Am so pleased to read of your advocacy for your partner. Love it! This is not the exact same thing but I will share it. I just came from a funeral for the father of an old neighbor. One (grand)daughter was very vocal in support of my change. She said she would punch anyone who said anything negative about me. She did a good job of asking questions that were not too personal. She was genuinely curious about the phenomenon. Her father then comes up behind me, startled me, but gives me a big bear hug and a kiss on the cheek. He says, "I love you buddy." in my ear. Unfortunately, he is hard of hearing so everything he says is way loud. He started to reminisce about old times, using my dead name over and over. He was essentially speaking of a different person. If it had been anyone else, I would have corrected him, maybe been offended, but context does matter. This was his way of support, and in this case, it was okay. There is absolutely no way that a health care professional or personal care person, who is gonna take your money, has any legitimate right to ask titillating or unnecessary questions. I have been fortunate in Maryland to never have any health care person treat me with disrespect.
