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Started by Danielle Kristina, November 07, 2018, 06:59:21 PM

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Danielle Kristina

Hey everyone,

Something I have wondered is how the trans community considers being transgender a gift or a curse.  Sure, it has some positive points and some hardships, but ultimately are we blessed to be trans or are we forced to live with an inescapable gender tribulation?

I'm sure answers will vary, but I'm interested to see the results!


Danielle


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Northern Star Girl

Quote from: Danielle Kristina on November 07, 2018, 06:59:21 PM
Hey everyone,

Something I have wondered is how the trans community considers being transgender a gift or a curse.  Sure, it has some positive points and some hardships, but ultimately are we blessed to be trans or are we forced to live with an inescapable gender tribulation?

I'm sure answers will vary, but I'm interested to see the results!

Danielle

@Danielle Kristina
Dear Danielle:

To determine my answer to your question, all you have to do is to go to my "Hunted Prey" thread... it should then be obvious about how I feel about the subject!!!

I am most interested as you why you asked the question in the first place. 
If you wish you can answer here ...or you can send me a private message and I will keep it confidential.

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Danielle Kristina

Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on November 07, 2018, 07:05:12 PM
@Danielle Kristina
Dear Danielle:

To determine my answer to your question, all you have to do is to go to my "Hunted Prey" thread... it should then be obvious about how I feel about the subject!!!

I am most interested as you why you asked the question in the first place. 
If you wish you can answer here ...or you can send me a private message and I will keep it confidential.

Hugs,
Danielle
(the Alaskan one)

I was just curious and wanted to get the perspectives of those within the trans community.  For me, I neither consider it a blessing or a curse - it just is the way it is; I'm transgender whether I like it or not and I'm ok with it.  However, others who are further along in their journeys to self than myself might see things differently, or perhaps those who have not spent as long as I have discovering themselves as I have may also have a different take on things.  There could also be hidden advantages to being transgender and also some difficulties that perhaps I haven't encountered or considered yet.  Like I said, I wanted to get other perspectives on this.
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Chloe

Gift! Sometimes I think it's so-called normal, 'cis people' who are accursed  ;D

". . . be not afraid of them, nor be afraid of their words, though briers and thorns are with you and you sit on scorpions.2 Be not afraid of their words, nor be dismayed at their looks, for they are the rebellious house."
"But it's no use now," thought poor Alice, "to pretend be two people!
"Why, there's hardly enough of me left to make one respectable person!"
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krobinson103

Gift! Makes my life so much richer. Wouldn't have it any other way.
Every day is a totally awesome day
Every day provides opportunities and challenges
Every challenge leads to an opportunity
Every fear faced leads to one more strength
Every strength leads to greater success
Success leads to self esteem
Self Esteem leads to happiness.
Cherish every day.
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Alice (nym)

By the sounds of it, I think it depends if you are on the E or not.

At the moment I would consider it a curse. I don't think anyone truly wants to be trans. I think what we truly want is to have been born the sex that we wanted.

BUT, I can see as things progress that it might be a gift. I am meeting some wonderful people who I would never have known had it not been for being trans.

However, right now I am at low... ask me again in a few hours and I will give you a more positive answer - lol... the joys of being pre-HRT trans... might give you a clue as to why I feel it is a curse right now.
Don't hate the hate... Start spreading the love.
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Rayna

It's a gift, but you cut yourself to shreds trying to open it! Coming to terms, understanding it, relationship with SO...

But I agree that it has made my life richer and more "interesting" lol.

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Breeze 57

I find it to be quite the curse.  I'm paying substantial amounts of cash to transition (40K next week for FFS) and that's not even close to the biggest price I've paid.  The biggest price has been the break-up of my marriage, the loss of my daughter in my life, moving from my hometown to "protect" my family from my "shame".  And to top it all off, I continually question if this will "fix" the issue.  It's not like an objective medical issue, like a broken bone, which you can see and there is a well established course of treatment.  Sorry, I'm ranting.  Just put me down as saying it is a curse.
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Northern Star Girl

Without going into an elaborate philosophical explanation.... 
....for me it is definitely a gift, or more accurately, a blessing.
As I state on my profile below my Avatar  "I love living as a Female

... and all of this is quite evident in most of my postings especially on my "Hunted Prey" thread.

I am truly most appreciative of this "gift" of being a trans-woman. 
It is most certainly worth all of my time, sweat, tears and monies spent on my transition journey.

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Devlyn

It's been a gift to me, nothing but a positive learning experience. Perhaps that's because I was a late bloomer. I spent a lifetime learning to accept the ups and downs of life, then along came transgender.  :)

Hugs, Devlyn
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Sarah.VanDistel

Simply put:
A very painful curse before transition.
The most unique and wonderful gift afterwards. [emoji4]

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Sonja

Quote from: Alice (nym) on November 07, 2018, 08:53:17 PM
By the sounds of it, I think it depends if you are on the E or not.

At the moment I would consider it a curse. I don't think anyone truly wants to be trans. I think what we truly want is to have been born the sex that we wanted.

BUT, I can see as things progress that it might be a gift. I am meeting some wonderful people who I would never have known had it not been for being trans.

