Hair: for the girls

[mickiejr1815]

ok, ladies, i have longer hair now and am doing my damnedest to learn how to do it myself. i have learned to do a couple of hairstyles and i have had a lovely wife who has been trying very patiently to teach me how to different ones and more feminine. she is trying her best to teach me how to curl my hair as well, you know without burning the hell out of my scalp..lol. i would like to know, who had mothers, sisters, cousins, girlfriends, or if you just somehow knew how to do your hair yourself?

thanks for your replies!!!

Mickie

[Keira]

The key to a feminine style is in the cut.
If your cut is crap, you won't get anywhere.
Never go against your hair texture for your usual style
or you'll slowly destroy your hair with heat.
You can sometimes curl them if they don't curl, but don't do it every day.
Also depends on face shape. If you've got a strong jaw, you hair should not finish there.
Long Layers and razoring along the face can soften and feminize your face.
If your hair has a bit of texture (not totally flat), some curly mouse can accentuate
those slight curves and create a wave which is very sexy, especially along the face. To
accentuate it even more, buy a diffuser (but only if your hair does have this slight texture,
if not, its useless). This with the curling mouse or gel, with create more defined waves or slighgt
long curls depending on your hair texture.

[Lyric]

Hey! I'm not a stylist, but I'm a longtime hair-o-holic, having worn mine in countless new styles over the last 3 decades (not to mention my sizable wig collection). Keira's very right about getting the right cut for you-- although there may be several good possibilities (it's nice to have options). I'd really suggest going light on the heat gadgets, which really take their toll on hair. The best advise is to go to a good stylist and discuss the kind of looks you like. It sounds like you would like to start out with an easy low-maintenance cut of some kind. You might try something with layering or an easy brush-under style. Many such cuts can look great with little styling work. Conditioning is easily the second most important factor in having good long hair. My hair is fine and when I had it really long, I used to condition 3 ways: conditioning shampoo + after shampoo conditioner + spray on, leave-in conditioner. And that's not including the monthly deep conditioning.

My best luck with setting has always been to wait 15-30 minutes after washing, then set it (loosely as possible!) with plastic or mesh rollers. Rather than using heat, I've always tried to let it air dry. If I use a blower, I set it at the warm setting and just use it in several brief shots.

Wigs are fun, but it's super hard to get fit with one that looks pretty real.

One thing I can say for sure. Nothing gets you "ma-ham"-ed like really great-looking feminine hair.

Good luck and have fun with it.

[Valentina]

It depends...
Short hair can look really cute if you have the right face but you won't be able to style it as much.

If you are worried that you won't like your hair short, load a piccie onto cosmogirl.com and check out different hairstyles. You should also ask your experienced hair dresser what he or she thinks.

Good luck, and if it ends up looking truly bad, you can always get extentions.  Whatever you do, wigs should be avoided because they don't look natural and peeps can always tell it's wig.

[NicholeW.]

It depends...
Short hair can look really cute if you have the right face but you won't be able to style it as much.

If you are worried that you won't like your hair short, load a piccie onto cosmogirl.com and check out different hairstyles. You should also ask your experienced hair dresser what he or she thinks.

Good luck, and if it ends up looking truly bad, you can always get extentions.  Whatever you do, wigs should be avoided because they don't look natural and peeps can always tell it's wig.

well what do you do when you *dont* have the blessing of natural hair?  lock yourself inside?

Full scalp implants from... ummm, well ...

or the Persis Khambata, Carolyn McIntyre, Sinead O'Connor, Demi Moore look?

[NicholeW.]

I have friends that wear dentures.  Should they go around without any teeth?

Now that was cute, Renate. Nice sense of humor.

[cindybc]

Not if their planning on going out for a steak super

Cindy

[tinkerbell]

Full scalp implants from... ummm, well ...

or the Persis Khambata, Carolyn McIntyre, Sinead O'Connor, Demi Moore look?

Better yet....what about full head transplants?  >

tink

[NicholeW.]

Full scalp implants from... ummm, well ...

or the Persis Khambata, Carolyn McIntyre, Sinead O'Connor, Demi Moore look?   

N~

Better yet....what about full head transplants?  >

tink

I was thinking that, but decided it was too inflammatory!!!

N~

[Rachael]

i learned myself. mostly trial and error, and some advice from my stylist ^_^
R >

[Lyric]

Sometimes I think I could use a full head transplant-- brain and all!

I think some of you are missing a point, here. Sure, it's really hard to find, fit and care for a really convincing wig (not to mention expensive), but in my experience and observation, it's not absolutely necessary. Many folks pull of very cool looks with not so realistic wigs. Rarely do I thumb a copy of one of the fat fashion mags without spotting a model or 2 wearing a cool black page wig or a zany hairpiece. As long as the wig looks really good and, particularly, if it adds a touch of the exotic to your appearance most women (i.e. us) can pull it off. Instead of trying to duplicate a "normal" look and fail, I think the trick to wearing wigs-- and the trick to being a male wearing women's clothing-- is to always follow those 2 rules: have a really good overall style and go for a touch of the exotic. Make your wig part of an stylish effect rather than an inferior deception.

Lyric

[Rachael]

whos deciving?
and whos a male wearing womens clothes?

R

[Keira]

There are plenty of wigs that look so natural that they are not spotable.
My aunt is in continuous chemo and I bet its impossible for anybody to tell she wears
a wig. Women with complete allopecia and cancer treated women wear good quality
wigs that have been cut especially for their face. A wig when you buy it, has way more
hair than most women can possibly have to allow such adjustment and layering to be done.
Almost nobody has so much hair so if you do, its stick out.

Hair with little volume also stick out more than those that have a bit of fluff. But,
to keep this fluff, you need to take good care of them.

I find that many TS go for wigs that haven't been trimmed and not of good quality
because they don't have the money, or they bought it online cheap to try things out.
Much better to go into a real wig place and try the wigs with a professional to help.
There are many T friendly wig stores (most wig stores are in fact) and they'll give you
very good unspotable results if your ready to spend the right amount of money.
Even 100% synthetics can be good, it depends on the style though its more hit and miss than
natural hair.