Denial

[Maybebaby56]

Hello Terri

I regularly read your posts which include sound worthwhile advice and experience.

This posts of yours is highly commendable especially para 5. It describes my situation perfectly. I am sure Skylar and many other readers will really appreciate your contributions.

Pamela

Why thank you, Pamela. You are very kind, and I appreciate your feedback.

I left the forum for several months because I didn't feel like I could contribute any further.  To be perfectly honest, I think what I was feeling was I wasn't getting anything out of it. I was post-op, and was living full-time as a female. I was done.

But since I am being so very honest, I have to admit that this site did me a world of good, beyond my regular visits to my therapist. I felt I was part of a community, and this was my flock.

I understand now that I am very lucky. I was able to fully transition. I had the opportunity and resources to do what not all of us can do, be it for lack of money, or fear of loss, or not believing in ourselves, or simply feeling that we owe more to others than we owe ourselves.

Along the way I received support from many people in this forum, past and present, and I want to pay it forward. If you have gotten even the smallest bit of reassurance or enlightenment from my posts, then I am humbled and rejoice in your success.

With blessings to all,

Terri

[Christyn]

Hi Skylar,

I've been on HRT 5 months, and while it was a difficult decision to make, once I did it, i never regretted it. I too had a lot of the same fears - too old- I'm 46. What will happen or won't happen? I want everything now - I've repressed this for so long, it ALL HAS TO HAPPEN NOW!
In 5 months, i have learned and accepted that this is a journey. It is a marathon, not a sprint. As someone told me and I'm sure you'll hear it a lot too - YMMV(your mileage may vary). Don't compare yourself to others.
I was worried about my meds. I was worried I was doing something wrong - what were my levels going to be on my next blood work (which was just the other day, and lets just say I was VERY pleased with the results)
It's your journey. You do it the way it suits you. It's done over a long period for a reason -
Good luck - Sit back and enjoy the ride.
Best,
Christyn

[Bfp2]

Here is a link that I found helpful:

[Lady Skylar]

Here is a link that I found helpful:

Thank you for this link. I was already subscribed to this channel but I hadn't seen this video yet. Thanks again.

Skylar

[MissyMay2.0]

Bodybuilding was my coping technique that allowed me to prolong my transition, and enjoy denial without having to face the scary truth, and embark on a transitional journey that I knew would have a lot of obstacles for me to overcome, but when I was 25, I came to realize that transition was inevitable, but I still managed to put it off another 10 years; and now I am very happy and comfortable in my skin. I feel like I have had a successful transition, and making the decision to do so, was the right choice for me.

Best wishes 😊

[KatieP]

Lady Skylar,
When I read your first post, I had a thought that has helped me in many journey's, not just my transgender transition, and that is: You don't have to decide the final destination to start on a journey. All you have to do is take some step in some direction. The video from bfp2 said something similar, that any one step is not deciding the destination. But I would like to emphasize the taking of _some_ step. Having taken that ONE step, you can then decide in which direction the next step will be. Then, at least, 3 years, 10 years down the road, you will be in a different place, rather than in the same place you are today, stuck on hold.

Good luck!