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Coming out video - Jessica Rose

Started by Jessica_Rose, October 20, 2018, 07:39:55 PM

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Jessica_Rose

For the last several years the company I work for (over 34,000 employees) has held an event to celebrate National Coming Out Day (Oct 11). This year I volunteered to tell my story, and I was the only person to present their story live. As mentioned in the video, this was my first time ever speaking in public. The auditorium was full, and it was available via livestream to anyone in our company who wanted to watch. It was also obviously recorded.

Several people have asked to see the video. I was unable to get an official copy, so I made a bootleg (hopefully I won't get in trouble). The video quality leaves a little to be desired, but the audio is loud and clear. I cut out a crowd shot of a standing ovation I received near the middle (my first!) -- I do not want to encroach on anyone's privacy. I have also made the video private, only those with the password may view it. Please play nice.

I hope this is the proper way to post a link to the video, if not I apologize.

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Journal thread - Jessica's Rose Garden
National Coming Out Day video - Coming Out
GCS - GCS and BA w/Dr. Ley
GCS II - GCS II and FFS w/Dr. Ley
FFS II - Jaw and chin surgery w/Dr. Ley
Hair - Hair Restoration
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"It is never too late to be what you might have been." - George Eliot
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Rayna

Incredibly powerful and well presented, Jessica! I was in tears from about the middle to the end. You are doing great work in telling "our" story. Thanks for letting us see this!
If so, then why not?
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KathyLauren

Jessica Rose, that video is amazing, very moving!  *sniff*  Thank you so much for making it, for being an advocate, for sharing your story with your company, and for sharing the video with us
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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CandyFreedom

Wow Jessica, that's so beautiful, strong and inspiring. What a great presentation for your first time speaking.  You're unbelievably brave and fabulous.  And I hear a lot of me in your words. Thank you!!!
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GordonG

Very well done. Congratulations for coming out of a very difficult 4 decade journey. May the future be bright and full of goodness for you.
I'm a gender confused guy who lives an hour north of Seattle.
I believe that I was influenced by DES. I have crossdressed in public a handful of times, see avatar picture (enhanced with FaceApp).
I don't plan on transitioning, no GRS, FFS, nor BA.
I consider myself TransFeminine. But reserve the right to change my mind at any time.  ;D

Spironolactone; 7-16-2018
E sublinguals; 10-5-2018
Orchi; 2-15-19
No more Spiro. 

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Arianna Valentine

You are a heck of a lot braver than I am I thought coming out to just my family was hard but coming out to a lot more people sounds a whole lot tougher.  I would also like to thank your place of employment for actually accepting and having a coming out day for everybody that wishes to come out that is awesome!!!

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Jessica

#6
Jessica Rose you have brought tears of joy for you from me as I watched your presentation.
It was beautiful and so were you!

Hugs and smiles, the other Jessica

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere."


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LizK

Oh heck not a dry eye anywhere..at least not from me :)

Your raw honesty let your internal beauty shine through...remarkable!

Liz
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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cluck1992

Thank you for that [emoji3590]

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Bari Jo

Very nicely done, and you are a much braver girl than me.  You did very well with your speaking voice also!

Bari Jo
you know how far the universe extends outward? i think i go inside just as deep.

10/11/18 - out to the whole world.  100% friends and family support.
11/6/17 - came out to sister, best day of my life
9/5/17 - formal diagnosis and stopping DIY in favor if prescribed HRT
6/18/17 - decided to stop fighting the trans beast, back on DIY.
Too many ups and downs, DIY, purges of self inbetween dates.
Age 10 - suppression and denial began
Age 8 - knew I was different
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Michelle_P

Thank you again for doing this.  Yours is a powerful message, very well delivered. 

Hugs,
Michelle P
Earth my body, water my blood, air my breath and fire my spirit.

My personal transition path included medical changes.  The path others take may require no medical intervention, or different care.  We each find our own path. I provide these dates for the curious.
Electrolysis - Hours in The Chair: 238 (8.5 were preparing for GCS, five clearings); On estradiol patch June 2016; Full-time Oct 22, 2016; GCS Oct 20, 2017; FFS Aug 28, 2018; Stage 2 labiaplasty revision and BA Feb 26, 2019
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Nicole70

Thank you for sharing this Jessica, really well delivered and made me cry.

