BlueStar was presenting as a male with all Man Clothes, and no thoughts of looking feminine when we went to Lowes several days ago. The checkout clerk said to us, "Have a nice day, ladies." BlueStar was on top of the world! She "passed" with absolutely no intent! I have noticed it happening before, but this was the first time that it caught her attention and delighted her. What a nice accomplishment for her, to accept and revel.
She had found a product online that might enliven her dried-out curly hair. We had the ingredients, so I mixed them up and applied it several nights after supper. I massage the oils into her scalp with the intent of restoring her lost hairs. It makes her curls curlier, and she really enjoys the feeling of her well-tended hair. We're wondering how effective one of the red-light helmets might be for coaxing her strands to grow again. I hate to cover up her gorgeous hair with a wig.
Two mornings ago I put some makeup on BlueStar. We have accumulated eye shadow, mascara, eye liner, eyebrow pencil, an eyelash curler, bronzer, blush, finishing powder, and lipstick. And a set of brushes. Soon we will have foundation, lip liner, and ... hmmmm I know that a third item is coming. I can't imagine what else we'll need. I'm looking forward to the foundation coming so I can start playing with the concealers that we got.
After I used each makeup item that we had, I stepped back and verified whether I had helped BlueStar to come out of hiding. Sure enough, she emerged, playfully urging me to accompany her to our favorite place to eat out. She surprised me, she was so excited about showing off her face. We went. All new employees, and no one looked amiss or said an unkind word. The world is proving to be a safe place! And she was much more observant of our environment. As a man, he buried his attention in a book, but she paid a lot of attention to who was there. People watching is a new interest of hers. She felt so safe there, she's considering going alone as a woman.
It used to be that dressing as a woman caused her to close the window shades and hide. Now it has the opposite effect. I love it!
One of her friends said that at a nearby university, students now introduce themselves with their names, majors, and preferred pronouns.
We spent a few hours with my youngest child a week ago. Beforehand, we discussed whether to let her know what we've been busy with. We decided against it for now, unless it came up. It didn't come up even though my fashionista daughter must have noticed that her stepfather was wearing ladies clothes. If it came up, I was considering pointing out that women's clothes fit him much better than men's. After all, BlueStar has slender arms and narrow shoulders.
I'm looking forward to telling my kids. I look forward to seeing and hearing their responses. I hope they have questions. I'm sure that they will behave well because they know that I embrace diversity. I'm looking forward to them meeting BlueStar. We hesitate because their stepmother has surprised us several times by being inhumanely cruel, and we don't know if we can imagine how she might respond when one of my kids inevitably mentions something about Her.
I wonder when BlueStar will feel ready to tell them. She says that starting HRT will cause her to tell another wave of people. She had an appointment for her first HRT consultation Wednesday of this week, but yesterday we got a text message stating that the provider canceled it. How annoying! Especially after they made a mistake a few weeks ago, and lost the appointment that she had made then. They open in an hour and a half. I think that BlueStar will be on the phone...