I've certainly made mistakes. Heck, my whole 'hiding' for almost half a century was arguably a mistake, a product of 'treatment' in my late teens, believing the nonsense I was told, and being afraid to do anything for far too long. Those mistakes were bad ones, and hurt myself and folks around me.
Now I'm trying to make up for this, make myself and my world better. It's not easy, or a tidy process. I'm sure that I will make mistakes, but I very much hope that the improvements outweigh any harm from my mistakes. Certainly none of us are perfect, flawless beings, and most others understand this.
Life is messy. But, it is life, and we muddle through as best as we can. A positive attitude can go far in helping us get through the rough patches, and can smooth the rough bits between ourselves and others.
Laughter, the ability to see the humor in our own sometimes absurd lives, is an important part of this. Taking the silly everyday little rough patches too seriously makes those little rough spots loom large, possibly even overwhelming us. There's no real reason for us to trip ourselves up over such things when we can just recognize that they are just the routine daily junk we have to move past.
Whether it's pasta sauce on a blouse, or some confused person misgendering us, we can develop the habit of laughter, shrugging it off, and moving past it to get on with our lives. After all, when we are past the moment, will that little rough spot have much of an impact on the arc of our life? Probably not. Careers are not usually harmed by a drop of marinara sauce unless we let it harm us. One misgendering from a random person won't derail our transition unless we allow it to. We can laugh at the glitch, poke a little fun at it, shrug, and move on.
Life is good, and gets better.
