This is such a hard topic because it is so situational. I try to make the distinction between intentional misgendering and unintentional.
For example, I had to go to LabCorp a few days ago for some lab work and in their system they show me as F but still dead name since that has not legally changed. One of the three employees I interacted with insisted on referring to me as he/him/his. I was nearly in tears because she made such a point of using the pronoun repeatedly. So when the survey came out, I had some very pointed remarks.
On the other hand, the gender neutral pronoun in the English language is HE, so every female in an English speaking society gets misgendered unintentionally on a frequent basis. I know there are gender neutral pronoun attempts but I personally find them silly. So when someone without thinking refers to me in a male pronoun as a neutral or default, I do not think twice about it.
Daddy is quickly becoming an issue though. I love my kids more than words can say, however this is one that has on multiple occasions frustrated me so much that it has brought me to tears. As I look more and more feminine and pass more frequently and easily, this becomes more of an issue as the whole dynamic around me seems to change on a dime. My five year old daughter decided I am a second mommy and is using that about 50%. My spouse is not excited about that, but since we are separated, perhaps a non issue. My eight year old is more distraught, he wants a mom and a dad and he understands what is going on. He misses his dad, which I understand. And so it's not intentional but he sometimes will duckshot me with dad in public.
Then there are close family and friends who have known me for various extended lengths of time, and with those I try to have patience. Some picked it right up and occasionally slip, others are intentionally using dead name and male pronouns (mom) and others are just not rewired yet. Friends are a funny thing because it's pretty obvious when their perception flips from male to female. The name/pronoun become more consistent and the manner of interactions change to be more in line with that persons "normal" female interactions. For example, I am no longer welcome at the "boys club" social table after my board meeting ends for a social club that I am president of. I know this because when I join, the entire conversation, language and tone shift to a more typical female friendly environment devoid of dirty jokes and profanities even though I am the only female in the group. It is fascinating to observe these shifts in human behavior and social dynamics between men and women, and I am convinced the men do not even realize that they do it.
