Do you find it hard to accept the way your body is?

[CosmicJoke]

This is something I struggle with greatly. Aside from having male genitalia (fixable,) the main things I dislike about my body are my height and weight. I am 6' tall and about 240 pounds. It's mostly genetic as my father was tall and my mother was always a plus sized heavier set kind of woman.
I do have lots of beautiful features that I would keep if I could just be something more like 5'8 and 120 pounds. Keep dreaming, right?
It's very toxic and just plain bad for my health to be comparing myself to these supermodels who's bodies I wish I posessed, but the reality is, probably not in this lifetime.
I do realize that I should probably just worry about my character and who I am as a person, but does anyone else here have these same kind of body insecurities and just physical things they don't like/wish they could change?

[Ryuichi13]

Ever since I was a kid, I wanted to be 5'10"/177cm.  Unfortunately, I stopped growing at 5'7&1/3"/171cm.  It seems like I inherited my Mom's short genes (she's 5'3"/160cm.)  All of my other siblings are taller than me. 

That's the one thing I would change that I know I can't.  I can have a penis made (which I may do at a later date), but my height can't be changed.

Ryuichi

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[Dena]

This is something I struggle with greatly. Aside from having male genitalia (fixable,) the main things I dislike about my body are my height and weight. I am 6' tall and about 240 pounds. It's mostly genetic as my father was tall and my mother was always a plus sized heavier set kind of woman.
I do have lots of beautiful features that I would keep if I could just be something more like 5'8 and 120 pounds. Keep dreaming, right?
It's very toxic and just plain bad for my health to be comparing myself to these supermodels who's bodies I wish I posessed, but the reality is, probably not in this lifetime.
I do realize that I should probably just worry about my character and who I am as a person, but does anyone else here have these same kind of body insecurities and just physical things they don't like/wish they could change?

The thing that always burned me up about models and fashion shows is what they normally show is one off. Models are selected to be tall because a tall woman will appear more attractive on the runaway. This means clothing is normally cut taller that what they sell in the store just to fit the model. In addition, they do alterations in order to properly mold the clothing to fit the model. I don't really mind being 6'2" that much but what bugs me is I can't find any of that stuff in the store in my size.  Be careful about wanting to be a model because you may already be one.

As for weight, maybe you will never be 120 pounds, but you might reach 150 or 160 which could still give you a very attractive figure. I am currently just under 170 and at my height, my figure has been envied by women even though I don't have a rear end and only wear a B cup.

Much of it is just how you look at it. For many CIS women, being tall is something they desire because they are aware that many models are taller than they are.

[Doreen]

I'm 6'2 and fluctuate from 165 to 185 pounds.  Right now I'm 181.  I am 6'2" tall, and would've liked to stop growing around 5'7 or so.   There are a lot of 'inconsistencies' about my body.. One can look at it as being born both genders.. (genderfluid).   I see it as really born not enough of either.  I'd have loved to have been completely female.. periods & all.. but I was 'given' what I have, so will make do the best I can with it.

On that 6'2 note I understand many models are tall.   I wanted to 'blend in' but since I'm substantially incapable of it, I'll dress nice and make my tall girl look..look good   I do get compliments alot because of my figure & height.  I'll live with it.

How do I do that? I try to avoid scarring (stupid dextrous blunders mostly), exercise regularly, eat well.  My body is the only temple I have, so its not gonna have cobwebs in the tummy   I wish my hips were a bit bigger and waist smaller, ribs less...ribby. Teeth straight, white, not permanently stained like they are now.  Not missing 3 that just broke because of thin bones fractures.

Screw it lets just say I wish I had the body of the goddess Aphrodite, goddess of love & beauty..  Barring that, I'll make do with what I'm given. 

[kk]

I wish I were taller and more "traditionally" handsome. I'm 5'8". It helps that my girlfriend is 5'3" and my brother and father are only 5'9" or so. My kid brother is 6'1" but he's a freak in our short family lol. I wish my hands and feet would change and grow with hormones but from what I've seen that isn't a thing.

[SailorMars1994]

Yes and no. Remove the ball(s) and chain and i would be happy as heck. I am 5'9 or so and quite chubby, but nothing a balanced diet and expercise can't fix. Either or the height for me is fine and I'm not too self conscious of my weight.

