Hi Angela!
Recently, Chipotle restaurants added an old song to their soundtrack: "Starry Eyes" by the Records. There is a line in there that goes, "We never asked for miracles but they were our concern."
I think of this because I owned two nice wigs before HRT. I started HRT with a four inch wide bald spot at the top of my head and I had gone back an inch on the left temple and three to four inches on the right side. I had no expectations. HRT gave me my hair back and I am 56 years old.
I also decided to just let my voice slide upward naturally and organically by abandoning all efforts to talk like a man from the chest, something that I had been making an effort to do since I was 20. Without a lot of effort I went from 130 Hz to 185 Hz.
Don't write yourself off if you have not even started HRT. I started with no expectations other than that the psychological effects of HRT would cure my high blood pressure and panic attacks. Even if I looked like "him" in a dress, it was worth it for me. But now, two years down the line, the girl in the mirror amazes me and I smile every time I see her.
Have a little faith and enjoy the journey.