After 10 years RLE and 4+ years post op, here is what I've learned over the years:
Height - at the start, I was worried about my height, because of things I read in forums. Yet, no one ever, ever confronted me or said anything about my height. It has never been a problem.
Voice - again, at the start, was always told I needed either vocal cord surgery or voice training. I tried the latter for a few weeks, then gave up. 10 years later, I never practice, I don't pretend to have another voice. No one cares! Whether I'm at the bank, grocery store, talking to strangers, never be outed or criticized.
Bottom line, when I stopped trying hard to be a woman, I became who I really am. Everything comes natural, because I don't worry what others think.
I don't wear high heels, but cowboy boots and sneakers
Haven't worn a dress in like six or seven years.
I haven't worn make up in 9 months.
I've been married now 4 years to a wonderful guy.
I have lots of friends and hobbies that have me interacting all the time.
Simply put, no one has ever thought of me as transgender...but simply as Nina.
My takeaway is to let worries go, be yourself.