I would however love to have a female reproductive system tho

[Kylo]

Yeah I don't like being under 6', although I am fairly well built in the shoulders naturally, there's just something I do not like about being shorter than other people. I'd be happy to be almost freakishly tall. It's not even related to the trans thing. I always liked being taller than other kids too and hoped I would outgrow them all in school.

But since there's not much I can do without having my legs broken, no point worrying about it. I don't compare myself to other people much, doesn't help. Just concentrate on fixing what I can, and feeling satisfied when something is sorted. It doesn't bother me standing next to tall guys either, it's some kind of personal ideal I have, not some issue with trying to compete with them. 

[Sephirah]

It's very toxic and just plain bad for my health to be comparing myself to these supermodels who's bodies I wish I posessed, but the reality is, probably not in this lifetime.

Welcome to womanhood, sweetie. Women since probably the dawn of time have been doing that, and it likely won't change any time in the next millennia. You sound like almost all of my female friends. They do exactly the same thing. Even going so far as to criticise said supermodels for being "too perfect". That's kinda how it is.

I think pretty much everyone has trouble accepting things about themselves and wishing they were different. Beauty is subjective, and very much in the eye of the beholder. I'm sure even these supermodels get jealous of other people.

Focus on what you can change, sweetie. And work towards that. It helps. Seriously. *big hugs*

[Doreen]

Welcome to womanhood, sweetie. Women since probably the dawn of time have been doing that, and it likely won't change any time in the next millennia. You sound like almost all of my female friends. They do exactly the same thing. Even going so far as to criticise said supermodels for being "too perfect". That's kinda how it is.

I think pretty much everyone has trouble accepting things about themselves and wishing they were different. Beauty is subjective, and very much in the eye of the beholder. I'm sure even these supermodels get jealous of other people.

Focus on what you can change, sweetie. And work towards that. It helps. Seriously. *big hugs*

Don't forget sucking in your waistline, jutting out your boobs, enhancing your skin constantly with dermabrasion, injecting fillers in the cheeks, etc... takes money, time, energy.. also its not real. Its completely fabricated.  Show me a woman that wakes up, no makeup, messy hair, and  STILL is gorgeous... that's the look I want to go for.   Not the Kim Kardashian makeup, botox, and filler queen.

[Katie Jade]

Welcome to womanhood, sweetie. Women since probably the dawn of time have been doing that, and it likely won't change any time in the next millennia. You sound like almost all of my female friends. They do exactly the same thing. Even going so far as to criticise said supermodels for being "too perfect". That's kinda how it is.

I think pretty much everyone has trouble accepting things about themselves and wishing they were different. Beauty is subjective, and very much in the eye of the beholder. I'm sure even these supermodels get jealous of other people.

Focus on what you can change, sweetie. And work towards that. It helps. Seriously. *big hugs*

Well I have dropped  an inch+ height and 1.5 in UK shoe sizes in 1.5 years through loosing weight and HRT (I hope) so under 6 foot now but still need to loose another (yes lost that a year ago pre HRT/AA) 40 LBs (OMG..)

I think weight loss is currently being balanced by redistribution and chest growth..

Keep hope alive for that miracle girls, or just keep working at it or both which is what I am doing, 

And I am and always will me a model for anyone who appreciates me 

Loving you all
Hugz

[KathyLauren]

All things considered, I am not too unhappy with my body, other than the obvious surplus parts. 

I am taller than average for women, but not excessively so.  Enough to look good in clothes, but not so much as to draw unwanted attention.  I have always kept in good shape so my weight is healthy.  It was up a bit in recent years due to appreciating my wife's cooking too much, but I have brought it down to a better weight.  I don't have six-pack abs, but there is some definition there.

My shoulders are broader than I like, as is my rib cage.  I don't moan about them because they are not fixable.  They make fitting clothes tricky.  But if everything fit perfectly, I'd be broke, so it's okay. 

[DawnOday]

"If you can't be the one you love, love the one you're with."  I can't nit pik since it's taken so long to be where I am. I'm just happy after all these years to have begun the process. Do what I can to feel right. Especially between the ears. My brain is so relieved, everything else is just icing on the cake. I am coming out of my shell and that is probably the hardest part as I have been closeted for so long and I just closed up to the outside world. I can't for the life of me see what my wife sees in me. But hey, you have to take your blessings any way you can.

