Things I have missed before starting transition

[Marcieelizabeth]

Hi ladies!

I did not know I was Trans until about 5 months ago, but all my life it turns out I was hoping and wanting to transition to being Marcie!   Along that journey I have missed out on a lot... and one thing was wearing certain types of clothing or outfits in part that I cannot wear now because it is not age appropriate!

I have always wanted to wear:

A baton twirlers uniform from the 60s, a 1970s Cheerleaders uniform, A leotard and tutu, Body suits and flare jeans, Drum majorette unifrom...

I know I cannot be alone.  What did you wish or fantasize about wearing before transition started that you wish you could still wear, but probably cannot because of your age, or differences in fashion? 

Come on play along!

Love and Hugs ladies!  Marcie

[Devlyn]

I remember a post several years ago from a woman who had all of those missed moments come crashing down around her in a wave of depression.

Me, I wear what I want. The only thing I consider age inappropriate is Garanimals. 

Hugs, Devlyn

[JessicaHF]

I went to high school in the late 80s early 90s and big hoop skirt prom dresses were quite the fashion at our high school dances and proms. I soooooo wished I could wear one of those instead of the boring tuxedo and suits that boys were forced to wear! Oh how I longed to wear one of the gorgeous ball gowns!!



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[noleen111]

I started my transition at 21, so I did not miss out too much when it comes to outfits. I have worn a cheer leader outfit (ok for my hubby) and I got to wear female club wear.

However, something i feel I did miss out..maybe not from an outfit point of view, but an experience. I wish could have being a teenage girl.

I was always a little jealous of the girls at school, they had so many choices of clothes, and they got to wear beautiful prom dresses. WOmen learn to become women in their teens, I had to do a crash course (Like all of us here), as I started at 21. I would have had totally different experience at school, if I were a girl. When the girl in me came out, I became more outgoing, I think I would have tried out for the cheer leading squad. lol

I have always wanted to wear:

A baton twirlers uniform from the 60s, a 1970s Cheerleaders uniform, A leotard and tutu, Body suits and flare jeans, Drum majorette unifrom...

I know I cannot be alone.  What did you wish or fantasize about wearing before transition started that you wish you could still wear, but probably cannot because of your age, or differences in fashion? 

Why cant you wear these outfits, you can always search for one and try them on, in the privacy of your home.. You don't need to go out in public.

I wore a cheerleader outfit, and never ventured out in public..

[Tatiana 79]

Hello Marcie
I can really identify with you I think we're from the same era
I was born in 61 and went to a Catholic school for 12 years when it was a binary world girls had their uniform boys had their uniform.
I felt extremely uncomfortable in the first grade wearing the icky boys uniform because I really wanted to be in the girl's uniform but obviously could not back then
And yes cheerleader outfits they certainly are appealing and I was literally forced to wear one in high school all day as my clothes were locked away.
little did they know I really loved it and had to walk home that way in a girls cheerleading outfit
You're not too old sweetie my wife always tells me I look much younger in women's clothes and I also feel much younger
But now I'm dipping my toes slowly in baby steps presenting my female side slowly in my tiny little town
I've always known from earliest memories that something was wrong and I don't think the word transgender even existed back then
I'm so glad for you that's your expressing yourself as your inner identity is suggesting

All the best for you on your ride love Tatiana

[pamelatransuk]

Hello again Marcie and Hello Tatiana

I was born in 1955 and felt really sad at being compelled to wear boys' school uniform and I wished I could wear the little girls jumpas and blouses and even wished I could button my coat the girls' way aged 6.

Later I wished I could have undergone female puberty (at least I can now on HRT) and was envious of the make up and physical changes.

Later I tried to suppress following female fashion but crossdressed all my adult life.

Hugs

Pamela

[Rachel_Christina]

I just hate having missed being a wee girl and going to school and prom and all.
My mum hates the fact she never had a we girl too :/

[Alyssa Bree]

I started my transition at 21, so I did not miss out too much when it comes to outfits. I have worn a cheer leader outfit (ok for my hubby) and I got to wear female club wear.

However, something i feel I did miss out..maybe not from an outfit point of view, but an experience. I wish could have being a teenage girl.

I was always a little jealous of the girls at school, they had so many choices of clothes, and they got to wear beautiful prom dresses. WOmen learn to become women in their teens, I had to do a crash course (Like all of us here), as I started at 21. I would have had totally different experience at school, if I were a girl. When the girl in me came out, I became more outgoing, I think I would have tried out for the cheer leading squad. lol

Why cant you wear these outfits, you can always search for one and try them on, in the privacy of your home.. You don't need to go out in public.

