Seeing a therapist today

[Chris39]

Sure hoping this goes well wished I would have went through with this 6 years ago had a therapist who was willing to help me with my transition but my wife developed brain cancer and I need to be focused on taking care of her she passed away dec 6 a year ago so I'm now going to try this again !!! Wish me luck ( I hope this want take forever ever to start hrt

[Northern Star Girl]

Sure hoping this goes well wished I would have went through with this 6 years ago had a therapist who was willing to help me with my transition but my wife developed brain cancer and I need to be focused on taking care of her she passed away dec 6 a year ago so I'm now going to try this again !!! Wish me luck ( I hope this want take forever ever to start hrt

@Chris39
Dear Chris:
I am wishing you well with your upcoming therapy and your transition plans.  Please, as you feel comfortable doing, please continue to keep us all informed regarding this.
As you should be quite aware, Susan's Place and the Forums is a great resource for information that relates to your transition journey plans.   

As you continue posting and sharing, other members will be able to relate their personal stories that may be helpful to you, and that is a 2-way street because you can also be a big help to others by sharing your thoughts with all of us.

Thank you for your posting and I am wishing you well.
Hugs,
Danielle

[Chris39]

I'm here I feel so sick to my stomach 🤢🤢

[ChrissyRyan]

I'm here I feel so sick to my stomach 🤢🤢

Chris,

I am wishing the best for you.

Chrissy

[Chris39]

OMG!!!!!!!that was the most releveing. Experience I have ever had

[ChrissyRyan]

OMG!!!!!!!that was the most releveing. Experience I have ever had

It seems that your therapy session went well Chris.   Great!   

Chrissy

[Northern Star Girl]

OMG!!!!!!!that was the most releveing. Experience I have ever had

@Chris39
Do I understand correctly that things went better than you expected at the meeting today with your therapist?
How are you now planning to go forward in your transition journey?

Please keep us all updated, but only if you feel comfortable doing so.

Wishing you well,
Danielle

[DawnOday]

It's a wonderful feeling when the therapist confirms everything you have thought throughout your life. When Kristy gave me affirmation it was like someone opened the curtains and let the light in. Good for you. Now it is up to you to follow through.

[dee82]

OMG!!!!!!!that was the most releveing. Experience I have ever had

Good to know. With December 6 coming up, please be extra kind to yourself.

~Dee.

[Northern Star Girl]

Good to know. With December 6 coming up, please be extra kind to yourself.

~Dee.

@dee82
Dear Dee:
Exactly what I was thinking as well. 
Many thanks for sharing your kind thoughts.
Danielle


@Chris39
Dear Chris:
Yes indeed, be very kind to yourself when December 6th arrives.   
I sympathize with your situation.

Giving you extra big HUGS...
Wishing you well,
Danielle

[Chris39]

Yes it did she was so easy to talk to and told me that if I wanted to start hrt that the had a dr that came to chattanooga 3times a month an after 3 visits she would write me a letter so I could start my journey !!! Very scary though to think it is really in front of me ,wow!!!!!

[Chris39]

Thank you all so much it is hard right now Especially with thanksgiving and Christmas without Karen her here for the first time in 26 years I so wished she was her because she also would be happy for me , I miss her so so much

[Chris39]

It's amazing how much of a burden that has been lifted I feel after taking to her yesterday like I can say it and tell anyone!!!! Wit that being said I know that it's not to smart to think that it's all easy now but can't really get over her assurance that I am ok I can be the woman I want to be inside an OUT !!!!!!!!!!😊🤪🤪

[ChrissyRyan]

Chris,

I am so happy for you. 
Have a wonderful week!   

Chrissy

[Chris39]

Wow!!!! I didn't think it would be this mind blowing !! With the therapist telling me that she would help me get started with hrt an now really having to assure myself that it's the right thing to do knowing all the effects it will have  on the ones I love , very depressing sacrifices or sacrifice which one me or them ??

[Northern Star Girl]

Wow!!!! I didn't think it would be this mind blowing !! With the therapist telling me that she would help me get started with hrt an now really having to assure myself that it's the right thing to do knowing all the effects it will have  on the ones I love , very depressing sacrifices or sacrifice which one me or them ??

@Chris39
Dear Chris:
Your good experience with your therapist exactly illustrates why anyone that is thinking about transtioning should sit down with a therapist.
It is important to go over all the ramifications and the affect of that on our loved ones, friends and co-workers... of a life changing decision such as transistioning.

Thank you for your followup good report.
Best Wishes to You,  I will be looking for more postings from you in the future.
Danielle

[Kendra]

Transition isn't the right answer for everyone, but for those of us where it is - I don't see the decision as what to sacrifice.  If someone has a problem with my medical condition and decision, what has been sacrificed?  Are they the ones dealing with prescriptions, frequent blood tests, learning a new language, mannerisms, potential surgery and recovery, changing a bunch of legal  documents and on and on.  Exactly how does this inconvenience them?  If a "friend" is uncomfortable with who I really am, well now I know I didn't sacrifice a friend and they were just an acquaintance.  If a family member reacts negatively, then I'll know their love was conditional all along and they value my existence less than their perceived social status (the chilling "what will the neighbors think" argument - think about what that really means).  In either case I don't think anything has been sacrificed.  Sometimes the truth hurts but it's worth it.

You should make the best decision for your future.  You own it.

[Northern Star Girl]

Transition isn't the right answer for everyone, but for those of us where it is - I don't see the decision as what to sacrifice.  If someone has a problem with my medical condition and decision, what has been sacrificed?  Are they the ones dealing with prescriptions, frequent blood tests, learning a new language, mannerisms, potential surgery and recovery, changing a bunch of legal  documents and on and on.  Exactly how does this inconvenience them?  If a "friend" is uncomfortable with who I really am, well now I know I didn't sacrifice a friend and they were just an acquaintance.  If a family member reacts negatively, then I'll know their love was conditional all along and they value my existence less than their perceived social status (the chilling "what will the neighbors think" argument - think about what that really means).  In either case I don't think anything has been sacrificed.  Sometimes the truth hurts but it's worth it.

You should make the best decision for your future.  You own it.

@Kendra
Dear Kendra:
VERY WELL STATED....   
I find it difficult to add any thing more to your terrific treatise about transitioning.

With your permission, in some of my conversations, I just may "borrow" some of what you said.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts from high up in the sky during your air travel today.

Hugs,
Danielle

[MikeP]

It is great to hear from others about the positive in seeking help.  My fears have been dispplaced each visit.  I now have relationship with many individuals I would never thought I would.  GREAT ADVICE !

I just wish I could look into the future.  I sure hope everything turns out better than expected. 

I must remind myself that what I am doing is NOT AN EVENT, IT IS A PROCESS



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[Kendra]

Lots of good thoughts here from all of us.  And yes, things I write here are fine to re-use as I invented nothing.  All I've done is reflect on my experiences so far and what I learned from other Susan's members who started before me.