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I’m planning coming out to my parents

Started by erintilly14, April 28, 2018, 11:56:52 AM

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erintilly14

The last post I made on here was when I was in a really bad place and I'm thankful for all the love and care that people showed towards me I couldn't ask for anything more. I go by the name Jake now and although I'm not perfect and I've still got a lot to figure out, I think I'm on the path to becoming a real guy because I think that is what I really want. I'm now planning to tell my family that I'm trans. Any tips of any kind would be very much appreciated -Jakey❤️
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Doreen

Quote from: erintilly14 on April 28, 2018, 11:56:52 AM
The last post I made on here was when I was in a really bad place and I'm thankful for all the love and care that people showed towards me I couldn't ask for anything more. I go by the name Jake now and although I'm not perfect and I've still got a lot to figure out, I think I'm on the path to becoming a real guy because I think that is what I really want. I'm now planning to tell my family that I'm trans. Any tips of any kind would be very much appreciated -Jakey❤️

Keep in mind once the "Cats out of the bag" there's no sticking that thing back in.  You can't undo telling them.  I think its easier to get your thoughts formulated on paper before blurting things out you don't always mean to say.  There are plenty online examples of coming out letters, perhaps gaining wisdom from others on what worked & what didn't. 

In the end though there's no way to guarantee how your parents will respond.  Some are loving, others are not.  In some examples its down right dangerous.  I don't believe in sugar coating what might happen, be prepared for an 'exit strategy' should the need arise.  There is no way of sensing how deeply parents feel about their child... or to what lengths they'll go to prevent you (or help you!) along the way.
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invisiblemonsters

you just have to be prepared for what ever the outcome will be once you tell them. they will have questions, might not understand, etc. having examples might be a good idea too where you can pull from that to explain it. some people don't know what trans is, don't get how you can feel that way. if you like women now, you can be prepared for things like "why can't you just stay a lesbian?" kind of stuff. some might ask you what your plans are, some might ask the changes you'll get on T, etc. also sometimes really inappropriate questions. all in all, if they are accepting all i can say is don't get mad at them when it takes them awhile to get used to it like pronouns/new name kind of thing. it's a lot and it's a lot to process. you've had time to - they haven't. it takes time for everything so just be prepared no matter what, as i said. and as the person above me said, you should look online for examples of coming out too.
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