Emma - Several thoughts. First Moni makes a good point.
Second 'It's a mental trap and I am stuck with it. I know I am wired female. It's the presentation need that I keep evaluating.' Yep you are wired female. My opinion - live as you know you are.
Third ' I am tired of hearing myself. You must be too.' 13,000 views - I don't think people are tired of reading it. If so they can stop reading. Obviously your story resonates with many people, primarily 'lurkers' btw 'lurkers' is not the derogatory word is sounds like - rather it is just referring to those of you that don't post. For those of us that have transitioned - no offensive - your story is kind of old news. But we want to help you and others.
Lastly - At the end of the day all of this is your decision and yours alone. Whether to keep this thread going, whether to have surgery, whether to transition. It's all up to you. I think you know, but it is not my or anyone else's opinion that matters, it is yours.
Moni said it much more succinctly than I did but these paragraphs all boil down to her one point. I just gave her point an explanation.
Hugs to you always.