Personally, I find it's easiest to just do whatever comes naturally. I understand where you're coming from and why it's important to you, but everyone has some traits or mannerisms that might not fit the typical binary. For me, I tend to cross my legs knee over knee, whereas my partner crosses her legs with her ankle resting on her knee. On the other hand, I HATE wearing my hair up in a ponytail, but it's her go-to on a daily basis. Both of us just do whatever is the most physically comfortable for ourselves.
I also find that when I feel less dysphoric, it shows to everyone around me, and subsequently I get clocked less. I find the stuff that makes me feel the best is when I have time to wax my legs (and every once in a while, my arms), when I can actually get a spa / pamper day in, and even just wearing my favorite pajamas around the house. I'm sure everyone has their own things that make them feel less dysphoric on days when they might be experiencing it, but I think it's important to embrace the things that make you YOU.
I don't know how much this'll help, but I hope some part of this may.
*edited for grammar