I wore a cheerleader outfit, and never ventured out in public..

^ This. I wish I could have had the high school girl experience. I was sooooo jealous of the hairstyles girls got to wear. Yes it was 80's hair but I loved it. I used to fantasize about going to prom in a beautiful dress.

I could still do this I suppose but I would have loved to try different hair colors and wild makeup choices and expressions. Pink and purple hair, shredded jeans and super vivid, colorful makeup designed to draw stares. At 45, this would have to probably be done only at home lol.


xoxoxo
Alyssa

[RachelH]

^ This. I wish I could have had the high school girl experience. I was sooooo jealous of the hairstyles girls got to wear. Yes it was 80's hair but I loved it. I used to fantasize about going to prom in a beautiful dress.

I am right there with you!!  I know there is no way to turn back time, but had I had access to the resources in the late 70s and early 80s, I would have made the transition.  Now at 52 I am only out to a very small group and get depressed especially when I look back at all the girl things I missed out on!  Oh well! 
Paula

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[Danielle M]

I also get depressed about missing my youth,high school years and college years. Even though my parents would have probably never allowed it.  I am depressed to the point that I am on 3 different antidepressants because of this.

[FinallyMichelle]

Growing up as a girl. Before I lived with my grandparents when I was 5 I don't think anyone bothered too much with me and the rules I had were just about clothes. I believe that my parents, or whatever relative I lived with at any particular time, thought of me as someone else's problem. My grandparents didn't share that view and started to restrict me in many ways including what kind of activities I did and the gender of the children that I played with.

So it's more than my teen years or first love, more than getting married and having children, it's the childhood that was denied to me. Sounds kind of lame when I write it out like that. lol, I would not want to go back, but yeah, it would have been the most amazing thing to have had a childhood that I was just myself and not constantly pushed to be a boy. I don't know how things could have been any different but it would have been nice. 😊

The memories I have are incongruous with who I am, I knew that as I lived them. What is it like for those that, good and bad, their memories are who they really are and not a hollow statue that the world sees as real but is really an effigy where we hid the tattered bits of our soul as they slowly died?

[MadisonDavina]

Personally, I don't have too many regrets when it comes to the fashion end of things, I am still young enough(and look young enough), that I could probably experiment with whatever, and I also just like the direction that fashion is currently moving in. Once I transition, my "look" will probably just be a more colorful version than what I wear currently.

However, I do have a lot of regrets when it comes to like the social end of things I guess. I try not to focus on it much, since it makes me not feel great, and then I go through a bit of denial again.. But it just kind of sucks since I knew I was trans at 15, and just put off coming out for so long. I remember being 17 and my cousin was talking about her prom, and I was just sitting there kind of daydreaming about being a teen girl going to prom..

I know of a lot of my female friends who constantly talk about how much high school sucked, and puberty, but I just wish I could have experienced that instead of the years of confusion and isolation I had.

Okay, as far as I am going to go with that, trying to stay positive.

[Toni]

I love to dance, I would have loved to be in a gown and look so pretty.  So I decided to do something about it.  I'm taking dancing lessons, two step, waltz, some other type of dance hall stuff.  Even though I'm alone now I got my courage up and asked a single guy neighbor, younger than me, if he'd take the lessons with me 'cause they say partner is required.  He knows my history but never knew me as a guy.  I said he could take his time and think about it and he said in about two seconds, hell yes, it'd be fun and if there was anyone he'd do it with it'd be me.  He likes me.  No romance here, but nice, and I have a really good body, size 8, so I can do this!  Just have to be brave!  Toni

[Izzy Z.]

Heck, I've been living full time as female since I was 16 and I still am upset that I missed out on a girlish childhood. I wish I would have learned to do make-up when everyone else did, and I still haven't really learned nor care to learn, but I can't help but feel like I would have grown up an entirely different person had I been around more people of my gender and known I was female when I was young. Possibly the most distressing part to me was the inability to wear a bathing suit and go swimming with the girls, as I obviously didn't have my bottom surgery yet in high school. I did make the mistake once of going to a pool party but it just made me incredibly dysphoric and I went home and cried afterward. From then on, I haven't even been near a pool. I'm looking forward to finally being able to go swimming in just a few months when I do get my bottom surgery, but I still feel like I missed out on so much between waiting for surgery and not even knowing that I wanted those memories until later.