However, right now I am at low... ask me again in a few hours and I will give you a more positive answer - lol... the joys of being pre-HRT trans... might give you a clue as to why I feel it is a curse right now.
@Alice (nym)

HAHA - Oh Alice has it nailed!  I agree! LOL

PLUS - Its like Dolly Parton said "you want the rainbow you gotta put up with the rain" -- which is ironic given the rainbow is our symbol....

Sonja.
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Paige


Quote from: Alice (nym) on November 07, 2018, 08:53:17 PM
By the sounds of it, I think it depends if you are on the E or not.

At the moment I would consider it a curse. I don't think anyone truly wants to be trans. I think what we truly want is to have been born the sex that we wanted.

BUT, I can see as things progress that it might be a gift. I am meeting some wonderful people who I would never have known had it not been for being trans.

However, right now I am at low... ask me again in a few hours and I will give you a more positive answer - lol... the joys of being pre-HRT trans... might give you a clue as to why I feel it is a curse right now.

On low dose E for 3+ years now and still mainly in the closet.  I still view being transgender as mainly a curse.  So much of my life has been wasted thinking about transitioning.  I suspect I would view this as a gift if I find a way to accept myself and not fear how society views me.


Quote from: RandyL on November 07, 2018, 09:04:15 PM
It's a gift, but you cut yourself to shreds trying to open it! Coming to terms, understanding it, relationship with SO...
But I agree that it has made my life richer and more "interesting" lol.

Still trying to open this gift.  Right now I agree with your "cut yourself to shreds".  Hope it gets better.


Take care,
Paige :)
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barbie

In my case, I would rather call it a gift.

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KathyLauren

Is it a gift or a curse?  No, it isn't.  Either one.

Being trans is just something that is, like having blue eyes instead of brown eyes.  It isn't either good or bad, it just is.

Whether it is a gift or a curse depends on what you make of it.  I spent 60 years making it a curse.  I have only myself to blame for that.  When I changed direction, I made it become a gift.

I prefer to see it as a gift, but I recognize that that perception is of my own making.  I could choose the safe, fearful way or the risky, joyful way.  That's how life is.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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Devlyn

Quote from: KathyLauren on November 08, 2018, 10:34:01 AM
Is it a gift or a curse?  No, it isn't.  Either one.

Being trans is just something that is, like having blue eyes instead of brown eyes.  It isn't either good or bad, it just is.

Whether it is a gift or a curse depends on what you make of it.  I spent 60 years making it a curse.  I have only myself to blame for that.  When I changed direction, I made it become a gift.

I prefer to see it as a gift, but I recognize that that perception is of my own making.  I could choose the safe, fearful way or the risky, joyful way.  That's how life is.

I like that outlook.  :)

Hugs, Devlyn
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Angelic

Definitely a curse. However many cursed witches gain dark powers.

Being treated as a reject whos oppressed from society is definitely not a gift. Neither is inherently hating your own appearance, or having a brain that doesn't match what your body is.
Intolerables, everywhere...cannot escape them.
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Lacy

I am in the camp of seeing it as a curse. I have wished everyday since I became aware of the dysphoric feeling 25 years ago, that I would have been born in a body I feel comfortable with. One that matches my gender. The amount of pain this has caused myself and others through my life, I can't say that I am glad I was born this way.

I am grateful however, that since I have started down the road of transitioning, I have been met with more support than I expected. I find that I can still have a happy life, and become a much better person than I have ever been. I will be able to support others and hopefully bring enlightenment to people that are currently ignorant about all things trans.

So although it is a curse to me, I find it is something that has challenged me, made me stronger, more sympathetic to others and more eager to bring hope to others. It isn't something that has a hold on me anymore. I have accepted it and I own it! Looking back is not what I want to do. I plan to keep focusing on where I want to be and pursue that dream with as much character and integrity as possible!

Lacy
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AnneK

I don't see being trans as a gift or curse, but certainly the environment many of us grew up in was a curse.  When I first tried on my sister's tights, I thought there was something wrong with me and terrified someone would find out.  Given that back then it was considered a mental illness, I might have been forced into some sort of "treatment".  It took a long time for me to accept that I was trans.  Of course at first, I hadn't even heard that word for many years.  Now we have so many options available to us.  For example, as I mentioned in another thread, I asked my doctor to refer me for hormones.  There was no push back, no questions of why.  She just said she'd arrange it.  Until recently, that wouldn't have had that option.  I'd have had to talk to a psychiatrist at an institution that seemed to be more interested in putting up barriers, rather than help a trans patient.  Also, living in Canada, GCS is covered by our heath care.  All I'd have to do is get 2 evaluations, from a doctor, social worker, practical nurse, etc.. No longer any need for a psychiatrist.  So, it's the past that was a curse and the present situation that provides so much support for trans that's a "gift".
I'm a 65 year old male who has been thinking about SRS for many years.  I also was a  full cross dresser for a few years.  I wear a bra, pantyhose and nail polish daily because it just feels right.

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Tara P

Life would definitely be a lot simpler not being trans, so in that sense it's a curse.  Like many other trans people I feel like I wasted a lot of my life trying to deny what was really happening.  At the same time I'm so relieved to finally be doing something about it.  Not that I don't still have some really tough days, but at least now there is some hope even when things are bad.  I'm still very early in the whole transition process though, a couple laser treatments, not even on HRT yet which I know can affect people's emotions too.  I would have rather just been born with the right body but that's not an option so I TRY not to dwell on it too much.
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