Nicole
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Dorit

Jessica Rose, you are one brave woman.   Thank you for posting this.  We have a lot in common.
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EllenJ2003

Mega Thumbs Up!!!  I remember going through some of the same things you went through.  Thanks for sharing this Jessica.   :)
HRT Since 1999
Legal Name Change and Full Time in Dec. 2000
Orchiectomy in July 2001
SRS (Yaay!! :)) Nov. 25, 2003 by Suporn
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Moonflower

Thank you for telling your story to so many people. Thank you for making it a little (or a lot) easier for others to come out. Thank you for being a brave woman, and embracing who you are. Thanks for letting your self express. Thanks for showing many people that being trans can work out beautifully. Thanks for all of the preparation you put into this presentation, and sharing it here.
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1999 married :icon_archery:
The woman hiding behind my husband's facade gradually revealed herself to just me.
Fall 2018 my sweetheart's coming out full time! :icon_female:
She began HRT but had adverse reactions, so gave up on coming out to protect her health.
Summer 2022 I went through gender confirmation surgery as a result of cancer.
2024 her cardiologist and a therapist wrote letters approving of resuming HRT, and now she's getting on the calendar for surgery!
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Donica

That was a beautiful presentation Jessica. I'm still in tear as I write this. Your story is so very true and familiar to all of us. I'm so proud of girl. We are all so very proud of you.

Loving hugs Jessica!!!!
Donica.
Rebirth 06/09/2017. HRT 08/22/2017. RLE 07/14/2018. Name and Gender change 10/19/2018. FFS 09/06/2019. GCS 05/26/2021.
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jkredman

Jessica;

Thank you!

I know the anger.  I pray, for me, it fades soon.

Thank you for your inspiration.
Kate
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Arianna Valentine

Quote from: jkredman on October 21, 2018, 07:50:58 PM
Jessica;

Thank you!

I know the anger.  I pray, for me, it fades soon.

Thank you for your inspiration.
Kate
Kate it is completely normal for people to get angry and it's not the anger that you mostly need to worry about your reaction to the anger is what really matters I do hope that your anger subsides and just remember you have got a lot of family and we're all here for you if you ever need to talk

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Jessica_Rose

Quote from: jkredman on October 21, 2018, 07:50:58 PM
Jessica;

Thank you!

I know the anger.  I pray, for me, it fades soon.

Thank you for your inspiration.
Kate

Kate, my anger grew for decades, and I had no idea where it was coming from. My Dad also had quite a temper, so I just though it was a 'guy thing'. It wasn't until I finally put all of the pieces together, when I finally saw the whole picture of my life, that I realized where my anger had come from. Two years ago I would have laughed hysterically at anyone who suggested that I may have been transgender. Once I discovered the source of my anger, I made the decision to transition within minutes. Although I will always be haunted by memories of my anger and rage, the desire to lash out has faded away. I still get mad at times, but now I talk it out instead of letting it simmer for days or weeks at a time. The rage, the darkness, serves no useful purpose. Just let it go.

There will be good days and bad, but it will get better. Have faith in yourself.
Journal thread - Jessica's Rose Garden
National Coming Out Day video - Coming Out
GCS - GCS and BA w/Dr. Ley
GCS II - GCS II and FFS w/Dr. Ley
FFS II - Jaw and chin surgery w/Dr. Ley
Hair - Hair Restoration
23Mar2017 - HRT / 16Feb2018 - Full Time! / 21Feb2019 - GCS / 26July2019 - GCS II / 13Oct2020 - FFS II
"It is never too late to be what you might have been." - George Eliot
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Arianna Valentine

Quote from: Jessica_Rose on October 21, 2018, 08:18:38 PM
Kate, my anger grew for decades, and I had no idea where it was coming from. My Dad also had quite a temper, so I just though it was a 'guy thing'. It wasn't until I finally put all of the pieces together, when I finally saw the whole picture of my life, that I realized where my anger had come from. Two years ago I would have laughed hysterically at anyone who suggested that I may have been transgender. Once I discovered the source of my anger, I made the decision to transition within minutes. Although I will always be haunted by memories of my anger and rage, the desire to lash out has faded away. I still get mad at times, but now I talk it out instead of letting it simmer for days or weeks at a time. The rage, the darkness, serves no useful purpose. Just let it go.

There will be good days and bad, but it will get better. Have faith in yourself.
You sound a lot like me as far as our decision to transition being made within minutes but I have always had a lot of anger myself and I think even worse than that is putting on a fake smile because you're not happy with who you are my anxiety would get so bad that the thought of going outside in public as the gender I was not supposed to be it would make me throw up just the thought of being in public would make me throw up but once I came out started dressing right the smile isn't fake no more the anger is still real but I think we all deal with that while I'm hormones

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