Went public with my trans pride shirt and bra!

[Danielle Kristina]

Wow, I can't believe it!  I just went out in public wearing my Trans Pride shirt and ladies jeans, which is definitely putting myself to people who know what the colors represent.  Underneath I wore my bra.  I have never worn a bra in public.  I'm not full time yet, so for me this is huge!  I've been so afraid of people knowing my gender identity, judging me, or coming out in any way, shape or form, so my dressing has been kept very private.  Right now I'm out of town on vacation.  No one here knows me, so maybe that's the reason for this sudden burst of confidence.  Or perhaps I'm just ready to let myself be who I am at least a little, and at least until I get home.  I've worn panties full time for several months now and at first that was nerve wracking, but I eventually overcame that fear.  However, bras are more noticeable, which is why I've never worn one in public until today.  It felt great to face the world as the woman I am even if people still perceive me as a male.

I'm becoming Danielle more everyday!!

[Arianna Valentine]

Wow, I can't believe it!  I just went out in public wearing my Trans Pride shirt and ladies jeans, which is definitely putting myself to people who know what the colors represent.  Underneath I wore my bra.  I have never worn a bra in public.  I'm not full time yet, so for me this is huge!  I've been so afraid of people knowing my gender identity, judging me, or coming out in any way, shape or form, so my dressing has been kept very private.  Right now I'm out of town on vacation.  No one here knows me, so maybe that's the reason for this sudden burst of confidence.  Or perhaps I'm just ready to let myself be who I am at least a little, and at least until I get home.  I've worn panties full time for several months now and at first that was nerve wracking, but I eventually overcame that fear.  However, bras are more noticeable, which is why I've never worn one in public until today.  It felt great to face the world as the woman I am even if people still perceive me as a male.

I'm becoming Danielle more everyday!!

You know that's funny one thing I figured out I've been dressing feminine in public for about a year-and-a-half now and in that time living in a not small but not large town I've come to realize one thing people don't care live your life people really don't care what you do they really just ignore you they don't want to be well I don't know if it's ignored they just don't say anything to you they don't want to be sexy as they are going to be racist or Prejudice so they pretty much just let you do whatever you want to do and just don't say anything about it at least that's been my experience

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[Danielle Kristina]

You know that's funny one thing I figured out I've been dressing feminine in public for about a year-and-a-half now and in that time living in a not small but not large town I've come to realize one thing people don't care live your life people really don't care what you do they really just ignore you they don't want to be well I don't know if it's ignored they just don't say anything to you they don't want to be sexy as they are going to be racist or Prejudice so they pretty much just let you do whatever you want to do and just don't say anything about it at least that's been my experience

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I have come to realize that most people are too self-absorbed to really pay attention to what others are doing.  They tend to focus so intently on their own agendas that they take no notice of others.  This is completely human.  On the other hand, some people do pay attention to other people.  For me, this was about overcoming my own fears.  I only recognized myself as a trans person a few months ago back in April.  Since then I've had so much fear about coming out, living as myself in public, and so on.  I'm still so early in my transition that I look much more like a man playing dress up than a transgender woman living authenticly.  But I'll get there.  It just takes one step at a time, and for me today's milestone was a big one.  I'm floating on clouds!!!

[Arianna Valentine]

I have come to realize that most people are too self-absorbed to really pay attention to what others are doing.  They tend to focus so intently on their own agendas that they take no notice of others.  This is completely human.  On the other hand, some people do pay attention to other people.  For me, this was about overcoming my own fears.  I only recognized myself as a trans person a few months ago back in April.  Since then I've had so much fear about coming out, living as myself in public, and so on.  I'm still so early in my transition that I look much more like a man playing dress up than a transgender woman living authenticly.  But I'll get there.  It just takes one step at a time, and for me today's milestone was a big one.  I'm floating on clouds!!!

Yes I'm extremely early in my transition to I have been dressing as a female for like I said and over year and a half now I don't look like a female fully I get called Sir sometimes I got asked if I do drag shows that was kind of a compliment I think but yeah you are right it is about you overcoming your own fear

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[Freelysweet]

Good for you. It can be a very empowering feeling to finally be yourself. It is both wonderful and nerve racking. I found the more i wore little things the more normal it felt to dress however i felt at any given time. After awhile you feel odd dressing any other way. You will reach a point where your confidence becomes a bit bolder. Just remember to smile when someone does take notice. I think what makes all the diffrence in the minds of others is your confidence when dressed. Be confident in who you are.

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[StacyRenee]

Just to reiterate some of the things already said. The more you wear the clothes of your preference, the more it seems natural. Most people have so much going on in their life that they're oblivious of what's going on around them. Unless you're pushing the boundaries, like wearing miniskirts and heels while not shaving your legs kinda thing, then most won't even notice you.

And of the few people that may notice you, most of them won't have the courage to be confrontational and say anything. My therapist told me this early on, and nearly a year of living full time has proven this true.

Now that's not to say that you'll never draw the occasional stare, pointing fingers, or laughing. That happens to me from time to time. But when it does, you can't let it bother you. It's not easy, but just think about it. What are the chances that you'll ever see this person ever again?

Confidence goes a long way. It is the hardest thing to gain that confidence when you're scared to death of being teased or laughed at. But once you just accept it. Once you own it. Then it just hits you. "I AM a woman!" Once you get that air of confidence, people will pick up on that and they will be much more likely to be friendly.

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[KathyLauren]

Congratulations, Danielle!  That is a huge step.

Getting out in public was the single best thing I did on my transition so far.  It dissolved my fears and gave me confidence that I didn't know I could muster.

[Ms. Bee]

Way to go Danielle Kristina. Congrats on the bold move.

[wanderingaddy]

Congratulations!!
I've been experimenting a little bit myself over the last few months and like other people have said already most people are too absorbed in their own lives to notice what is going on.

It really is a liberating to see that in action and does wonders to boost ones confidence [emoji4].

[sandigurl99]

 I'm so happy for you gf. I remember when I came out to the world. It was exhilarating!  Like you,  I was out of town where no one knew me.  That gave me the confidence to do more and more.


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[Jin]

You go Girl!!!

[Northern Star Girl]

I'm so happy for you gf. I remember when I came out to the world. It was exhilarating!  Like you,  I was out of town where no one knew me.  That gave me the confidence to do more and more.


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@sandigurl99

Dear Sandi:
You look amazing in the picture of your self that you posted....  thank you for sharing.
I see that you are brand new here and this is your very first posting on the Forums.

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[Northern Star Girl]

@sandigurl99
Oh, and another thing Sandi,

Please find your way to the Introductions Forum to let other members know of your arrival here on Susan's Place.

Thank you again for joining in on the Susan's Place forums.
Hugs,
Danielle

[I_Am_Hazel]

Congratulations, I know the feeling well! For myself, wearing a bra was the first step, and the next step was wearing all those cute looks I wanted that actually included a visible bra strap (like those shirts that hang off of one shoulder). It was nice to finally be able to wear a look I've always wanted to wear, and to be unapologetically myself!

I agree that nobody cares what you wear, in my experience. In a year of dressing more feminine, painting my nails, etc. I've only had one person say anything not positive: at a party, some guy asked "Why are your nails painted?" and all I had to say was "Because I like how it looks." Not a big deal at all.