[Ms. Bee]

I am right there with you. I am 230 in weight, a few inches shorter. My shoulders are broad which make putting on clothes tricky. You are 240. Try to get down to 195 and you will see noticeable differences. 

[FinallyMichelle]

It is funny that this came today. Just this morning I was having breakfast with friends and we were talking about height. 🙂 To a woman they all agreed that growing up they either wanted to be model tall, 5'10" or more, or very petite. Every one complained of being average, 5'4". To have cis women, attractive cis women, say that they envied my height and curves was mind blowing. I can't understand anyone envying me for anything in any way.

Maybe we conceptualize the perfect woman differently than most women do.

[Danielle Kristina]

I don't like my body and never have.  However, it is the only one I've got and the only one I'll ever have.  While I may not like my body, it's all I've got to work with.  I just play the hand I'm dealt.  Now I can make alterations through transitioning or I can stay the way I was physically born.  Either way I have to live with it whether I want to or not.

[pamelatransuk]

I think we all have this problem to a greater or lesser degree. After all being trans in nutshell is really about two main things:

1. Dissatisfied with your body as it not aligned to your mind. Physical dysphoria.
2. Unable to live your true life with others properly. Social dysphoria.

I am of reasonable height and weight but for me my main problem is body hair - I seek its total elimination!

Hugs

Pamela 

[randim]

I can't complain too much. I'm 6'1", about 170-ish, which is skinny enough to look ok from the neck down with a lot of thngs.  I do hate my beard and body hair, the adams apple is unfortunate, but for a 64-yo male it could be much worse.  Really, the things I hate the most about my body now have nothing to do with gender and everything to do with age -- jowly face, parchment skin, lots of age spots and long-term sun damage.  Ladies (and gents), I beg of you, do not neglect your skin regime, and sunblock, sunblock, sunblock. The mirror will thank you for it as you move through life.

[DustKitten]

I think most people have issues with how they look. Dysphoria aside, I've consistently been told I'm a 8-10 for a guy (it depends on whether the person is into goth/punk guys or not), and I've yet to believe someone when they say I'm attractive. Compliments like that also don't help my self-esteem as much as you'd think, since they're essentially saying I look good as a guy when I'm wanting to transition and be a less-attractive Amazonian girl.

Talking specifically about dysphoria-related stuff I can't fix, I hate my shoulders (they're stupidly broad), my hands (way too big), and my face (far too long/tall).


I also still have face and neck acne at 25. I manage it well, so no one else ever comments on it, but I see it every evening before I shower. Really really hoping hormones might help with that.

[jake3029]

Most part that I hate about my body is that my voice is quite deep and I'm only 15 and another thing I hate is having a penis of which I know is fixable and also body hair my leg hair and arm hair and armpit hair grows quite quickly which I hate but my weight and height I'm alright with my weight I'm not sure how much I weigh but it is probably a slight bit less than the regular amount for 15 year olds and my height which I'm not sure of as well is shorter than the regular amount for 15 year olds and my friends tower me in height.

[eyesk8rboi]

This is something I struggle with greatly. Aside from having male genitalia (fixable,) the main things I dislike about my body are my height and weight. I am 6' tall and about 240 pounds. It's mostly genetic as my father was tall and my mother was always a plus sized heavier set kind of woman.
I do have lots of beautiful features that I would keep if I could just be something more like 5'8 and 120 pounds. Keep dreaming, right?
It's very toxic and just plain bad for my health to be comparing myself to these supermodels who's bodies I wish I posessed, but the reality is, probably not in this lifetime.
I do realize that I should probably just worry about my character and who I am as a person, but does anyone else here have these same kind of body insecurities and just physical things they don't like/wish they could change?

That's just natural....Whether female or male, I always feel unattractive and unhappy.
As a female I wanted to be shorter, smaller waist, bigger boobs, no tummy pudge, better face...

As a guy I'm too short and too curvy and my face is too round and I just don't look good either way. It's one of those, you have to learn to love yourself regardless scenarios, but we're our own worst critics.

Mope for a little if you feel like you need it, then pull yourself back up and find something you DO like about your appearance, like your eyes, or your smile, something like that.