding our lives. It is indeed up to each one of us to chart our own path and to make the decisions that we do.
Ahhh, yes indeed, much as you do, I'm always seeing whatever love and relationships come into my life ... one new friend, one new acquaintance and one new possible love interest.... ONE AT A TIME.
I do not wait for new friends to come to me, I am usually the first one to say hello, greet strangers with a big smile, start a casual conversation, etc....
My "weapon" of choice that fits my personality is a big smile and cheery greeting or a word of encouragement if they appear to be down. That usually disarms anyone that is approached.
The excerpt that you quoted in your reply post was just me thinking too much and being very melancholic and introspective about how my life has been turning out. I know that I am so very fortunate in so many ways but ... you know... human nature tells us that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence... so of course my mind wanders over there from time to time... Thank you for helping to get back on course.
Thank you for your most kind and sweet words and sharing your thoughts.
Also, thank you for reading, following and commenting here... please continue to come here often.
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle